Great River Mediations

12/31/2025

This week I received a thank you from R.n. for our discussion.

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12/30/2025

Why is a divorce rate decline a bad thing? http://bit.ly/divorcedecline Talking about cohabitation... | https://www.greatrivermediations.com

12/29/2025

What parenting style are you practicing? Watch what impact style may have on kids: http://bit.ly/ParentingStylesAndEffects | https://www.greatrivermediations.com

12/26/2025

Modern can seem depersonalized with apps and DMs. But you can still create a real connection. http://bit.ly/detached-dating | https://www.greatrivermediations.com

12/26/2025

How was it for you as a child?

Resharing our most popular Quote of the Day of 2025 - November

12/26/2025

So true!

Resharing our most popular Quote of the Day 2025 - December (so far)

12/24/2025

Lisa was quieter this week...taking it all in. BUT things were moving and shifting. See her comment on how she's healing and recovering through building her resilience and coping skills in my group! | https://www.greatrivermediations.com

12/23/2025

Divorce Support You Shouldn't Do Without!

Lost. Scared. Lonely. Shaken. Sad. Angry. Bitter. Relieved. Hopeful. These are just some of the stops along the emotional roller coaster that is divorce. It’s not anything that anyone should have to endure alone. Now that Divorce is so common, there are tons of resources available to help you survive the process with at least some level of dignity.

One resource not to rely on – friends and family! Although they may mean well, their advice is often misguided, uninformed, and downright damaging to your ability to think straight. They’re great for a shoulder to lean on, to keep you distracted and to remind you that you are loved. And we all need those things from time to time—and you will need them during this ride. But, do your best to get advice from objective professionals and not biased family and friends. You’ll come out better for it and stronger.

The first resource most everyone needs during the process and for at least a little while after is

1. A Good Therapist – There is just so much emotional trauma caused by divorce that you really need to talk it through with a qualified professional. A therapist will help you explore your role in the end of your marriage so you can get clear about your goals for the next phase of your life. This is the only way you can hope to form new relationships that aren’t doomed to repeat your past. You may want to seek out a therapist for your children as well at some point.

2. A Mediator – Talk with a mediator to find out some of your options and whether mediation is the good approach for you and your family. Many people find mediation to be the best choice for their family as a healthier alternative that is less expensive, maintains privacy, is a process where you have control and emotionally less damaging.

3. A support group. --Get connected to people who get what you're going thru and support from one another to vent and sort out your own emotions and thoughts.

4. CDFA™ or Financial Planner – The most common and paralyzing fear that nearly everyone feels in divorce is “Will I be ok financially?” It’s inevitable. A CDFA can help you become aware of what you have and where you’re at. Of course I’m biased and would prefer that you find a CDFA™ actually trained specifically in the finances of divorce but like I said, I’m biased. The finances are an important part of your divorce because your future can be wrapped up in them. I can help you carve out that future for yourselves.
Go slow. Be kind to yourself. Recovery and grieving take time. Use a support group for helping you through the process of separation and divorce. Maybe you'll even find a community of people to keep after divorce.

This is going to be a challenging time in your life. Ultimately, you will be stronger, happier, and ok – as long as you choose to. The way you choose to divorce makes a big difference in the outcome you get. Use the resources available to you to make good decisions for yourself. Today truly is the first day of the rest of your life.

We run 5 weekly emotional support groups. Contact us to learn more where you might fit.
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12/22/2025

Is child possibly struggling with the loss of a loved one, take a look at the warning signs: http://bit.ly/GriefInChildren
Note: this happens in divorce too. | https://www.greatrivermediations.com

12/19/2025

It isn’t Halloween: why we shouldn’t ghost
👻 people to end a relationship. No matter how brief! http://bit.ly/GhostingSomeone | https://www.greatrivermediations.com

12/17/2025

Every week we receive comments and feedback from the individuals and couples we support and I feel so grateful to be able to do this work.

This week's highlighted comment is by Claire. Claire's encouragement to others is "Be patient with yourself" because this is a hard time. Thanks Claire! | https://www.greatrivermediations.com

12/16/2025

Worried about how your teenager is coping with divorce ? Check out this quiz. It can shed some light: http://bit.ly/TeenGrief
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