01/14/2026
You don’t need to calm down, you need to get curious.
Ryan came into coaching on fire, furious that his ex was limiting time with their newborn. Telling him to calm down would have tightened the explosion. So we slowed down instead and asked what the anger was guarding.
Underneath the blaze were three truths he’d never named aloud: fear of losing connection, grief for the moments he’d miss and a longing to show up as the father he knew he could be. Once he saw what the anger was protecting, it stopped being a weapon and became guidance.
That’s what emotions do when you listen, they shift from chaos to clarity.
Which emotion in your life is asking for curiosity rather than control today?