02/11/2026
Let me explain why I started backing away from the spiritual community. Truthfully, I was never really part of it because there has always been too much nonsense going on. What I kept seeing was a complete lack of accountability. Everything is always somebody else’s fault. Nobody wants to address the root of their problems. Instead, it becomes about manipulating energy to fit a narrative or using rituals and spells to try to fix situations that came from their own choices.
It’s always “let’s cast this,” “let’s do a ritual,” “let’s work this energy,” instead of actually sitting down and asking why the problem exists in the first place. Nobody wants to take responsibility. Nobody wants to look at their patterns. Spirituality becomes a way to avoid reality instead of a way to grow.
I’ve watched people who call themselves spiritual make some of the worst decisions when it comes to relationships, friendships, and life in general. Then when everything falls apart, instead of changing behavior, they try to fix it spiritually. That never made sense to me. You can’t keep making the same choices and expect a ritual to undo the consequences. All that does is amplify the same cycle.
What really made me stop and look at things differently was seeing people say things like Cardi B is the daughter of some deity or spiritually protected, and that a man is going to get hurt because he “played with a bruja.” And my question is always the same. Where is the accountability? Where is the discernment? Cardi has publicly made decision after decision that keeps her in chaotic situations. She got with Offset knowing the situation he came with, stayed through cheating and disrespect, continued building a life in that environment, and then moved into another relationship that looks just as messy. At some point, that’s not spiritual warfare. That’s choices. You can’t remove accountability by attaching spirituality to it.
That’s what bothers me about a lot of what I see. People claim spiritual authority or divine identity, but their actions don’t reflect wisdom or discernment. They talk about justice, truth, and beating systems, but then participate in things that damage their own well-being. Spirituality gets used as a shield instead of a mirror.
And this same lack of discernment shows up in politics too. I see people who claim to be spiritually aware completely lose the ability to separate what they personally dislike from what is actually happening. If you can’t see that there is a deeper ideological and moral conflict happening in the world, then in my opinion you’ve already lost the plot. People get so caught up in media narratives and group thinking that they stop questioning anything at all. If you claim to be spiritually discerning but can’t tell the difference between what you believe is good or harmful because everything has been blurred together, then something is off. Discernment is supposed to mean thinking for yourself, not repeating what you’re told.
And that’s why I don’t align myself with most of the spiritual community. Too much of it feels performative. When you hold truth up against illusion, truth stands on its own every time. A lot of people don’t stand on anything solid, and when you question it, everything starts to fall apart.
To me, spirituality without accountability doesn’t make sense. If you can’t tell the difference between truth and self-delusion, then somewhere along the way, the point was lost.
