Menije Boduryan, Psy.D.

Menije Boduryan, Psy.D. I give tips on how high-achieving women can overcome perfectionism
📍Woodland Hills, CA (psy26351)

Perfectionism University - A place where you can unlearn Perfectionism and start your journey of embracing imperfections and owning your enoughness.

New Year Intention (Not a Resolution) ✨If you’re highly functioning but constantly anxious, New Year’s resolutions often...
01/01/2026

New Year Intention (Not a Resolution) ✨

If you’re highly functioning but constantly anxious, New Year’s resolutions often become another way to pressure yourself.

This year, try an intention instead—something that supports your nervous system, not your inner critic.

My intention for the new year:

✨ I will stop waiting to feel good enough and decide that I already am.
✨ I will stop comparing my life to others and stay rooted in my own lane.
✨ I will allow myself to be authentic instead of impressive.
✨ I will give myself permission to make mistakes without punishment.
✨ I will prioritize goals based on my values—not my fears, urgency, or need for approval.

This isn’t about doing more or becoming better.
It’s about unlearning the habits that keep you stuck in perfectionism.

The new year doesn’t require a perfected version of you—
just a more honest, self-compassionate one 🤍

Save this if you’re choosing intention over pressure this year.

2025 has taught me a lot, and I am thankful for all the lessons. To be honest, some of those lessons were quite challeng...
12/31/2025

2025 has taught me a lot, and I am thankful for all the lessons. To be honest, some of those lessons were quite challenging, and at times I found myself wishing I hadn't needed to learn them. But, no matter what the path looked like to get to those lessons, they all have one thing in common: to give myself the same compassion, love, and grace I give to others so unconditionally.

In 2025, I learned...
💫 That asking for help doesn't mean I am incompetent, clueless, or not enough. It simply means that I am stuck and can learn from someone else's wisdom and life experience.

💫 That no matter how much I have grown and thrived, I am still a work in progress and some days feel more challenging than others.

💫 That loving my mistakes doesn't mean I am not willing to take accountability or responsibility. It simply makes it easier to move forward when I approach my mistakes with compassion and curiosity.

💫 That saying no doesn't mean I don't care or that I'm being difficult. It is simply being honest with myself on what I can and can not do so that I don't end up overextending myself.

I know not every lesson we learn is easy, or the path to learning them is soft or gentle, but I hope 2025 was good to you and may 2026 be more gentle and loving...happy new year 💓

Word of the Year 2026 ✨If you’re an anxious perfectionist, choosing a word (not a rigid resolution) can help you step ou...
12/30/2025

Word of the Year 2026 ✨

If you’re an anxious perfectionist, choosing a word (not a rigid resolution) can help you step out of the cycle of pressure, self-criticism, and over-control.

Your word isn’t about becoming better.
It’s about becoming truer to yourself 🤍

Here are a few words to consider for 2026:

✨ Letting Go — releasing control, timelines, and the need to get it “right”
✨ Authenticity — choosing honesty over performance
✨ Balance — honoring rest and ambition without guilt
✨ Imperfect — allowing progress to be messy and human
✨ Self-Compassion — speaking to yourself with kindness, especially when you fall short
✨ Surrender — trusting that not everything needs fixing or forcing

Let your word guide how you respond to stress, mistakes, and uncertainty—not how much you accomplish.

2026 doesn’t need a perfected version of you.
It needs a regulated, self-accepting, imperfect one ✨

💬 Which word are you choosing?
Save this for when perfectionism gets loud.

5 habits that will change your 2026 ✨For the high-functioning, anxious perfectionist who looks “put together” but feels ...
12/29/2025

5 habits that will change your 2026 ✨
For the high-functioning, anxious perfectionist who looks “put together” but feels exhausted inside—this is for you 🤍

1️⃣ Stop comparing yourself to others
Comparison keeps your nervous system in a constant state of “not enough.” Your path isn’t behind—it’s yours. Growth looks different on everyone.

2️⃣ Choose single-tasking over multitasking
Multitasking isn’t a superpower—it’s a stress response. Doing one thing at a time creates focus, calm, and better results.

3️⃣ Delegate and ask for help
You don’t get extra credit for doing it all alone. Support isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.

4️⃣ Prioritize based on your values, not urgency
Busy doesn’t mean aligned. Let your values—not anxiety or pressure—decide what gets your energy.

5️⃣ Be your loudest cheerleader
If your inner voice is only critical, motivation will always feel hard. Speak to yourself the way you encourage others—often and out loud.

✨ 2026 doesn’t need a “new you.”
It needs a more supported, regulated, self-trusting you.

Save this. Share it with the perfectionist who needs the reminder. 💛

12/28/2025

All my favorite things 🎄🤍

This tree holds pictures of the people I love—
and it reminds me that the best gifts were never meant to be unwrapped.

