11/03/2025
“It’s not impermanence that makes us suffer. What makes us suffer is wanting things to be permanent when they are not.” -Thich Nhat Hanh
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As a death doula and someone that has lost far too many close loved ones already, this is still something I struggle with greatly.
Knowing that things will always change can be easy on the surface. Usually, change happens gradually- like over time. But when everything shifts suddenly without much preparation, that’s when we can get stuck.
I often go back in my head to old times and memories because they were the best I had experienced. I would think.. If only I could go back there everything would be so much better.
But this type of longing pulls us from the present moment and prevents the opportunity to make meaningful moments NOW.
I have to remind myself that living too far in the past or future can cause more damage than good. This moment, too, matters.
And like this flowing water, the more we go against the current of our lives the harder it becomes.
How do you feel about impermanence? What parts of it do you struggle with?
