01/29/2026
Taking time to have space from your baby is an important milestone for the lactating parent, especially if you are nursing at every feeding.
Early postpartum, this space apart is supported by the coparent or another trusted support person. This may be when you shower, take your time going to the bathroom, or eat. It is really normal to feel uncomfortable with the space. It is also normal to crave this space and relish in it. There’s no need to judge how you feel about the space you are taking from your baby, just remember you and your body are adjusting to no longer being pregnant.
Later in your postpartum period, space apart may include skipping a nursing session and allowing your baby to practice taking a bottle from a trusted support person. You might pump before leaving the house, then spend 3-4 hours without the burden of needing to nurse or pump. This might be a good time to have lunch with a friend, get a pedicure, or take a walk alone.
If you are staying at home with your baby, these breaks are really important for your mental health and life balance.
If you are going back to work, these breaks can help prepare you for the time when you will be separated from your baby while you work.
How do you feel as you take this space from your baby?
Notice if you find yourself rushing through the space you have from your baby. Can you slow down and breathe, take your time and let your body relax a little?
If you are feeling guilting for taking this time, can you remind yourself that you need and deserve this space apart from the baby?
Taking space becomes easier as your baby becomes more independent. But rushing and guilting yourself are habits that can follow you throughout your parenting journey.
You are worthy of space apart from your baby.