06/15/2025
To all of those who are feeling heartache on Fatherās Day, I see you.
This time of year can be incredibly painfulāand not just for those whose dad has died.
Coming from someone who lost both her dad and stepdad by the age of 15, Fatherās Day has always been a tough one for me⦠all the reminders of what I never got, yet craved so deeply as a child.
All the marketing and posts about celebrating awesome dads this time of year seemed to rub it in ā I remember feeling extremely bitter and jealous towards kids who got that āpicture perfectā family whose dad is not only alive, but physically and emotionally present; a safe, protective figure, the way all dads should be.
Unfortunately Iām not the only one who shares this story. The more open I am about my grief, the more I learn that so many others experience various layers of loss when it comes to their relationship with their dad, even if theyāre still alive.
Itās not just about death.
Some are grieving a father who was never emotionally available to them. Some are grieving a dad who left, or who was never safe to be around. Some are sitting with the heartbreak of wanting a dad they never really had.
And then there are fathers grieving the loss of a child. Or people grieving what fatherhood was supposed to look likeāwhether itās infertility, estrangement, or the ache of dreams unmet.
If today feels tender for you, please know: youāre not alone. Your pain is real, even if others donāt always see it. You donāt have to put on a brave face or pretend this day doesnāt hurt.
Grief on Fatherās Day is complicated. Itās layered. And it deserves space.
So whatever your grief looks like today, Iām sending you love and permission to feel it fully.
With you,
šCami