Beloved Coaching

Beloved Coaching Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach My name is Jess DeVries and I am a Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach trained in the Somatica® Method.

I partner with individuals interested in deepening their level of connection in interpersonal relationships, expanding their erotic know-how and having a greater self-understanding of their body, their needs and their desires. My heart's work is to meet people where they are and help them become as sexually fulfilled as they want to be. I specialize in working with folks who grew up in the Christian church and are seeking to undo early religious messaging around sex and sexuality. Work is done in one-on-one sessions at my office in Portland, OR, via Skype or over the phone. While not a comprehensive list, the following gives you an idea of what is possible within a session. Areas I can help you explore are:

*Learning more about your personal turn-ons, why they turn you on and how to incorporate your turn-ons into your sex life regularly.

*Boundaries: how to notice your own, how to hold them and how to honor the boundaries of others.

*Asking for what you want.

*Healing early emotional wounds through inner child work.

*Different types of touch and how to touch your partner(s) in ways that are pleasing to both of you.

*Exploring romance, passion and/or dominance in your relationship(s)

*Struggles and issues within your relationship with your partner(s) or with sex in general and how to address those issues.

*Insecure attachment and building more secure attachment. If you are interested in a session give me a call. I look forward to working with you.

One year ago and I got married. In the snow with a few beloved witnesses. It’s been a firecracker of a year and I am sh...
02/14/2026

One year ago and I got married. In the snow with a few beloved witnesses. It’s been a firecracker of a year and I am shocked to have been married for a year even though it feels like it’s been 10.

Yesterday, on the last day before our first anniversary (the paper anniversary) we took an early morning trip to the ER that turned into a 12 hour adventure of diagnosing my love’s severe abdominal pain. In sickness and in health took on very literal meaning.

We learned about ovarian torsion and the intensity of that pain, and while the wait times were very long the nurse and ultrasound tech and gynecologist were excellent in patient care. I feel relieved that we are home with a bevy of witches and energy workers tending this o***y, caring for our kiddo, and being a part of our magic web of care. Grateful grateful grateful.

In the way we navigate intensity and hard things with silliness and love, here’s a photo from yesterday, once the pain had been managed, with our jaunty paper hats… which were repurposed (unused) vomit bowls. Celebrating in unexpected ways.

To my love, angel buns, Mrs. Babe… I love making ways through this life with you. In the silliness and sickness and s*xiness and softness — I love you I love you I love you.

02/05/2026

Captured a short moment from Mindful Erotic Grief tonight. All our magic weaves together, tighter, stronger to dismantle and abolish.

This song is called f**k 🧊

Song by Nioré

Being with our grief is part of how we keep showing up. How we honor what we have lost and our collective humanity. No n...
01/30/2026

Being with our grief is part of how we keep showing up.

How we honor what we have lost and our collective humanity.

No need to have it all together or to have the right words…or any words at all.

There is no wrong way to grieve. I promise.

But we do need to tend it.

Your grief is welcome here.

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Grief is embodied and pleasure is embodied.

You’re invited to a communal practice where we set our intentions on turning toward our individual mourning, welcoming erotic knowing, and holding space for one another's grief.

Using the wisdom of our pleasure we can open up pathways for our grief to shift and move. And witnessing the grief of one another - in intentional space - creates a sacred balm to metabolize the pain of our collective losses.

What to Expect:

We will begin with a welcome and opening of our time together. You are invited to have your camera on or off, whatever is comfortable for you. I will guide folks into a meditation that will touch on grief. We will have time to share (or not) what we noticed about our grief before going into a time of mindful erotic practice.

During the mindful erotic practice, cameras and mics will be off for everyone. There will be a ~40 minute playlist to support the experience. It is a self guided time to tune into what your body needs with regard to metabolizing your grief. The guiding force is pleasure and following your own yes and no. There is no right or wrong way to spend the time. We are simply setting aside time to tend to our grief within the container of community.

Once the mindful erotic practice is over we will come back together with cameras on (or off) and you have the opportunity to share (or not) and witness the reflections of others.

Details:

Open to adults 18+ of all genders.

Location: Zoom Room with captions

Suggested Donation: $5-$25 - No one turned away for lack of funds.

Register in the link in bio. ❤️

GrieveTogether

Hi! On this clear cold January day. 💖Sh*t’s hard and terrifying and complicated. It’s also laced with laughter and love ...
01/21/2026

Hi! On this clear cold January day. 💖

Sh*t’s hard and terrifying and complicated.

It’s also laced with laughter and love and hope.

I wanted to let you know I’m glad you’re here.

Tonight! There is so much that needs to be felt right now. However your grief is showing up, sadness, rage, numbness, un...
01/21/2026

Tonight!

There is so much that needs to be felt right now. However your grief is showing up, sadness, rage, numbness, uncertainty, depression… it is welcome here.

There is no wrong way to grieve. You can show up however you are.

