Sankofa Counseling - Amanda M Wyatt, LLC

03/12/2026

03/12/2026

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Nurtured First

Being a parent to Aidan & Liam has been the best gift & honor of my life.

I am blessed to have been raised by a pretty amazing group of people that don’t only include my dad & grandma, but other amazing women as well who always made me feel special, loved, cared for and a part of their families.

Love is a verb, and kids spell love TIME.

Our children watch our tone & our faces when we speak. They internalize whether they are liked or disliked. They carry these messages with them throughout the course of their lives.

What do our children see & experience?

Do we tell them multiple times a day how much we love them, and show them this in our actions? Do they know how special they are?

Do we expect things from our children we wouldn’t expect from a fellow adult? Do we talk to them in a way we would talk with our best friend or fellow coworker when they struggle?

Do we meet our children with understanding, compassion & comfort when they are struggling?

I could go on and on.

I hope this post inspires you to think about how you show up in the lives of your kids.

03/10/2026

When a parent lashes out or withdraws—and never apologizes—the child is left with only one option: “It must be me. I must be the problem.”

And here’s the deeper reason why:

🔹Because the person in power didn’t take responsibility. Someone had to carry the blame, so the child picked it up.

🔹Because if I take responsibility, maybe I can control it. Maybe I can fix it. Maybe I can make sense of a scary world by taking ownership of it.

That’s how shame becomes twofold: I’m wrong, and if I change, maybe I’ll be safe. But that childhood survival strategy doesn’t disappear when we grow up.

🔹It shows up in the workplace, where we apologize for someone else’s temper.

🔹It shows up in relationships, where silence makes us wonder, “What did I do wrong?”

🔹It shows up in friendships, where we blame ourselves for distance we didn’t create.

Shame is what happens when real accountability is missing, and we try to take it on ourselves.

Healing begins when we can name this distortion for what it is—and slowly practice handing responsibility back.

Because safety doesn’t come from carrying the blame.

It comes from connection, repair, and learning that we never had to earn love by fixing what wasn’t ours.

03/09/2026

Love this post by Debbie Zeichner, LCSW-Parent Coach!!!!

https://www.facebook.com/share/1AhV29VpYE/?mibextid=wwXIfr

03/08/2026

🌺 Happy International Women’s Day 🌺

03/08/2026

So many are grieving right now.

Many are asking me in session how to show up for their loved ones with people grieving in their lives, especially bereaving parents who have lost children.

Here are some slides I have shared.