They’re the faces, the memories, the ordinary moments that carry us through
even when life feels messy, heavy, or far from perfect.

No matter how imperfect life gets,
gratitude for what we do have makes it softer… more tolerable… more human.

This is the magic I want to hold onto. ✨

🎄🤍

12/28/2025

Holiday self-care for the perfectionist ✨

The holidays can quietly turn up the pressure—
more comparing, more performing, more trying to get it right.

This season, self-care can look like:

🎄 Avoid comparison
What you see online is a highlight reel—not the whole story. Your holiday is allowed to look different.

✨ Do things imperfectly
The messy moments still count. Meaning lives in presence, not perfection.

🕯️ Set intentions, not expectations
Intentions ground you. Expectations exhaust you.

Let this be your reminder:
You don’t have to earn rest.
You don’t have to keep up.
You’re allowed to enjoy the season as you are 🤍

Save this for when the holiday noise gets loud.

What if your mistakes didn’t need to be hidden?What if they weren’t proof that you failed…but evidence that you tried?So...
12/26/2025

What if your mistakes didn’t need to be hidden?

What if they weren’t proof that you failed…
but evidence that you tried?

So many of us learned to hide our mistakes to stay safe, liked, or accepted.
But perfectionism doesn’t protect us — it isolates us.

Mistakes don’t make you less worthy.
They make you human.

When mistakes are hidden, shame grows.
When they’re met with compassion, healing begins.

You don’t have to be flawless to be loved.
You don’t have to be perfect to belong.

Let your mistakes be seen — especially by yourself.
That’s where softness replaces self-criticism, and growth becomes possible.

You are allowed to be imperfect and still enough. ✨🤍



Things to remember on Christmas Day (for the recovering perfectionist):🎁 Your mistakes are a gift.They teach you, soften...
12/25/2025

Things to remember on Christmas Day (for the recovering perfectionist):

🎁 Your mistakes are a gift.
They teach you, soften you, and remind you that growth doesn’t come from getting it “right.”

🤍 You are enough as you are.
Not because of what you accomplished this year. Not because you held it all together. Just because you exist.

🛑😴 You don’t need to earn rest.
Rest is not a reward for productivity — it’s a human need.

🌱💗 Compassion is not a weakness.
It’s strength that looks like softness. Especially toward yourself.

🌟 All is well.
Even if today doesn’t look like the picture in your head.

🎄✨ Choose presence over perfection.
The messy moments, the quiet ones, the laughter that wasn’t planned — that’s where meaning lives.

🕯️ This Christmas, let “good enough” be more than enough.
You’re doing better than you think 🤍

12/23/2025

Comparison is perfectionism’s favorite holiday activity.
Who hosted better?
Who decorated more?
Who looks happier?
Reminder: none of that is the point.

When we compare, we turn connection into competition and joy into pressure.
The work this season isn’t to do more or be more.
It’s to come back to yourself.
Your experience is allowed to look different.

Choose Presence > performance.

Your holidays don’t need to compete to be meaningful.

✨️❣️🎄

Reminders for the Perfectionist 🤍For the recovering perfectionists: growth doesn’t come from being harder on yourself—it...
12/22/2025

Reminders for the Perfectionist 🤍

For the recovering perfectionists: growth doesn’t come from being harder on yourself—it comes from learning how to be kinder and honest.

When you are your worst critic, nothing is ever enough. You find yourself always expecting more and more from yourself, perfecting every outcome, setting the bar higher and higher.

You may find it hard to know how to replace your inner self-talk when it has been highly critical for so long. Take a look at these affirmations and practice them as you often as you need to:
• I am enough, and I can do better. Worthiness isn’t something I earn after improvement.
• We’re all imperfect beings, and growth doesn’t cancel that truth.
• My best will look different every day. Energy, capacity, and circumstances change—and that’s human, not failure.
• Feeling good about myself is an inside job. No amount of approval, productivity, or praise can replace self-acceptance.

Healing perfectionism isn’t about lowering your standards—it’s about raising your compassion. 💕

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Holiday self-care tips for perfectionists 🎄✨The holidays can bring joy but also lots of pressure— the pressure to make p...
12/21/2025

Holiday self-care tips for perfectionists 🎄✨

The holidays can bring joy but also lots of pressure— the pressure to make perfect memories, the pressure to do it all, the pressure to remember all the wishlist items.

A gentle reminder: you don’t need to perfect the holidays to deserve them.

🎄Be present in the small moments. The quiet laughs, the warm drinks, the simple connections matter more than how everything looks.
🎁Reserve some alone time. Rest isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Even a few minutes to reset counts.
💫Give yourself love and grace. You’re human, not a holiday highlight reel.
🩵Embrace imperfect moments. The mess, the mistakes, the unplanned moments are often the most meaningful.

This season isn’t about doing it perfectly—it’s about being here. 🤍

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