Tairi Grace, LCSW

11/08/2025

Ew

The truth is,**
the moment she has to ask for flowers,
she doesn’t want them anymore.

The same goes for attention, love, affection, and effort —
because once she has to ask,
it’s coming from *her*, not from *you.*

What she wanted wasn’t the flowers,
it was the thought — the awareness,
the feeling of being seen without having to explain what she needs.
When love has to be requested, it loses its magic;
it stops feeling like love and starts feeling like labor.

She’s not asking for grand gestures or constant attention —
she’s asking for *presence*, for reciprocity,
for someone who notices when she’s giving too much
and meets her halfway without being told how.

When a woman goes silent, it’s rarely because she’s fine.
It’s because she’s tired of reminding someone
how to love her the way she loves them.
And by the time she stops asking,
it’s already too late —
because she’s learned to give herself
what she was begging for from someone else.

So remember:
it’s not the asking that breaks her heart —
it’s realizing she had to.

11/05/2025

No one does

Children don’t need pain to grow.
They don’t need fear to listen.
They don’t need shame to understand.

Because learning doesn’t come from fear — it comes from safety.

A child’s brain can’t take in lessons when it’s busy protecting itself. When they feel threatened, they shut down; when they feel safe, they open up.

Safety isn’t coddling — it’s the foundation of growth. It’s what allows the mind to stay curious,
the heart to stay soft, and the spirit to stay whole.

Discipline doesn’t require hurting.
Boundaries don’t require fear.
Respect isn’t built through power — it’s built through presence.

Because when a child feels safe, they don’t just behave better — they learn better, they love better, and they live better.

The end. ❤️

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10/26/2025

Wow - some good ones today

From the moment you were born, your body learned love through how your needs were met.
It learned the rhythm of attention and the feeling of absence.

It learned what it had to do to stay close, and what parts of you were too much.

When a parent couldn’t meet your emotional needs, your body adjusted.

It learned to work for love, to stay alert, to earn connection.

That state of reaching wired your nervous system.

It became the version of love your body recognises.

So when you meet someone who brings that same feeling, your body reacts.
The energy, the tension, the anticipation, it all feels alive.

To the unaware it may seem like it’s true love, but the more inner work you do, the more you realise that it’s the body remembering what love once required.

That’s the chemistry.

It’s the nervous system chasing a familiar rhythm, hoping this time it ends differently.

Healing begins when you see the pattern clearly.

When you stop trying to relive the old story and start meeting the needs that were never met.

That’s how the body learns what real safety feels like.

10/26/2025

However, the parents that need to hear this won’t see it or do it, but here’s the rest of us🫣🫶🫣

Healing starts when love becomes humble. 💛