I'd love to have you there.

Some words that were written by francesca ekwuyasi in Broadview Magazine that made their way through my scissors onto my...
01/15/2026

Some words that were written by francesca ekwuyasi in Broadview Magazine that made their way through my scissors onto my dreams for this year.

——
Listen, it's a compelling story. The world sometimes seems generally horrifying. There is a poem, a short meditation, called Good Bones by Maggie Smith that moves me to tears every time I read it because it rings so true:

Any decent realtor,
walking you through a real sh****le, chirps on
about good bones: This place could be beautiful,
right? You could make this place beautiful.
——

Loves who are fighting, resisting, singing, cooking, organizing, f**king, loving, protecting, grieving, dismantling, writing, observing, planting, dreaming, protesting, praying, holding, remembering. Making.

There are good bones.

We are good bones.

We are making -
We MAKE this place beautiful.

May we carry on. Together together together.

Amen and so mote it be.

One of the things that is hardest in grief is to feel seen and held in our losses. It becomes particularly hard to find ...
01/12/2026

One of the things that is hardest in grief is to feel seen and held in our losses.

It becomes particularly hard to find grief support when the relationship we had with the person we lost is outside what culture deems appropriate and valid to grieve.

When we are kinky and q***r and non-monogamous and experience the death of a partner, we often have to diminish parts of ourselves to be supported in our grief.

We don’t have to do that here. The feelings — complicated, heart wrenching, silly, unimaginable, pervy, are all welcome in this space.

If you are a q***r, non-monogamous, kinky widow*, you and your grief are welcome here.

We gather tomorrow, January 12th from 5-6:30 PST. Link to register is in the bio.

and I look forward to seeing you there!

*Widow is a term that may not feel like it fits your experience, but you are grieving the death of a partner, SW client/provider, comet, platonic love, kink playmate, or any other significant relationship under this umbrella, this is for you.

Feeling cute as this year changes over. Sending love to you through the ether. Thanks for being with me in this little c...
01/01/2026

Feeling cute as this year changes over.

Sending love to you through the ether.

Thanks for being with me in this little corner of the internet.

Hello 2026… we’re here to meet you with community care.

#2026

In the spirit of transparency, we want to share some of the motivations for delaying the launch of Get Free (which we ha...
12/30/2025

In the spirit of transparency, we want to share some of the motivations for delaying the launch of Get Free (which we had originally announced as going live this week as the calendar rolls over).

The tldr; it’s not ready.

We want to craft this with the utmost care and attunement with our own bodies- and the reality is- it didn’t happen on the timeline we had originally projected.

The month of December is always a lot. Especially if you are parenting young kids, living in a new place, managing disabilities, grief, or the economic distress that is plaguing more and more of us all the time. As a couple, we are juggling the bulk of these conditions on one side or another.

We have an elementary school aged kid who attends public school. Over the last few years we have watched the return to “normal” mean that precautionary structures in the school and school culture have slipped away to almost nothing. Our kid is one of only a couple people left wearing a mask on the regular in her crowded urban school. She has requested to opt out of attending when she has noticed the seriousness or quantity of sick classmates has pushed her limit. And as parents who are trying to raise a kid who can listen to her body to help her make safe choices, we will generally oblige her staying home when the alternative feels unsafe. And yet, despite her masking and her autonomy to opt out, she gets sick. She had asthma and life threatening allergies as a baby and even though she technically no longer meets diagnostic criteria for either anymore, she has a compromised system. When she gets a cold it takes weeks to shake it. So. Here, today, the 28th of December marks the end of 4 weeks since she last attended school. There is still one more week of holidays to go, and we are all anxious thinking about if/when she returns how long it may be for, before we return to a quarantine; whether to isolate an illness within us, to isolate from illnesses around us that others are not isolating or that maybe, another large scale pandemic may see institutions like schools close again as they did when she was first in pre-school and spring break just never ended.

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Our next q***r, non-monogamous, kinky widows grief circle is on January 12th! Polyamourous/non-monogamous experience doe...
12/28/2025

Our next q***r, non-monogamous, kinky widows grief circle is on January 12th!

Polyamourous/non-monogamous experience doesn’t always fit within traditional bereavement spaces. The additional layers of q***rness, transness, kink dynamics, etc all add to the sense of isolation when attempting to access peer spaces for widows. Maybe that word is not even quite right for you, terminology is often deep in the het-norm of it all, and this space is created from a sense of needing to have something that is as q***red and expansive as the relationships that we live and die in.

This grief circle centers the grief of partner death loss, whatever partner means to you. D/S dynamics, comets, spouses, f**k buddies, play partners, situations where your relationship was unknown to their family/community, s*x work clients/providers, etc.

If you are q***r, non-monogamous, and kinky, grieving the death of a partner, this space is for you.

