Riding Far, LLC

Riding Far, LLC Transformative Experiences for Horses and Riders All riders, regardless of experience or discipline, meet challenges along the way. Paul T. Haefner. in Physics.

Riding Far, LLC was founded over 20 years ago with a simple idea that riders could benefit from a better understanding of themselves, their horses, and how to create change. We help riders move through these challenges. This is more than your typical sport psychology or horse training. We have dedicated ourselves to create transformative experiences for equestrians and horses through compassionate and expert education, mentorship and guidance. We meet every rider and horse where they are and create deeply personal and meaningful experiences. Our work inspires change where traditional approaches have often failed. We ground ourselves in an innovative integration of modern human psychology and horsemanship, drawing inspiration from a wide range of human psychological disciplines and the best of classical and modern horsemanship including equine ethology and biomechanics. We are passionate about our own personal and professional growth in order to bring our clients current, comprehensive, informed, and inspired guidance. PhD

Dr. Haefner is a licensed clinical and sport psychologist in private practice in Northern Virginia with more than 30 years of professional experience. In addition to his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology, Dr. Haefner is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-linguistic Programming. He also holds a B.S. In his practice, he provides personal/professional development, sport psychology consultation, and a broad range of other therapeutic services to adults, adolescents and children. An avid equestrian since his childhood, Dr. Haefner has combined his love for horses and lifelong equestrian experience with his knowledge of human psychology in order to help people transform themselves and their relationships with their horses. He enjoys working with riders of all levels and disciplines tackling the many and varied challenges that arise along the way. He helps riders transform self-doubt into confidence, fear into courage, distractibility into focused concentration, and pressure and anxiety into effective performance. In addition to helping people with their riding goals, Dr. Haefner uses the unique relationship between people and their equine partners to help people attain their own personal growth goals such as increased self-confidence, assertiveness, trust, intimacy and balance in relationships. Dr. Haefner is passionate about learning. He is committed to integrating newly acquired knowledge and skills into his work with riders. His most recent learning venture into interpersonal neurobiology has led to Riding Far to partner with Neurofficient to offer their clients neurofeedback brain training. Dr. Haefner is also a steadfast advocate for research in the field of human-horse interaction. He assisted in founding the Research Committee for the Equine Assisted Growth and Learning Association. He served on the Board of Directors of the Horses and Humans Research Foundation (HHRF), having been honored to serve as President of the Board for three of those years. He continues his advocacy for research through his role as Scientific Advisor for HHRF. Dr. Haefner is passionate about teaching. He has taught every age and level from kindergarten to graduate school. He has served on the staff/faculties of The Hill School, Catholic Memorial High School, The Fielding Institute, The Lab School of Washington, and The Catholic University of America. He dedicated to educating riding instructors and trainers, as well as riders, about the psychology of teaching and learning. His goal is to help instructors and trainers become more effective teachers and riders become more effective learners. Justin Haefner

Justin Haefner is a professional trainer who specializes in the training and handling of young performance jumpers. He is the full time Trainer of Young and Developing Horses at St. Bride’s Farm where he focuses on giving international caliber jumping horses the best foundation possible for their later life on the international show circuit. Justin believes it is essential to understand how horses’ bodies move and function in order to effectively train horses. In his continuous pursuit of deeper knowledge of equine physiology and biomechanics, Justin is a student at the Vluggen Institute of Equine Osteopathy and Education. Justin is also committed to transforming the experiences of horses and their riders through his work with Dr. Haefner in Riding Far, LLC. He contributes his knowledge of the horse’s psychology and physiology to create a well-rounded and unique perspective on the relationship between horse and rider. The synergistic, collaborative combination of Justin’s training and horsemanship experience with Dr. Haefner’s experience helping people change creates powerful opportunities for riders to transform their relationships with themselves and their horse in large and small ways. Justin comes from a background in vaquero style natural horsemanship, spending his childhood highly interested in creating and understanding deep connections with horses. Time spent starting young horses, foxhunting, and dabbling in many different disciplines gave him a base to understand key elements of a horse’s solid foundation. His focus on bodywork and anatomy/biomechanics goes hand in hand with his deep interest in classical dressage. His focus with every horse, no matter their discipline, is to gift them with strength of mind, body and emotion. Much of his work is based on the teaching and philosophy passed down by masters such as Nuno Oliveira. While patiently and steadfastly working to positively influence the equestrian world, Justin is deeply committed to continue his personal education. He hopes to return to Portugal where he spent time riding at the Centro Equestre Leziria Grande with the Valença’s, and continued lessons with Patrick King. His interests are in improving his own biomechanics and posture as a rider, as well as knowledge of horse and human physiology, training through classical philosophy, and further understanding and ability in equine bodywork.

