Christian Family Law Solutions

02/26/2026

Did we just become best friends? 😂 Excited to announce a new partnership with Waco Civic Theatre. Families that “play together,” stay together. Ok, that was a reach, but we do support families that go to and/or participate in theater. Here’s to an exciting lineup in 2026!

02/23/2026

God sent me on a mission to show a different way forward for the millions of family law litigants who are currently doing it wrong. I don’t speak on this issue with the passion of a man who stands above it; I speak with passion of a man who has lived through it. I am a divorced man, and I easily could have been divorced twice. Christ redeemed me and gave me purpose and peace—and He will do the same for you!

Come hear my testimony of what Christ did in my life, and what he can do in your life! Learn how family law cases can be handled differently. I’ll throw in a margarita and a taco for free, and you’ll get a chance to make great business connections within the Hispanic community.

02/17/2026

Have you ever wanted to know how a divorce or child custody case could cost $3,500 or less, or how you could save your children from the trauma caused by being involved in family law litigation? Come see us and we’ll explain with the folks from the Cen-Tex Hispanic Chamber of Commerce. We’ll throw in a free drink and chance to meet some new clients or business partners.

Join us Monday, February 23rd, from 5:30 to 7:30 at Casa de Castillo for a business after hours sponsored by Christian Family Law Solutions.

02/14/2026

“Contentment in and of itself is not complex. Contentment is simply reverence for the grace that is already present in our lives.” – Rolf Gates

In our experience, we have yet to mediate when a lack of contentment wasn't a central issue for one or both partners.

We have seen relationships ruined by drugs, alcohol, infidelity, anger, depression, and jealousy. However, each of these factors is typically a symptom rather than the cause. These emotional reactions and behaviors usually indicate that a person feels trapped in their discontentment or is seeking fulfillment outside of themselves and the relationship. Importantly, this is rarely caused by the relationship itself. Most often, it stems from an internal conflict within the individual.

During mediation, we work to identify the triggers for these feelings. Once identified, we disarm the trigger by recognizing it, analyzing it, and familiarizing ourselves with how it operates within us. This empowers the individual to make a conscious decision not to let that trigger dictate their emotions or behavior.

This process further helps clients realize that ending the relationship will not resolve their internal triggers. In fact, leaving may only add new, larger complications. Ultimately, it is often easier to change one’s reaction to a trigger than to change one’s relationship.

The next time you feel a trigger leading you toward discontentment, try focusing on the grace God has already provided. Your partner can never be "enough" to grant you total contentment. However, you have enough, and you are enough. True contentment is available within you already because God IS, and always will be, enough.

02/14/2026

Have you ever wanted to know how a divorce or child custody case could cost $3,500 or less, or how you could save your children from the trauma caused by being involved in family law litigation? Come see us and we’ll explain. We’ll throw in some free lunch and chance to meet some new clients or business partners.

Save the date!
We look forward to seeing everyone on Tues. February 17!
This month's lunch is sponsored by Barrett Thomas with Christian Family Law Solutions.

02/12/2026

“We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.” James ‭3‬:‭2‬ ‭NIV‬

The greatest challenge we face in mediation, day in and day out, is communication—mere words. Sure, we have an occasional case where a spouse or parent becomes violent, or where addiction rears its ugly head. However, those are not the norm. In the majority of cases, the central problem is simply an inability to communicate kindly.

God is fully aware of our inability to control our tongues. Many passages of the Bible speak to this, but what is unique about this verse is the reminder that none of us are perfect in this regard. We will all say something we shouldn't at some point.

This is important because in mediation, the goal is not to find fault or blame. The goal is to find solutions through creativity and respectful communication. If God tells us that none of us are perfect, then we must all accept the need for grace. We are forced to see commonality in our mutual imperfection—which should incline us to offer the same grace we have received.

May I encourage you to take a deep breath and respond rather than react the next time your spouse speaks carelessly? When you hear a biting tone or an inconsiderate word, remember when you may have made the same mistake. Sometimes the best response is no verbal response at all, but it is never an equally aggressive retort.

Choose peace, not revenge.

02/09/2026

"Force is all-conquering, but its victories are short-lived." — Abraham Lincoln

When clients dig in, they force a judge to decide their future. While this approach may secure a temporary victory, the cost is high—not just in legal fees or lost privacy, but in future peace.

Court rulings create winners and losers. That loss breeds resentment, which fuels new lawsuits. In Texas, this often triggers a cycle of litigation that can repeat every year until your child becomes an adult.

