The Third Option International

The Third Option International The Third Option is an on-going skills based group program to build better marriages. Each of the fo Painful endurance or divorce?

Many of us manage our marriage as a series of choices between “His” desires and “Her “desires. We may choose either end of the balance line: either “Peace at any price” or “Letting it all hang out.” Why do we see only two options? Both options fail to bring us together, but instead tend to move us to extremes. Break through the clutter of past baggage and misunderstandings. Find the healthy middle

ground, a program called THIRD OPTION. Third Option is an on-going skills based group program that has been building healthy marriages since 1988. Each 14 session cycle covers a comprehensive set of tools useful for developing better understanding, sensitivity and trust while learning more effective speaking and listening skills. The Third Option means reconciliation. When couples are struggling they will say they have “tried everything” but what they usually mean is they have tried the same two extreme options over and over, never finding what works. (Example: they have stuffed their anger, or they have attacked with it. Neither will give them the marriages they want.) The Third Option combines skill-building workshops and sharing from mentor couples with a peer support group that is caring and accepting.

05/01/2026

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04/30/2026

Most people think a strong marriage is about the easy days.
The laughing, the flirting, the moments that just feel natural.

But that’s not what actually builds it.

It’s the days you’re tired.
The days you’re irritated.
The days it would honestly be easier to shut down, pull away, or keep score.

And instead… you don’t.

You lean in.
You soften.
You choose them anyway.

That’s the kind of love that lasts.
Not perfect. Not effortless.
Just two people who refuse to stop choosing each other.

Be honest…
do you believe love is a feeling, or a choice?

04/30/2026

Everybody has something to say about marriage.

Friends. Family. People online. People who’ve been married for 30 years… and people who couldn’t make it 3.

But not all advice carries the same weight.

Some people speak from experience.
Others speak from hurt.
Others speak from what they wish would’ve worked.

And if you’re not careful, you’ll let outside voices create confusion inside your home.

Your marriage doesn’t need more opinions.
It needs protection, intention, and two people who are committed to figuring it out together.

Be mindful who gets a voice in your relationship…
because not everyone speaking into it is helping it.

Be honest… do you filter who you take marriage advice from?

04/30/2026

🥹 In relationships, our too-fast life deprives us of the time we need with our loved ones. And in the time we do have with each other, we are often tired, irritable, and distracted. Interacting in these states can actually damage relationships, making things worse than not being together at all.

Read more ✨ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/openings/202604/slow-down-for-love

04/30/2026

Happy marriage tip of the day.

04/30/2026

Marriage isn’t meant to feel like a trade.

“I’ll do this for you if you do something for me” turns love into a quiet scoreboard… and eventually, someone always feels like they’re losing.

The strongest marriages I’ve seen aren’t built on keeping score. They’re built on two people choosing to give, serve, and show up… even when it’s not perfectly equal in the moment.

That doesn’t mean being walked on.
It means choosing a kind of love that builds your spouse instead of bargaining with them.

When both people live like that… everything changes.

Do you think marriage should be 50/50… or 100/100?

04/29/2026

What Every Wife Should Know About Her Husband...

1. Men crave respect as much as love. — For many husbands, feeling respected in their opinions, decisions, and efforts is just as vital as feeling loved.

2. Affirmation fuels them. — Men often thrive when their wife notices and appreciates what they do, whether it’s big or small. Compliments go a long way.

3. They want to feel wanted. — Men need to know their wife desires them, not just loves them. Affection, flirtation, and physical touch matter.

4. They’re not mind readers. — If you want him to know something, say it directly. Hints and silent tests usually backfire.

5. Their silence isn’t always withdrawal. — Sometimes he’s processing, cooling down, or simply recharging. Silence can mean “I’m thinking,” not “I don’t care.”

6. Physical intimacy is emotional intimacy for them. — For many men, a strong physical connection makes it easier to open up emotionally.

7. Encouragement unlocks their best. — When a man knows his wife believes in him, he will often rise to meet that belief.

8. They value being your hero. — It’s not about ego, it’s about wanting to protect, provide, and matter deeply to you.

- Danny Delgado

04/29/2026


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