03/02/2026
What I Got Wrong About Training (For a Very Long Time).
Every session was a chance to prove something. More weight. More reps. More pain tolerance.
PRs were the goal, even when they didn’t make sense. Aches and nagging pains weren’t warning signs; they were welcomed.
I thought beating myself worked. Until, it didn’t.
And it hit me that this wasn’t just a question about training. It was a question about time. About what we know at 20 versus what we understand later in life.
How much could our younger selves benefit from the clarity our older selves?
And this lesson doesn’t belong to one age group.
I’ve worked with teens to hopefully have them avoid years of frustration, up to people in their 80s and 90s who finally felt capable again, not because they did more, but because they understood the one thing they’d been missing all along: What Age Gives You
Clarity tends to arrive later than we’d like. But it’s never too late.
When you’re younger, your body is forgiving. You get away with things.
But, your body NEVER forgets!
If most people trained in their 20s with the wisdom of someone older, they would’ve experienced better, less painful results.
Most people would think this means going easy. It’s the opposite.
Your body responds to intensity and consistency.
The Rules Don’t Change But Your Interpretation Should
There are three truths that never stop being true:
1. Intensity is essential
2. Consistency is everything
3. Design matters
Most people fixate on the first two and completely misunderstand the third.
They think intensity means demolish. That consistency means grinding, no matter what. And, they assume more work automatically leads to better results.
If you want to know how to train effectively, think Stimulate, Not Demolish.
The goal of training is not to leave the gym beat up. It’s to leave it changed. Better. Stronger.
That means training to fatigue, not past it to failure. Caring more about progress than soreness. Valuing recovery as part of the program, not a break from it.
Simple reality: many people sabotage their progress by doing what feels hardest instead of what works best.
Quality creates adaptation. Adaptation creates results.
Doing better requires restraint, focus, and a willingness to push yourself differently.
As you get older, training stops being about how much you can tolerate and starts becoming about how well you can listen.
It’s about training with clarity, purpose, and intelligence.
If you stop fighting your body and start working with it, strength doesn’t disappear with age. It sharpens.
You can’t turn back the clock, but you can still reshape and improve the future.