10/16/2025
How do You Attach to Others?
Hey Beautiful Soul —
I'm sure most of you know your love language but if i asked how you attach / connect with other could you name which of the four styles you are?
Have you ever wondered why you fall in love the way you do — or why some relationships trigger deep wounds? Attachment theory gives us the language to understand the why.
If you havent taken the free quiz (or are about to) — Click here to take it now (https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/)
— you’re already beginning the journey of awareness.
But awareness needs context. So today, I’m pulling back the veil on attachment styles: how they form, how they show up, and how you can begin to shift them — with spiritual + energetic practices included.
🔍 What Are Attachment Styles?
At their core, attachment styles are patterns of how we relate to others — especially in love, friendships, and deep bonds. Many of these patterns stem from early childhood and how our caregivers showed up (or didn’t).
Here are the 4 main styles you’ll see explored (and which you may have seen in your quiz results):
Here are the 4 main styles you’ll see explored (and which you may have seen in your quiz results):
Secure — You feel safe offering vulnerability and receiving closeness
Anxious / Preoccupied — You crave closeness and worry about abandonment
Avoidant / Dismissive — You protect yourself by holding emotional distance
Fearful / Disorganized — You desire connection but are deeply afraid of it
You can read more about how each works here: The Attachment Project – Four Attachment Styles article (https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles/?utm_source=chatgpt.com)
▶️ Watch this breakdown
Here’s a helpful video that takes you through the 4 attachment styles + how they show up in adult relationships:
🌿 How Each Style Benefits from Your Healing Toolbox
Below is how each of your offerings can serve someone based on their attachment style — helping them move toward more secure connection and inner peace.
✍️ Your Next Step (Yes, there is one)
If you haven’t yet, take the Attachment Style Quiz: quiz.attachmentproject.com
Notice which style surfaced for you. Watch the video above and read the article linked above to deepen your understanding.
Ask yourself: Which part of me is longing to heal right now?
If you feel called, book a session or choose a modality that aligns with what I outlined above — whether coaching, tarot, yoni ritual, or energy reset.
Book A Healing Session
Also — my workbook (if you already have it or will soon) is a companion to this journey. Use it to journal your quiz result, track where you want to heal, and anchor small rituals that align you with the next version of yourself.
I’ll be sending you more emails exploring each specific attachment style soon — so we can unpack them layer by layer within your energy.
You are worthy. You are healing. You are becoming more secure by the day.
With love + clarity,
Coach QueenNi
Wellness Alchemist + Transformation Guide
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