Our process is different. We help our clients step outside the box and create agreeable solutions that work for the long term. Customization and built-in “springing provisions” in the orders we produce allow for changes without going back to mediation or court.

Drop the never-ending drama. Let’s build a peaceful future together for less than half the cost of traditional litigation.

02/07/2026

Our mission field is in mediations and courtrooms, but we won't win this war on one front. What can you do to help? Please take the time to watch this video to see how small acts can make profound impacts.

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02/06/2026

“I cannot be the man I should be without times of quietness.” – Charles Swindoll

The coffee pot was set wrong, and now coffee is everywhere. You’re late. Your children are late… and they don’t even seem to care. Why are they moving so slowly? Why is the dog outside unsupervised? Why is the shirt I planned to wear still in the hamper? Ahhh!

Have you had days like this? Have you had them back-to-back? Perhaps you feel as if you’ve had weeks or months like this. Do you feel your spouse adding to the stress by ignoring you—or worse, blaming you for the chaos?

We all get there. Even Jesus got there. We see rest mentioned from the end of the creation story to the day before the crucifixion. If Jesus knew there was a time to step away, think, and pray, who are we to pretend we can do without?

We approach mediation differently because humans simply aren’t meant to remain in heightened states of stress and anxiety for long periods. Eventually, we break down. Our comprehension slows, our decision-making falters, and our desire to cooperate diminishes. We are remarkably resilient if we rest between these spikes of stress. But go a few days without a break and we snap!

So let us ask, do you need respite now? Can you address your problems effectively feeling the way you do right now? Can you be the spouse or parent you want to be in this state? If not, stop. Ask for help. Find a way to breathe and recharge. There is a reason airlines tell you to secure your own mask before helping your child. You cannot help your spouse or your family if you can’t breathe.

02/04/2026

“We shape clay into a pot, but it is the emptiness inside that holds whatever we want.” – Lao Tzu

When they are gone after the weekend, the silence can be deafening. It is hard to concentrate on anything other than their absence. We kick ourselves for the part we played in creating the loneliness that sets in when they return to our ex’s house. Some of us cannot put the pictures of the old life away, because it somehow convinces us that maybe life isn’t truly the way it feels in that moment.
In these minutes, let us remember the following verse:

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” — Isaiah 43:18-19 (NIV)

Then, consider whether perhaps letting go would allow our souls to be empty enough for God to fill the void for now with His grace, peace, and love. Consider whether our children would benefit from the happier, calmer parent that would arrive with fully accepting His mercy and forgiveness.

Let it go. Let emptiness arrive and embrace it. It’s only when our cup is empty that God can refill it.

02/02/2026

In our mediations, we often ask, “Is the relationship broken, or is it on the verge of a breakthrough?”

Humans are not perfect, and they never will be. Expecting perfection from your spouse is an exercise in futility, and it is actually a reflection of your own imperfection, as it relies on flawed logic.

Instead of being angry when your spouse falls short of your expectations, try using your frustrations, disappointments, and even pain as a springboard for growth. Consider them opportunities for deeper understanding of their strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, motivations, and more.

They say practice makes perfect. Responding with this type of relational resolve allows a couple to practice being together. Like practicing the piano, at first it may sound bad, you will surely get frustrated, and you’ll want to give up at some point. Slowly though, you’ll learn new techniques, things that enhance the sound, and how one hand can best complement the other. Then, if you stick with it, one day you’ll suddenly realize you’re playing a masterpiece in perfect harmony with your partner. 🎶

02/01/2026

“So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” — Matthew 6:31-33 (NIV)

Fear is the enemy of peace, particularly in family law. Clients worry about living in a different home. They fear life without the things they think they “need.” They panic at the thought of their children attending a new school. We could continue listing common anxieties, but ultimately, what clients fear most is change itself.

Yet, in all our years in this field, we have never seen a client end up in the destitute state pictured above. Not one.
Certainly, clients often leave the process with fewer "things" than they had before. They often end up with roughly half of what they had when they started. After all, divorce divides; it does not add. However, even with less, their situation is rarely dire enough to justify the paralyzing fear they felt in the beginning.

Remembering that God knows your needs, loves you, and will provide for you can actively alleviate that fear. After all, if His eye is on the sparrow, how much more is He watching over you?

Furthermore, while there is truly a price for peace, it is almost never too steep. The mental health and stability of you and your children are worth far more than material assets.
As you begin navigating your family issue or case, we urge you to keep this verse in mind. We pray that you will remember to take a breath and surrender your anxiety to God. Ultimately, we hope you will be willing to pay the price for peace when He calls you to do so.