*LGBTQIA2+ Space
*18+
*No prior grief circle experience is required.
*Drop in sessions. Come when you can, as you can.
*Participation is by choice. You will never be required to share.
*No sharing advice unless explicitly asked for.
*No homework/worksheets, but grief tending suggestions and resources will be sent to the group after.

Register in the bio.

We would love to have you there! -Monogamy

Our next Cozy & Cautious Grief Circle is this coming Wednesday, January 7th. This is a space for C*vid cautious folks to...
12/28/2025

Our next Cozy & Cautious Grief Circle is this coming Wednesday, January 7th.

This is a space for C*vid cautious folks to gather virtually and tend the various griefs that we have experienced since March 2020 and the specific grief of watching the world go back to “normal” when the pandemic is still very much here. With so much isolation in the last 5 years we are excited to gather and tend grief together, to know that we are not alone and that we are held in community.

We will begin with some somatic exercises to open and ground into the space.
Depending on numbers we may go into breakout rooms, or stay in one room together.
There will be time for each person to share.
In the last 15 minutes we will come back together as a group to engage in a closing for our gathering.

Wednesday, January 7th
11:00pm - 12:30pm PST / 2:00pm-3:30pm EST / 8:00pm - 9:30pm GMT +1
Zoom Room with Captions

PLEASE RSVP via the link in my bio so that we can plan for numbers & accessibility needs.
We will send you the zoom link a couple of hours before we meet.

These grief gatherings are offered on a sliding scale basis, with a suggested donation of $5-$25 (USD), with no one turned away for lack of funds.

We also encourage those who are able to "pay it forward" and offer more.

Please send payment to Jess DeVries (**write Cozy Grief or Covid Grief in the note**):
PayPal.me/BelovedCoaching
or Venmo

We (ceciletesfels, brittaloved, and I) offer this circle the first Wednesday of every month, so we can have a regular time to gather and grieve. We send out an email inviting folks to RSVP for the upcoming session 7-10 days before that session. If you want to be notified by email of upcoming gatherings, please note that in the RSVP.

Register in the b i o

JANUARY DATES HAVE BEEN SCHEDULED! New Year… New Grief…. And all the old griefs too. Let’s be with them together. ------...
12/28/2025

JANUARY DATES HAVE BEEN SCHEDULED!

New Year… New Grief…. And all the old griefs too. Let’s be with them together.

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Grief is embodied and pleasure is embodied.

You’re invited to a communal practice where we set our intentions on turning toward our individual mourning, welcoming erotic knowing, and holding space for one another's grief.

Using the wisdom of our pleasure we can open up pathways for our grief to shift and move. And witnessing the grief of one another - in intentional space - creates a sacred balm to metabolize the pain of our collective losses.

What to Expect:

We will begin with a welcome and opening of our time together. You are invited to have your camera on or off, whatever is comfortable for you. I will guide folks into a meditation that will touch on grief. We will have time to share (or not) what we noticed about our grief before going into a time of mindful erotic practice.

During the mindful erotic practice, cameras and mics will be off for everyone. There will be a ~40 minute playlist to support the experience. It is a self guided time to tune into what your body needs with regard to metabolizing your grief. The guiding force is pleasure and following your own yes and no. There is no right or wrong way to spend the time. We are simply setting aside time to tend to our grief within the container of community.

Once the mindful erotic practice is over we will come back together with cameras on (or off) and you have the opportunity to share (or not) and witness the reflections of others.

Details:

Open to adults 18+ of all genders.

Location: Zoom Room with captions

Suggested Donation: $5-$25 - No one turned away for lack of funds.

Register in the link in bio. ❤️

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Thursday 11am - 8pm
Sunday 10am - 8pm

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Welcome to Beloved Coaching

My name is Jess DeVries and I am a Somatic S*x and Relationship Coach trained in the Somatica® Method. I partner with individuals interested in deepening their level of connection in interpersonal relationships, expanding their erotic know-how and having a greater self-understanding of their body, their needs and their desires. My heart's work is to meet people where they are and help them become as s*xually fulfilled as they want to be. I specialize in working with folks who grew up in the Christian church and are seeking to undo early religious messaging around s*x and s*xuality. Work is done in one-on-one sessions at my office in Portland, OR, via Skype or over the phone. While not a comprehensive list, the following gives you an idea of what is possible within a session. Areas I can help you explore are: *Learning more about your personal turn-ons, why they turn you on and how to incorporate your turn-ons into your s*x life regularly. *Boundaries: how to notice your own, how to hold them and how to honor the boundaries of others. *Asking for what you want. *Healing early emotional wounds through inner child work. *Different types of touch and how to touch your partner(s) in ways that are pleasing to both of you. *Exploring romance, passion and/or dominance in your relationship(s) *Struggles and issues within your relationship with your partner(s) or with s*x in general and how to address those issues. *Insecure attachment and building more secure attachment. If you are interested in a session give me a call. I look forward to working with you.