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11/11/2025

Vermont was the 4th state to legalize same-sex marriage. In the spring of 2009, the state’s legislature voted to pass a law allowing marriage equality. The governor vetoed the bill and the legislature overrode his veto. The law went into effect in September 1, 2009.

This is was a main factor when we decided to get married in Vermont last month. The second was we really wanted a true fall wedding 🍁🍂

Yesterday, SCOTUS decided to reject Kim Davis’s petition, and it’s bittersweet that it happened on our 1 month wedding anniversary. This petition, and this administration, is why we were so thoughtful in when, where and how we got married.

For those who think “oh that won’t happen”, try thinking “I wonder when that could happen, what circumstances need to exist?” Every one of us is impacted by the decisions being made by policymakers whether you realize it or not - and many of them are hoping you’re not realizing it.

10/10/2025

apple spiced cake with caramel buttercream for a fall elopement in Killington, VT

4:30a wake up for a 2m round trip hike to say I do.

08/31/2025

Ok, so there’s a blog in my drafts that I was working on about the new Biggest Loser documentary. I took what I thought would be a quick break, and now it’s been over two weeks. Oops. I’m going to get back to that draft, but not yet. The past few weeks my brain has been feeling full because of the steamroll of more bad policy, attacks on healthcare, voter rights and honestly, attacks on humanity....

Ok, so there’s a blog in my drafts that I was working on about the new Biggest Loser documentary. I took what I thought would be a quick break, and now it’s been over two weeks. Oops. I’m going to …

08/10/2025

Here’s tonight’s ramble. We’re sitting in bed, winding down on our phones. I know that many will say that you shouldn’t wind down with your phone, but I’ve found that it helps distract me from some of the other things of the day. I also acknowledge the toxicity that comes with social media in the evening - you can bombard yourself with the bad all at once....

Here’s tonight’s ramble. We’re sitting in bed, winding down on our phones. I know that many will say that you shouldn’t wind down with your phone, but I’ve found that it helps distract me from some…

07/30/2025

My goal this week was to write a poem, and post it here. The heat reminds me the things you can’t see can suffocate you Like ego Like jealousy Like expectations Like fear Like cologne or perfume that was dumped on not spritzed Like stale air from a bad date that you should’ve said no to The first line just fell out of my mouth the other day....

My goal this week was to write a poem, and post it here. The heat reminds me the things you can’t see can suffocate you Like ego Like jealousy Like expectations Like fear Like cologne or perfume th…

07/27/2025

This blog post about the “One Big Beautiful Bill” from League of Women Voters of the US does a great job breaking down the impacts in a nonpatisan way.

Health is political - there are policies being created every day that dictate who and how and when.

This bill is more than just Medicaid. Its SNAP cuts, which will impact the near 13% of Americans receiving them (about 10% of South Carolinians receive benefits). It will impact Medicare, family planning, education. These impacts will also have a trickle effect.

If you’re still figuring out what the bill means, check out the post.

On July 4th, the President signed into law the One Big Beautiful Bill Act (OBBB), a nearly 1,000-page bill that changes federal spending levels by stripping tens of millions of our most vulnerable neighbors of their health care and nutrition. The OBBB slashes vital programs like Medicaid, Medicare,....

07/24/2025

I’ve been thinking all week about writing. Often in the most unhelpful places, like the car or the shower. I thought about making lists and why those help. I thought about poems, and I went back and listened to a few of my favorites that I’ve written and performed. My head feels full most of the time. I’ve described it like a filing cabinet where there is a primary file, and then it is cross reference with another file which might be cross-reference with another file....

I’ve been thinking all week about writing. Often in the most unhelpful places, like the car or the shower. I thought about making lists and why those help. I thought about poems, and I went back an…

07/15/2025

I started writing in high school. Mostly journaling. Always pages that were torn out and then thrown out because I was so scared they would be found. I started writing short stories in college. I still have the first chapter book that I wrote - and didn't finish. It has traveled four laptops and two external hard drives. I don't know if I'll ever complete it, but at a minimum I should go back and reread it....

I started writing in high school. Mostly journaling. Always pages that were torn out and then thrown out because I was so scared they would be found. I started writing short stories in college. I s…