Tailwinds Ranch Rest and Recovery Center

11/11/2025

Happy Veteran's Day to all those who served, and to the families that supported them.

11/08/2025

Let’s talk about data —in this case, the information we glean from surveys that reflect what is happening in an environment. I presented on military sexual trauma (MST) and pulled up the most recent data from the DoD Office of People Analytics 2023 Workplace and Gender Relations Survey of Military Members. It’s not pretty.
The anonymous survey asks about unreported and reported MST incidents in fiscal year 2023. 6.8% of female military members, and 1.3% of male service members identified as having an incident of MST in 2023. So, over five times as many females as males, correct?
How data is presented can skew one's assumption of the number of incidents. It can make a person feel alone, like an anomaly, that no one will understand, and that they need to hide it.
Let’s look at the actual 2023 survey numbers: 15,201 female and 13,860 male military members identified as having experienced an MST incident. That's a huge number that hasn't been adequately recognized. And vastly under investigated and under treated, for both males and females.
If you or someone you know is struggling, reach out. You are not alone. Confidential, free trauma counseling with a therapist who specializes in PTSD, male and female MST, and Moral Injury. Your records stay here.
https://www.sapr.mil/Portals/156/FY23_Annual_Report.pdf

10/11/2025

Sometimes the trails we walk are inside. , , ,

09/26/2025

Huge shoutout and heartfelt thanks to The Treasure Shop Norfolk for their incredible generosity, sponsoring over 200 mental health sessions with a $10,000 donation!
As a military thrift and consignment shop, The Treasure Shop provides affordable uniforms, clothing, and more to our local military community. And they’ve extended that same spirit of service by supporting Tailwinds Ranch's military and veteran mental health program.
Their donations make a meaningful difference in our mission, and we are so grateful for their support!

07/10/2025

Self Care- Hiked 22 miles in three days…. Small steps, slow down, notice the small gains, and for me and my clients, walk. Last month, I found myself operating outside of my window of tolerance. I was irritable, checked out, impatient, unmotivated, overwhelmed, and at times, dissociated. I knew that this was not sustainable. When we are outside of our window of tolerance (WoT), our behaviors and emotions affect those around us, both at home and at work. It’s more arguments with our partner, finding ourselves more reactive with family, avoiding situations, dissociation (checking out/numbing), not sleeping well or sleeping too much, and getting the “F*$k it's!”
A bit like a PTSD reaction- my conceptualization is that when outside the WoT, the amygdala gets exhausted from alarms and decides everything is an alarm, because it doesn’t get a regroup break (Think of the movie Inside Out. My visual is of one of the characters sitting at the controls exhausted, head down, just continually hitting the alarm button). Self-care means finding your way back into the window of tolerance, opening space for daily stressors not to throw you over the edge. It’s not bubble baths and reading a book for me, not when I’m this far out of my window. Those things can help me maintain when I’m back in… But for now, it’s losing myself in nature, hiking as meditation, unplugging from electronics, work, and expectations, and regrouping. It’s hiking for miles and letting life stressors be washed away with sunlight, trees, and rock scrambles. It’s realizing that there are still 2.5 miles to hike up to get out of the Grand Canyon, and my legs are so tired, it’s hot at 7 am already, and there is no choice but to keep walking. It’s learning tricks from my hiking partner, being teachable! “Slow down, small steps, relax your muscles, feel the softness of your muscles as you take each step.” THIS! The anxiety stopped. It felt like therapy: slow down, notice the small gains, relax to give yourself momentum…sounds counterintuitive. Still, with each step, I gained energy and confidence, lost the anxiety, and left behind the stressors that I had been carrying. Small steps, relax, develop realistic and doable plans, take time, build in breaks to be more present.
Why did I push to 22 miles? IYKYK. The 22 miles was a statement, a recognition of veterans and suicidal ideation and attempts. How does one get to that point? We work with this every day here. And what I find is that many times it starts with being outside of our Window of Tolerance, the stress/activation level where one functions well and can handle stressors. Living outside of that zone for long periods can kick in a sense of wanting the feeling to end, to escape, feeling like it will never end. It will, with work. Small steps, relax, slow down, notice the small gains, and for me and my clients (who know walking Flash/EMDR for relaxation), walk.

07/05/2025

There is no uncertainty in the past. Only the present and the future. It’s difficult today to imagine that our past both individually and collectively were ever uncertain. It’s hard to remember the choices that we made then, the difficulties, the setbacks, the decisions and the scars that paved the way for who we are today. Independence Day, is a great day to reflect on those difficulties.

George Washington did not receive the written Declaration of Independence until July 9, 1776. On the morning of July 9th, 1776 the army was generally low on morale, low on supplies, and completely uncertain of its future. Defeats in Canada late in 1775 and despite success in driving the British from Boston in March 1776, Washington and the men in his army understood that the British with thousands more troops who had refreshed and recovered in Canada, would make an attempt on New York soon.

And while talk of independence was strong in the Colonies, many people were divided. Many wanted to remain British and under the King. When the Declaration finally arrived in Washington’s hands in New York, he knew it could inspire his troops and help the cause of Liberty. On the evening of July 9,1776 around 6:00 pm Washington assembled his soldiers on the Common in NYC. The Declaration was read aloud to the troops. It was among the first time these words were ever heard. Nothing in their past, in their setbacks had really prepared them for these words that would change the world and pave the way for our Constitution.

Our point is this. Even after the reading, there was still the same amount of uncertainty in the outcome that the army would face and that the Colonies would face. But this was the turning point in seeing the events of Boston, the failures of Canada in a new light. They, really we, were now ready to forge a future that was totally different than what they could have imagined the year before. But that took great risk, hard difficult work and a commitment to a cause bigger than themselves for a chance at a better life.

At Tailwinds Ranch, remembering those choices and difficulties helps to remind us that we can overcome things that seem unsurmountable. We reflect on our past decisions and are molded into strong, resilient men and women who face the setbacks of today, reflect on the uncertainty of tomorrow, but know that with great risk, hard difficult work and a commitment to a cause, each of us can find that new and better future.

05/26/2025

For those who didn't come home, and for those who came home but carried unseen scars that never healed. Today, we pause to reflect, express gratitude, and remember those who died defending our freedoms.

05/25/2025

If you are looking for a project to keep busy on Memorial Day, we will be building fences. Memorial Day can be rough. We are here if you'd like to come out and help!

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05/12/2025

Tailwinds Ranch is a nonprofit organization (501c3) dedicated to helping individuals heal from trauma, PTSD, and moral injury. Founded by Michelle and Jeff W...

05/09/2025

When we understand the whys of certain behaviors, going for treatment can feel much less daunting! The Colonel and The Coach graciously hosted us last weekend to discuss PTSD and moral injury in veterans, active duty, and first responders. (Warning- PTSD and MI explanations are not always easy to listen to.)

01/01/2025

Happy New Year from Tailwinds Ranch! Many of us use this season to review our last year, and decide how to best use our time over the next year. This year we invite you to join us in a practice that can impact so many aspects of our lives. It can affect physical and emotional health, resilience, and spiritual health. Gratitude. If we start and end our day with gratitude we can start to make measurable and positive changes in our lives. It won’t fix everything, but it can skim a little off the top when you are feeling overwhelmed.
Tailwinds is grateful for the many people who have made our services possible. We are grateful for our sponsors, we are grateful for our dedicated volunteers, our hardworking staff, our herd, and the many friends who have enriched our program. We are also grateful for the many clients especially those veterans and first-responders who have chosen to take that difficult first step towards recovery and reintegration. Happy 2025!