Alexandra Rickeman, LCMFT

12/08/2025

If you hear from your person (or say to your person), “but I did ___ for you,” signs are pointing to the first three.

In a romantic relationship, the love can’t really be unconditional (plenty of conditions need to be met to fall in love and maintain it) but the behaviors can be.

Do things with “a full yes”—a “I am doing this out out of a giving, loving spirit.” Don’t do things with an agenda in mind.

12/07/2025

People often ask me, “Is this normal?” (and that’s usually about some form of ‘overthinking’). I explain that my idea of what’s normal might be skewed… because I spend all day with people who are self-aware, curious, analytical, accountable, willing to learn, and want to be challenged to think and do differently!

And then I say, “So, yeah, in comparison to others who seek therapy, that’s normal; thinking deeply and living consciously is incredibly common around this office. But keep in mind: the fact that you come here… that’s incredibly extraordinary in comparison to the greater population.”

12/06/2025

Curiousity over reactivity. Accountability over defensiveness. Self-regulation is SO important for communication success and relationship repair!

12/06/2025

11/05/2025

This one goes out to the parents who are giving things you never got. You are unrecognized heroes.

Your kids are the beneficiaries of your perseverance, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence, and you’re creating the most valuable legacy of easier, healthier, more connected relationships for the generations that follow. You have my admiration. 🙌

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10/13/2025

Don’t take it personally! Just ask a friend (or even a stranger!) to give your teenager the advice you want them to hear. Works like a charm!

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10/08/2025

Intention versus effect.

We can assume that anyone in a relationship doesn’t INTEND to hurt the other*, so you can skip saying that part. Just go straight to the “I hurt you by…” part.

*If you believe your person IS intentionally trying to hurt your feelings, that’s a big deal and very problematic.

09/30/2025

What has glimmered you today? 🌟 💫 ✨

09/23/2025

“Hurt people heal people, too.” Beautiful.

09/19/2025

Applies to family and friend relationships as well! (If you saw me at 1pm today, this one’s for you! 😉 🤗)

09/19/2025

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