11/04/2025
1)Grapevine June 1977
Somebody Else
By: W. A. | North Weymouth, Massachusetts
Who is always there to keep things going?
YOU KNOW THEM. You see them every week at your group's meeting. You may even be one of them: the "regular members." They breeze into the hall at 8:26, grab coffee and a seat, listen attentively to the speakers, toss a quarter into the collection, say the Lord's Prayer, line up for more coffee and refreshments, stick around and chat happily with friends (even including you), and then go off homeward, satisfied they've done their part by staying sober.
Somebody else shows up early to put on the coffee. Somebody else sets up the chairs and puts out the literature. Somebody else positions ashtrays strategically. Somebody else greets people at the door. Somebody else passes the basket. Somebody else arranges and sets out refreshments. Somebody else sticks around afterward to pick up ashtrays and to help fold and stack the chairs. Somebody else sweeps the floor and locks up the hall.
Somebody else fulfills the group's speaking commitments. Somebody else has his name and phone number on file to take Twelfth Step calls. Somebody else is the group's secretary or treasurer or intergroup representative or general service representative.
The "regular member" may not drink. (Of course, he may. He just might make other mistakes, besides assuming that attending meetings is enough.) The regular member, not drinking, will consider himself (or herself) sober. And it would be hard to point out to the regular member that he is missing something in the program or to identify exactly what he is missing.
But if you're missing something in the program--if sobriety doesn't seem quite as rewarding for you as it does for somebody else--if you sometimes find yourself wishing you were somebody else--try being somebody else. It works! https://www.aagrapevine.org/magazine/1977/jun/somebody-else
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