As instructors, we spend a lot of time focusing on what we’re teaching.Over time, many of us learn that how we communica...
01/29/2026

As instructors, we spend a lot of time focusing on what we’re teaching.

Over time, many of us learn that how we communicate has a bigger impact on a student’s ability to learn than the content itself.

Our tone, pacing, expectations, and timing all influence how safe a student feels to try, struggle, and stay engaged. And often, we’re using the same communication habits without realizing how they’re landing on the other side.

Self-awareness matters here.

Understanding how you show up as an instructor can bring clarity to moments that feel confusing or stuck in lessons.

We put together a short online quiz to help instructors reflect on their communication style and how it may be influencing their students’ capacity to learn.

Click on the link in the first comment to learn what your teaching style is!

01/28/2026

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𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐬The other day, a client called and asked if I had time to talk. They were having a particularly difficult da...
01/27/2026

𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐬

The other day, a client called and asked if I had time to talk. They were having a particularly difficult day and hoped for a brief reset to gain some perspective. On tough days like that, it can feel like we're on a runaway train. We may not like where we're headed, but trains travel on tracks, and it often seems like we have little choice in the matter.

There's an old saying: "If you get on the wrong train, get off at the nearest station. The longer you wait, the more expensive the return trip will be." However, this requires us to recognize that we're on the wrong train, find a station where we can disembark, and slow the train enough to step off safely.

Throughout my career, I've helped people find their way off runaway trains. One of the most important lessons I've learned is that to assist someone effectively, I can't be on the same set of tracks. If I jump onto their tracks and get lost in their perspective, one of two things inevitably happens: I either get run over or sucked into riding their train with them. Neither outcome is particularly helpful.

So, what do you do when a student is struggling during a lesson? How can you help them slow their proverbial train or change tracks? The most critical step is to stay on your own set of tracks. This is what experienced trainers do when working with a troubled horse. They maintain their calm, trust in the process, and rely on their experience. They avoid getting caught up in the emotional energy of the horse.

Your train should be powered by knowledge, experience, and confidence that you can guide your student safely through the crisis.

My advice? Build your tracks before you need them. Invest in yourself by working on staying grounded and improving your emotional regulation. Additionally, invest in understanding your students—how they learn, how emotions function, and a set of skills you can share to help them regulate themselves.

As you grow, you'll develop a process you can trust. Then, you can invite your students to join you on your set of tracks.

In a few days we’ll be opening enrollment for our online course, Emotions in the Arena. In this course, we cover the exact skills that you need as an instructor to improve your own ability to emotionally regulate when these situations arise and how to effectively help your students.

Comment YES below join the waitlist to be the first to know when enrollment opens and receive an EARLY BIRD DISCOUNT!

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01/26/2026

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01/26/2026

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One thing we see again and again in the arena is that emotions rarely show up at random.They show up in patterns.A rider...
01/26/2026

One thing we see again and again in the arena is that emotions rarely show up at random.

They show up in patterns.

A rider who suddenly goes quiet.

Frustration that appears out of proportion to the moment.

Confidence that disappears even when the horse is doing the same thing it was five minutes ago.

When these emotional patterns show up in lessons, they are especially challenging to navigate because they shift the entire energy in the arena.

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐫𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬?

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01/26/2026

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𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐁𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐠𝐞𝐬There is one thing people don’t talk about when they discuss building a bridge: bridges must start and e...
01/25/2026

𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐁𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐠𝐞𝐬

There is one thing people don’t talk about when they discuss building a bridge: bridges must start and end on stable ground.

