Monica Houttuin LCSW / Relationship Counseling Services

12/11/2025

“Is It Too Late?” (Spoiler: No.)
So many couples walk into my office and whisper the same question:
“How did we get here… is it too late?”
The truth?
Most couples wait years before asking for help — and still heal, reconnect, and rebuild a shared future you both want.
If you’re feeling disconnected, stuck in the same argument on repeat, or like roommates…couples therapy can help.
It’s not about who’s to blame.
It’s about finding your way back to each other.
❤️ Read the full blog: Will Couples Therapy Save My Marriage? https://crcmo.com/will-couples-therapy-save-my-marriage-is-it-too-late/

12/04/2025

You’re trying. You’re showing up. You’re doing all the “right” things — but it still feels like something’s missing.
Here’s what I want you to know: it’s not your fault.
Most couples were never taught how to keep love strong once real life sets in. That spark that used to feel effortless? It can come back — with the right next steps.
In this video, I share what happens when relationships quietly drift into the “roommate” or “just-for-the-kids” zone, and what you can do before it gets there.
❤️ Watch now: https://youtu.be/YAbaXgxBhPg — and if this hits home, read my latest blog for the full story:
👉 “When Love Feels Hard (and Why It’s Not Your Fault)” : https://crcmo.com/struggling-to-stay-in-love/

11/27/2025

🧡 Happy Thanksgiving, friends! 🧡

Whether today looks like a perfectly set table…
or a chaotic pile of mismatched plates...

I hope you find a moment of connection, breath, and genuine gratitude.

Relationships aren’t perfect, but they’re the heart of days like this.

So take the extra hug, laugh at the awkward family stories, savor the carbs, and be gentle with yourself (and each other).

Wishing you a day filled with warmth, love, and maybe a little whipped cream on top.
🍂🦃💛

— Monica

11/27/2025

“Date nights aren’t fixing it.”
You’ve tried. You’ve planned. You’ve lit the candles. But somehow, the spark still isn’t there.
Here’s the thing — more effort doesn’t always equal more connection.
Because if the root of the disconnection isn’t being addressed, all those date nights just start to feel like work.
In my new blog, I share why trying harder isn’t the answer — and what the right next steps actually look like.
🔥 Read “When Love Feels Hard (and Why It’s Not Your Fault)” → https://crcmo.com/struggling-to-stay-in-love/

11/20/2025

Healing from infidelity isn’t quick or easy, but it is possible. 💔➡️💗 With patience, courage, and guided support, couples can repair trust and rebuild a stronger foundation.

11/19/2025

Sometimes it’s not that the love is gone — it’s that life got loud.
Between work, kids, and stress, even the best relationships can start to feel like a partnership in logistics instead of love.
Here’s the part no one tells you: it’s not your fault. You’re not broken. You just haven’t been taught how to reconnect in the middle of the chaos.
In my latest blog, I talk about why so many couples end up in the “roommate zone” — and what it actually takes to get the spark back.
❤️ Read the full post → https://crcmo.com/struggling-to-stay-in-love/

11/15/2025

Rebuilding intimacy after disconnection is possible—it starts with slowing down, listening deeply, and choosing closeness, even when it feels scary. 🌹

11/12/2025

You don’t have to settle for being “roommates with a shared calendar.”
You can get the spark back — even if it feels like it’s been gone for years.
Real love isn’t about constant effort; it’s about learning what actually works to rebuild closeness, trust, and desire.
In my latest blog, I’m breaking down why it’s not your fault things feel hard — and how to start turning things around today.
✨ Read the full blog → https://crcmo.com/struggling-to-stay-in-love/

11/08/2025

Think of intimacy like a muscle—if you don’t use it, it weakens. But with attention, curiosity, and a little playfulness, it grows strong again. 💪❤️

11/06/2025

"Do we stay or do we go?” After an affair, that question weighs heavy. Therapy gives you space to breathe, sort through the pain, and decide with clarity—not panic. You deserve that space. Let's talk.

11/05/2025

Here’s a secret: your partner can’t read your mind. 🧠➡️❤️ Clear, kind words go a lot further than hints or sighs. Want to feel closer? Say what you really need.
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11/01/2025