Tomiko Joy

04/29/2026

“When someone shows
you who they are, believe them
the first time.” Maya Angelou

04/29/2026

33 days ago… I went silent on FB.
Not because I had nothing to say—
but because I finally saw everything.
And once you see it…
you can’t go back.
This was my dinner last night.
Salmon.
I made it myself.
I sat with it.
And I ate it… alone.
On purpose.
No sharing.
No over-giving.
No extending myself past my own capacity.
Because I’ve spent a lifetime giving more than I’ve ever received.
And I'm not interested in living like that anymore.
I won’t.
If you know anything about salmon…
you know they swim upstream.
Against pressure.
Against force.
Against currents that are literally trying to take them out.
That’s where I’ve been.
Upstream.
And what I found there…
was truth.
Not everyone who looks supportive… is.
Not everyone who speaks light… carries it.
Some people know exactly how to wear it
without ever being it.
And that realization…
changes you.
So I changed.
I stopped explaining.
I stopped overextending.
I stopped giving access to people
who never honored what I was giving.
Because what I’ve walked through…
most people wouldn’t have survived.
And yet—
I’m still here.
Still standing.
Still protected.
Still rising.
Not broken.
Not bitter.
Clear.
The picture in the background…
that’s my mom and dad.
They’re gone—
but they’re still guiding me.
They raised me with their light ON.
They showed me how to turn mine on—on demand.
That’s why nothing took me out.
That’s why I’m still here.
That’s why my family is still here.
So if you’ve been wondering where I’ve been…
I’ve been choosing myself.
Without guilt.
Without explanation.
Without permission.
In this time of separation I learned that the only person I can really trust 100% is myself. Because that's true, I had proof that the only thing that really matters is my relationship with God and we are solid.
And moving forward—
not everyone gets a seat at my table.
Some journeys…
are meant to be walked
with God alone.

03/28/2026

I am taking a break, but will be back!

03/27/2026

Know what a YES feels like in your body.

A NO feels nothing like a YES.

A couple of years ago, I watched someone lying in bed go through severe shock.

The trauma response was real. Their body was shaking uncontrollably, almost seizure-like, but it wasn’t a seizure. It was primal shaking, the kind even animals can experience after severe trauma.

I checked respiration rate, oxygen levels, and blood pressure. The vitals were out of range. He was diaphoretic.

Different person. Different situation.
I had seen something similar before, and in that case it was an immediate emergency.
Being awake and aware at 2 a.m., I made the call: the emergency room was next.

But this time, the shaking was different.

I knew the emergency room was not the answer.

This person was clearly in shock. Dissociated. Out of body. Responsive, but on autopilot. Experiencing a threat that felt completely real.

FEAR:
False Evidence Appearing Real.

This was the FREEZE response.

I had only ever seen this 1x and it looked very different than this.

The person was clearly FROZEN, unable to make sense of what was happening.

When your brain believes the threat is real, your body responds as if it is real, even when no actual danger is present.

PLACEBO feels real and creates real physiological responses in the body.

Some people can trigger you back into places that once felt threatening. Those places can feel so real that your body begins to shut down.

Dissociation is a survival response.

A person can experience complete amnesia around what is happening. They may be moving, speaking, functioning with their eyes wide open, yet have no real awareness of what they are doing. Completely on autopilot. Moving like a puppet.

And in that state, a person is deeply vulnerable.

Know what NO feels like in your body.

What I just described really happened. And it could have been avoided.

Establish strong YESES and strong NOs. Practice them regularly, so when the moment comes, your body already knows the truth.

No means NO.
Stop means STOP.
Yes means YES.

Know the difference.
Practice daily.

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I salute my friends in the frontline of security, the military, and EMS.

I AM here at your service.
I understand the work you do.
I understand that you want relief from from all that you witness and what you touch with your hearts and hands.

You have trained so hard and witnessed so much.

Thank you for your service.

You are LOVED & APPRECIATED

Tomiko Joy | Health4Life

03/27/2026

03/26/2026

Repeat these daily with me for the next 10 days.

03/26/2026

Your static postures looking at screens is really hurting your body and your health.

Do you agree?

Long held postures out of normal alignment results in what we call creep (it deforms the connective tissues) and if held long enough can lead to tissue damage, even rupture of a disc.

If you love learning about your body and how it works, give me a YES.

Tomiko Joy | Health4Life

03/25/2026

If you don't like the view,
change it.

One way to change it is to start your day with these 4 pillars. Recite them when your eyes open first thing upon waking.

Go through each one with your eyes closed and image that you are seeing your future self.

Get really creative.
Make it fun. Be sure to laugh!
Make it tingle throughout your whole body!

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03/23/2026

Thank you.

WE GROW BETTER TOGETHER!

03/19/2026

People who want to see you win will help you win!

03/19/2026

Don't let your mistakes scare you from your next chance to get it right.