Couples Compass

12/26/2021

Validation is not necessarily agreement. It means, seeing it from your partner's perspective, it makes sense to you. You can still have your own viewpoint.

Validating the feelings of others as a key to relationship success.

03/05/2021

In-To-Me-See

02/20/2021

The 15 books included below represent some of the best self-help books on the topic of marriage. There are general guides, guides for couples going through crisis, and communication-specific guides. Regardless of the underlying issue or issues for partners, many of the techniques to heal and grow ar...

02/14/2021

"In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make..." (The Beatles)
Happy Valentines Day!

02/08/2021

Good guidance to help couples navigate these troubled times. And Brene Brown gets deep and vulnerable like she is known to do, asking the questions we all have and getting the answers we all need. Take the time to listen.

Listen to this episode from Unlocking Us with Brené Brown on Spotify. Drs. Julie and John Gottman have taken more than 40 years of breakthrough research and written or co-written more than 40 books on marital stability, divorce prediction, and how science can help people have successful, loving rel...

01/25/2021

It's been a while since I wrote these tips and did the radio segment (which you can listen to on my website at www.ghoeglercounseling.com ). So here's a little reminder:

It has been said that men and women communicate so differently that they may actually be from different planets. Learning how our partner sees the world can help us learn to communicate more effectively and ultimately strengthen our relationship.

01/04/2021

This gives a very clear picture. Take a look for yourself, and your relationship.

Take a look at this photo.

11/22/2020

Watch relationship experts Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt demonstrate a dialog process for having safer, more productive conversations.

11/17/2020

Reimagine your life with Imago Relationships 💙🧡



imagorelationshipswork.com/about-imago

11/05/2020

Loving a drug addict or an active alcoholic is the hardest thing you will ever do. Watching someone you love, that has fought so hard to beat addiction, throw everything away and sink back into a life that will most likely lead to jail or death, is one of the hardest things you will ever do. All you wanted was to help them get back to a clean and sober life but you realize by doing this, as you have before, will now just be enabling them because it will show them that you will always be there to bail them out.
You want to grab and shake them and say "What are you doing?!?!" But, at some point you realize that it wouldn't make a difference.
So you sit back and watch the tragedy unfold, as if you are watching a movie.
Feeling helpless to stop it, feeling like you haven't done enough to help, even though you know only the addict can help themselves.
Battling a drug and/or an alcohol addiction is a beast for the person addicted and for the ones who love them. So l am asking you to stand with me in prayer for every family member and friend who has lost or is losing their battle with drugs and alcohol and for those who continue to conquer it!
*Put this on your page for one hour if you know someone who has or had an addiction.
Many will be hesitant to copy and paste this. Some of you won't paste this but I think I know the ones who will.
I thank you in advance.

10/10/2020

Taking care of the mind, the inner you, is just as important as the body. Have compassion for those with inner struggles, as well as for yourselves when the life in your head is troubled. In today's crazy world, I wish you peace of mind 🙏

09/15/2020

❤️ listen to understand
🧡 mirror so they feel heard
💛 validate that they make sense
💚 empathize for connection
💙
💜