Vanessa Cardin LMFT #128077

02/05/2026

Confusing feeling special with being loved. It’s not wrong to want to feel special, but when feeling special becomes the stability, the anchor to being loved, it can be exhausting. A constant need for affirmation and approval. Feeling loved without doing or needing to be anything more than who you already are in this moment. 🧘🏻‍♀️

01/15/2026

In therapy, I discovered I was mistaking control for trust, but releasing the need for specific outcomes has given me a sense of empowerment!

01/07/2026

Small ways that help bring me back to center! What are some things that help you?

01/07/2026

New year same girl. You’ll still find me at a cute coffee shop in 2026 💅🏽
Happy New Year! Excited to continue helping people find their most authentic selves and dive deeper into understanding why they do what they do.

12/17/2025

Hi 👋🏻 I’ve got some new followers and a lot has changed since my last intro!
-I’m Vanessa Manes [Mah-Nez] (went back to my maiden name, some of you knew me as Cardin)
-Toast has a brother now! His name is Shadow- added another dog to my life 🐕🐶
-I moved out of Orange County and now I live in San Diego! Offering both telehealth and in person sessions.
-I switched to matcha instead of coffee…but still drink coffee.
-I still love Pilates
-Working on getting somatic certifications and learning more about working with the body. This has helped me in my own healing and I’m excited to start implementing this work with my clients.
-I still stop and smell the roses and I look for butterflies too.

Thank you for following my page! I hope to provide some personal and authentic content to help you along your healing journey. We are on the road together.

For more professional information check out my website! Link in bio 🙃

11/19/2025

Internal Family Systems Theory is a great way to look at the different parts of yourself and hold space between you the Self and the parts of you that are showing up. A great resource to learn more about parts work is the book- No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz

11/19/2025

A therapists confession: I’ve been feeling stuck & unmotivated lately. After moving to a new city it’s been hard to find momentum and belonging.
Working on realigning myself and setting new intentions and goals for next year 🧘🏻‍♀️✨

10/23/2025

The journey is healing, not being healed.

10/21/2025

Discovering the distinction between power over and power with was a pivotal moment in my therapy journey. Guiding clients to empower themselves and find security without relying on others' actions brings immense relief. It's freeing to know you can thrive without controlling others.✨🤍🌱

Thoughts?! 💭 👇🏼

10/10/2025

Lil reminder today 🤍🤍🤍

09/25/2025

09/25/2025

I've realized I often shift from being hyper independent to co-dependent in relationships. What's helped me is understanding that true healing happens together, but both partners need to care for themselves and each other. ✨✨