Lauren Scafe Therapy

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Lauren Scafe Therapy

Helping individuals and couples reconnect with their bodies, their desire, and each other. Come as you are—there’s nothing too weird to talk about here.

Specializing in low desire, painful s*x, emotional disconnection, and trauma-informed therapy.

07/22/2025

I say this wholeheartedly: I understand this sounds simple when broken down into fancy little slides but it’s some of the hardest messiest work you’ll ever do. You should be so proud of yourself if you’re out there trying to have healthy relationships.

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07/11/2025

Impact > Intent.

07/09/2025

Fill in the blank: ‘If I’m not perfect, then ____.”

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07/08/2025

There are many things I’m passionate about in my work as a s*x, relationship, and trauma therapist — but one of the most meaningful is helping women understand that their low desire is not their fault, and it doesn’t mean they’re broken — especially when it shows up in the context of an emotionally or physically unsafe relationship.

Over time, I’ve learned that my job isn’t to flood people with information (this can be so hard when you’re passionate), no matter how important it feels. The real work is slowing down, meeting people where they are, and offering insight at a pace their nervous system can handle.

At least once a week, I remind clients: It’s not my job to tell you what to do with your life.
What is my job is to help you understand yourself more deeply — so that you can make choices from a place of autonomy, clarity, and self-trust.

We all deserve relationships where we feel safe, heard, and valued. That’s not too much to ask. That’s the baseline.

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06/17/2025

You are not your shame.
Your belief isn’t the truth of who you are—it’s the story a part learned to survive.
Let’s be curious, not cruel.

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05/17/2025

Top posts and memes I found on the internet this week. I tried to remember to get names so I could credit posts, but I failed on a few.

I’m going to do this roundup every week, so if you see something you love and think others would too, please share with me! Especially if it’s funny, weird, or just explains something so simply in a way that makes you go … “ohhh, I get it now!” Those are the best!

Happy Saturday! Which one in this roundup is your favorite?

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05/15/2025

Why co-regulation is critically important after a betrayal in a relationship…

Coregulation is the process of helping each other feel safe, seen, and soothed through emotional attunement. It’s the nervous system saying, “You’re not alone. I’m here with you.”

In healthy relationships, both coregulation and differentiation (I’ll do another post for this topic) are essential.
But after an affair or betrayal, coregulation becomes critical.

Why? Because the injured partner’s nervous system is often in a constant state of threat—hypervigilant, dysregulated, and unsure if the relationship is safe again. They don’t just need space to “self-soothe” (differentiation and also very important). They need the person who hurt them to become a safe and responsive presence.

Without coregulation, trust can’t fully rebuild.
With it, healing becomes possible—not just emotionally, but physiologically.

05/13/2025

There’s no such thing as a perfect partner.
But there is something deeply healing about being with someone who’s willing to do the work with you.

Who listens.
Who stays present.
Who turns toward the hard moments instead of away.

That’s what builds safety.
That’s what builds trust.

Save this as a reminder that perfection isn’t the goal—secure connection is. *xtherapy

05/14/2023

“To be a mother” is one of the most loaded phrases to attempt to summarize. I will never stop being floored by the complexity, the pressure, the joy, the pain, and the happiness of motherhood.

Today, the ONE thing I wanted to do was go for a run, listen to music and detach from every possible responsibility… then, I got caught in an absolute downpour.

As I ran through the pouring rain feeling both pure joy and irritation, I decided it was the most fitting happenstance to represent all that it means “to be a mother”.

05/08/2023

Schools out soon 🎉 which means I am opening up an extra day per week for new clients! I specialize in s*xual health issues (think pain, trauma, postpartum, purity culture, anxiety) + the co-occurring mental health stressors that accompany these concerns and perinatal mental health. Please message me for more information if interested!

05/04/2023

I couldn’t be more excited to share that my friend Taryn Zweygardt, LSCSW, PMH-C and I are opening a perinatal collective in Wichita, KS ✨.

We are looking for like-minded professionals to join us in our space! If you’re interested, please reach out to us with any questions!

Address

10209 W. Central Avenue Suite 1
Wichita, KS
67212

Telephone

+13162103157

Website

http://www.laurenescafe.com/

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