12/12/2025
Most couples don’t avoid “the past” because they don’t care.
They avoid it because they’re tired, scared, or think it will fade on its own.
But old hurts don’t disappear just because time passes (oh how we wish).
They show up in the same argument, said a little louder.
In the tension that comes out of seemingly nowhere.
In the moment you shut down even when you want to stay connected.
Healing past relationship wounds takes a little different approach. It’s about understanding what your nervous system learned, taking responsibility where it matters, and intentionally choosing each other again, just this time with more clarity and care.
In her latest blog, Kennedy Counseling Collective therapist Andie Hoffrichter breaks down what real healing looks like for couples. Not a quick fix. Not “moving on.” But a practical 4-step process that has helped couples in our practice finally move forward.
If you’ve ever wondered why the same patterns keep repeating or why certain moments still feel tender years later — this piece offers some real-world tips to healing.
Read the full blog here:
Romantic relationships hold a special kind of uniqueness. They can be the place where you feel the safest and most comfortable, yet can also make you feel deeply hurt and alone if conflict arises and goes unresolved. I see the remnants of these past hurts, the things that we thought were neatly tuck...