Lisa Greenstein Therapy

11/21/2025

When you’re packing the car to the brim with pack and plays and strollers to sit in traffic with a crying baby, or trying to cook while dealing with a semi- potty trained toddler who missed their nap and a mother- in-law making passive aggressive comments about the lumps in the potatoes, it’s easy to just want to get through the holidays. Hearing “you’ll miss these days” sounds trite and might make you want to role your eyes. But I challenge you to slow down, imagine yourself in the future with grown kids and less chaos- when there’s plenty of time to cook and hopefully they’ll drive themselves home. How will you feel looking back on now? There were times when the exams, the friend drama, the break ups, the uncertainty all seemed so hard, yet we’re still wistful for college and young adult life. And I bet you will be for these times too.

11/20/2025

Did you struggle with organization, deadlines, being on time, making decisions, dealing with unstructured time for as long as you can remember? Were you able to mask it or deal until you had kids? Did you ever wonder why it felt like so many others could handle what feels really overwhelming to you? When we we miss an ADHD diagnosis , we often end up treating only the secondary symptoms—anxiety, depression, burnout.
But the root struggles? Emotional dysregulation, overwhelm, and “why can’t I just get it together?”
These are tied to executive functioning, and when those skills are stretched thin, guilt and shame show up fast

High achieving women, who were likely high achieving girls, often without the hyperactivity component, are notoriously under diagnosed, and are more likely to figure it out later in life. Why now, in motherhood?
Because hormones shift (dopamine + estrogen work together), sleep disappears, and suddenly you’re managing a mountain of tasks that all require executive functioning.
Time blindness. Mental load. Needing routines to thrive in a season that’s anything but routine.

Knowing what’s actually going on doesn’t just give you context—
it softens the shame.
It challenges the stories of “everyone else can handle this but me” or “maybe I’m not cut out for motherhood.”

You are cut out for motherhood.
You just deserve the complete picture

11/18/2025

Guess what? The mental load is still there when the kids are older. And when I work with parents of school aged children, the themes of division of labor, juggling tasks, keeping track of multiple schedules, pivoting at the last minute, work life balance, and resentment over being the default parent all still come up. It’s not nap schedules, pumping, ordering diapers, and day care calling to pick them up, but it can still feel like you can’t shut your brain off, and easy to get consumed and put your needs last. So whatever stage of parenting you’re in, it’s always a good time to develop ways to balance, prioritize yourself, and have the important conversations when you’re feeling overwhelmed or unseen. Someone want to tell me what app is used for dance and cheer?

11/14/2025

No one can promise you won’t experience postpartum anxiety or depression this time around. And maybe having another baby isn’t what you want. But if it is,and you’re just so scared because of what you went through last time, this is for you.

I can promise this: having a plan and a strong care team makes all the difference.

If you struggled the first time, start therapy earlier.
Give yourself space to process what happened last time, and set up support now so you’re not searching for a therapist in the throes of postpartum.

If your experience was especially hard, get connected with a prescriber before you try to conceive again—or during pregnancy if you don’t already have one. This helps you plan for continuity of care and medication as delivery approaches.
Even if you’re not sure you’ll choose medication, having that relationship already in place makes it so much easier to start if you need to.
If there was trauma last time, processing it now can help make sure this pregnancy isn’t viewed through that old lens. Use your experience to ask your doctor the questions you wish you did last time, to advocate for what you know you want, and determine what you need to feel empowered
If you struggled physically postpartum, find a pelvic floor therapist to work with early- during pregnancy or even before to get you in the best place you can before birth, and in good hands after.
Learn from what you went through last time so you can make a plan for what you need in place this time.
If you follow me, you know I’m not a big fan of birth plans, but I love postpartum plans.

Who can you lean on?
Who can help—paid or unpaid—so you can actually get enough rest?
Who can handle groceries, meal prep, or caring for older kids?

What did you need from your partner last time that you didn’t get?
And how can you talk about it now so you’re both better equipped going in?

Did you love breastfeeding? Great- find a lactation consultant now in case you need her.
Or did it make your anxiety so much worse that you’re planning to bottle-feed this time?

You don’t need guarantees.
You need support, a plan, and a team that helps you feel grounded going in. This is power

11/14/2025

No one can promise you won’t experience postpartum anxiety or depression this time around. And maybe having another baby isn’t what you want. But if it is,and you’re just so scared because of what you want through last time, this is for you.

I can promise this: having a plan and a care team makes all the difference.

If you struggled the first time, start therapy earlier.
Give yourself space to process what happened last time, and set up support now so you’re not searching for a therapist in the throes of postpartum.

If your experience was especially hard, get connected with a prescriber before you try to conceive again—or during pregnancy if you don’t already have one. This helps you plan for continuity of care and medication as delivery approaches.
Even if you’re not sure you’ll choose medication, having that relationship already in place makes it so much easier to start if you need to.

And if there was trauma from birth last time, processing it now can help make sure this experience isn’t viewed through that old lens. Use your prior experience to have the voice to ask your doctors the questions you wished you asked last time, and to advocate for what you want.

If you follow me, you know I’m not a big fan of birth plans, but I love postpartum plans.

Who can you lean on?
How can you divide and conquer?
Who can help—paid or unpaid—so you can actually get enough rest?
Who can handle groceries, meal prep, or caring for older kids?

What did you need from your partner last time that you didn’t get?
And how can you talk about it now so you’re both better equipped going in?

Did you love breastfeeding?
Or did it make your anxiety so much worse that you’re planning to bottle-feed this time? If you’re planning to breastfeed, interview a lactation consultant early.

You don’t need guarantees. A postpartum plan isn’t about control—it’s about support, clarity, and giving yourself the best chance to feel grounded in a season that can be incredibly vulnerable. This is power

11/11/2025

💕 The mom who’s not resentful has figured out what she needs, and actually says it out loud.
She’s not expecting her partner to be a mind reader.
💕 She’s learned to pause and ask:
Is this really about the dishwasher… or is it about something deeper?
Maybe feeling unsupported during birth still lingers.
Maybe his tone hits an old nerve, one that goes back to how your parents criticized you, and this colors your interactions with him about the big things, and about the unfolded laundy
💕And the mom who isn’t resentful is learning to let go, maybe just a little.
If her partner helps, it won’t look exactly how she’d do it and that’s okay. So if dinner or bath time looks a little different, or the clothes don’t match, she might just let it be.
Because when she lets him try, he builds confidence.
When she criticizes, he shuts down.
No one wins. Do any of these sound like you?

11/11/2025

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