I have recently been writing about my experiences as a teacher and psychologist, focusing on the challenges I faced starting out and the personal qualities I had to foster and develop to elevate my teaching and consulting. Not surprisingly, I concentrated on my own regulation—the ability to manage my energy, anxiety, frustration, thoughts, and behavior.

In the role of teacher, mentor, instructor, or trainer, we are all called to expand our self-awareness and commit to personal growth. This includes growth in our knowledge and skills but, perhaps more importantly, growth in our mental and emotional fitness and our capacity for self-regulation.

Teaching and mentoring are all about building bridges. Before we can impart knowledge, provide support, or challenge our students, there must be an established path of connection and communication. Like all bridges, that path must start and end on solid ground.

As a mentor to many riding instructors and trainers, I find that the most common challenges they face revolve around their students’ emotional regulation. I hear about struggles with their students’ tears and fears, anger and frustration, acting out, and shutting down. When our students are dysregulated, we cannot teach, and they cannot learn.

When this happens, we need to rebuild the bridge, starting with establishing stable ground in ourselves and helping our students find theirs. ~ Paul

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01/25/2026

Tomorrow’s the day! 🗓️🐎

Join us January 26th for two ways to connect with Riding Far:
✨ 𝟖𝐚𝐦 𝐄𝐒𝐓 — 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐧 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐂𝐚𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧
✨ 𝟕𝐩𝐦 𝐄𝐒𝐓 — 𝐅𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐙𝐨𝐨𝐦 𝐖𝐞𝐛𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐫: 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐜𝐭 𝐑𝐞𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐁𝐞𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐝

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Psych Saturday: First Days Are the HardestI remember my first day teaching like it was yesterday. Fresh out of college, ...
01/24/2026

Psych Saturday: First Days Are the Hardest

I remember my first day teaching like it was yesterday. Fresh out of college, I walked through the door of my high school senior Developmental Physics class (physics without numbers) just as the bell rang and took my place at the front of the room. There, right in front of me, sat the football team… in formation. Linemen in the first row. Receivers on the wings. Quarterback and running backs in the second and third rows, respectively. My heart started pounding. My mouth went dry.

For those who don’t know me, I am not a big man. I was terrified and filled with trepidation. Images of a classroom spiraling out of control flashed through my mind. I desperately wanted to succeed in my first job out of college, and I was terrified that it would dissolve into disaster in the very first class of the very first day.

The next few minutes turned out to be pivotal. I had to decide in a moment how I was going to approach the class. I am forever grateful that I decided on being firm (a bit of a hard-ass, to be sure), fair, and funny, in that order. In the end, that class ended up being one of my favorites of all the classes I have ever taught.

I have said it before, and I will say it again: Teaching is one of the hardest things a person can do. It requires an incredible level of awareness of both yourself and your students. It requires an extraordinary amount of personal resilience and self-control. It also requires a powerful capacity to connect and act in the service of others, even when those others process and react to the world in ways profoundly different from you.

Maybe the only thing harder than teaching is teaching riding. Here's to all the instructors out there who are in the arena every day, teaching a challenging skill while facing fears, calming nerves, fostering courage, and cultivating confidence and a love of both horses and the sport.

We appreciate you and want to support you in any way we can. That’s why in a few short weeks we are opening enrollment to our online course, Emotions in the Arena!

If you are an instructor who is ready to help your students find calm, confidence and connection, no matter what emotions arise in the arena, comment YES to join Waitlist to be the first to know when enrollment is open! ~ Paul

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Most instructors don’t struggle because they don’t care or don’t know enough.They struggle because what makes sense in t...
01/23/2026

Most instructors don’t struggle because they don’t care or don’t know enough.

They struggle because what makes sense in their own mind doesn’t always land the same way for their students.

The way we explain, correct, encourage, or apply pressure shapes how much a student can process in the moment. Awareness of those patterns can change the entire feel of a lesson.

We created a short quiz designed to help instructors better understand their own communication tendencies and how those tendencies may be affecting student learning.

It’s not about labeling yourself. It’s about seeing yourself more clearly.

If you’re interested, you can find the link to the quiz in the comments below!

Once you take the quiz, come back to this post and share one insight your results gave you about how you communicate in lessons in the comments.

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