Alexandra Rickeman, LCMFT

01/13/2026

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01/03/2026

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12/29/2025

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12/24/2025

Two major things about this to notice:
1) There is often a difference between what someone says and what a hurting person hears. This is normal and clearing up that miscommunication looks like this.
2) When it feels like someone is criticizing you, ask yourself if they care about your wellbeing and are invested in the outcomes of your life. If you know they do/are, try to hear their reflection to you in the “the goal is to move the weight” sort of way.


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12/08/2025

If you hear from your person (or say to your person), “but I did ___ for you,” signs are pointing to the first three.

In a romantic relationship, the love can’t really be unconditional (plenty of conditions need to be met to fall in love and maintain it) but the behaviors can be.

Do things with “a full yes”—a “I am doing this out out of a giving, loving spirit.” Don’t do things with an agenda in mind.

12/07/2025

People often ask me, “Is this normal?” (and that’s usually about some form of ‘overthinking’). I explain that my idea of what’s normal might be skewed… because I spend all day with people who are self-aware, curious, analytical, accountable, willing to learn, and want to be challenged to think and do differently!

And then I say, “So, yeah, in comparison to others who seek therapy, that’s normal; thinking deeply and living consciously is incredibly common around this office. But keep in mind: the fact that you come here… that’s incredibly extraordinary in comparison to the greater population.”

12/06/2025

Curiousity over reactivity. Accountability over defensiveness. Self-regulation is SO important for communication success and relationship repair!

12/06/2025

11/05/2025

This one goes out to the parents who are giving things you never got. You are unrecognized heroes.

Your kids are the beneficiaries of your perseverance, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence, and you’re creating the most valuable legacy of easier, healthier, more connected relationships for the generations that follow. You have my admiration. 🙌

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10/13/2025

Don’t take it personally! Just ask a friend (or even a stranger!) to give your teenager the advice you want them to hear. Works like a charm!

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10/08/2025

Intention versus effect.

We can assume that anyone in a relationship doesn’t INTEND to hurt the other*, so you can skip saying that part. Just go straight to the “I hurt you by…” part.

*If you believe your person IS intentionally trying to hurt your feelings, that’s a big deal and very problematic.

09/30/2025

What has glimmered you today? 🌟 💫 ✨