12/02/2025
When we finally stop trying with the person who just isn’t willing/able to meet us, it *hurts.*
(and it doesn’t just apply to romantic situations - friends, parents, family members, business partners, etc)
And many times, friends and family try to make you feel better by saying with how much better off you are without them. Or by insulting that person’s character.
And while it may be true overall that we’re better off without them, what we really need at the beginning of separation is some time to feel sad about the future that we’re not going to have with this person.
So many people put so much energy into trying to make a relationship work because we envision a future with this other person. Because there are parts that work, or history that is important.
We’re willing to try, to dig deep, to be patient, to do our own work and we invest a lot.
And we invest a lot because we see and are committed to potential.
There’s a lot to be said about the many other dynamics that could be at play here (and staying in relationships because of potential usually doesn’t work), but I just want to validate how important it is to grieve that possible future.
There is pain in letting go, even when they’re not the right person or they could never have shown up for you.
It still hurts.
And the more you allow yourself to feel & grieve the hurt (without blaming you or them - yes, you read that right, not blaming them either), the less likely you are to fall into the same pattern in the future.
You deserve to be met where you are right now.
And you’re allowed to grieve what you hoped would be.
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