04/20/2026
You Don’t Have to Explain Your Rituals.
There was a time when grievers were told to ..
‘Let go’.
“Move on’
But now we know that keeping some kind of connection
Is a healthier way to grieve.
And not everyone will understand the ways you choose to do that.
Perhaps you keep something of theirs close to you…
I kept one of my husband’s fleecy sweaters. When I wear it feels like a warm hug from him.
Or perhaps you like to drive to a place that reminds you of them.
Or even, and I still do this 8 years later, talk to them.
These rituals are what help support you.
No one needs to know you still ask your loved one questions,
or tell them how your day has been.
But if it brings comfort to you,
Keep doing it.
We have to remember that until someone has experienced grief,
They really don’t know what it feels like.
So to others, some of these small rituals,
Can seem a little odd.
Don’t worry about what others think.
These rituals are your way of keeping connected to your loved one.
They might change over time,
Lessen, or even fall away,
But for now…
Think of them as a way you express your love.