01/12/2026
The amount of first hand and second hand trauma we are carrying right now is heavy. And it’s taking a toll on all of us.
What we are witnessing is not just morally wrong. It is emotionally harmful. Spiritually exhausting. Physically dysregulating.
Watching unprovoked violence by those hired to protect and serve breaks trust. It increases fear. It heightens anxiety. And it pushes our bodies straight into fight or flight. Even when we try to keep going like everything is normal.
If you’re a leader, I want you to pause for a moment.
How are you supporting your team right now?
And just as important, how are you supporting yourself?
Here are 3 ways to be intentional as we are all impacted.
▶️Check in with yourself first.
Name what you’re feeling. Anger. Grief. Fear. Exhaustion. If you’re anything like me, there are a lot of emotions happening at once. Pay attention to how they’re showing up in your focus, your patience, and your energy. Then create space to check in with your team. Not to fix. Just to see them. What we don’t name shows up anyway.
▶️Increase self care on purpose.
When we experience complex trauma, our nervous system goes into overdrive. That means we need more regulation, not less. Meditation. Yoga. Box breathing. Movement. Stillness. For leaders, this may also look like bringing wellness sessions to your workplace that include psychoeducation and grounding practices. Caring for people is not a perk. It’s leadership.
▶️Reduce news and social media intake.
Staying informed does not mean staying flooded. The more we consume graphic content, the more our bodies absorb the trauma. Protect your nervous system. Take breaks. Choose when and how you engage.
This is not the time to be silent about what is hurting us. But it is the time to be human first.
We are supporting organizations that are people first and courageous enough to acknowledge the emotional impact of this moment.
Believe me when I say it is affecting everyone differently, whether they speak it out loud or not.
My heart goes out to the lives lost and the families grieving. May we lead with compassion, wisdom, and the courage to care for one another.