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31/10/2025

Have a blessed Samhain 🧡

31/10/2025

Oh, so you’re “high functioning”?

Translation: you’ve learned to hide your pain well enough that people feel comfortable ignoring it. You smile through sensory overload. You nod through confusion. You overachieve to prove you’re okay.

But “functioning” isn’t thriving... it’s survival dressed up as success.
People forget that masking burns cognitive fuel. Studies show that autistic masking is associated with higher rates of anxiety, depression, and identity confusion.

It’s not just emotional labor, it’s neurological strain.
You’re not “fine,” you’re finely tuned to others’ comfort.

06/10/2025

Let’s be real : Ghosting isn’t always an as***le move.

Sometimes, yes.
Sometimes it’s clearly disrespectful or selfish behavior.
But sometimes
 it’s a panicking brain.

A brain that doesn’t know how to handle discomfort, the fear of upsetting someone, or the stress of “saying it the right way.”
It’s pure avoidance.
Not out of cruelty, out of survival.

It’s your nervous system saying: fight, flight, or freeze. And some people stay frozen for a long time.

And no, that doesn’t make it okay.
It doesn’t mean it’s not hurtful.
But it helps to understand.

Because if we want healthier relationships, we also need to talk about this:

The difficulty of facing discomfort.

The fear of looking mean.

The paralysis in front of confrontation, even gentle confrontation.

Ghosting isn’t always “I don’t care about you.”
Sometimes it’s “my brain makes me believe I can’t afford a mistake, so I disappear to protect myself.”

And if that’s you: you’re not a bad person.
But it’s something to work on. Because you can’t build real relationships on avoidance.

You don’t need to be perfect. Just a little more real.

05/10/2025

You don’t need a new you. You need a you who feels safe.

You don’t have to start over from scratch.
You don’t have to turn yourself into an ultra-productive machine or upgrade to version 12.0 of yourself.

What you’re looking for isn’t a new brain.
It’s a space where you’re allowed to breathe without self-monitoring.
People who look at you without expecting you to perform.

It’s not a lack of motivation.
It’s a lack of safety, of recognition, of space to simply
 exist.

You don’t want to become someone else.
You want to become the person you could have been if you’d been respected from the start.

05/10/2025

My brain:
– “Omg this is an important thought, I need to write it down somewhere.”

Me:
– opens 18 apps at once
– writes one sentence in Notes
– drops a bit in Messenger (to myself, of course)
– screenshots a comment that inspired me
– then forgets everything.

Result: I’ve got 27 blog drafts.
None of them complete.
But each one feels like a little fragment of my mirror. ^^

04/10/2025

“But it’s your mother
”
Yes. And?

Just because someone gave you life doesn’t mean you owe them yours.

You have the right to set boundaries.
You have the right to say: “No, I deserve better than this.”
Even if it’s your father.
Even if it’s your sister.
Even if it’s family.

Blood ties are not a free pass to disrespect you or make you feel like crap.

They chose to have a child.
You didn’t choose anything.
You were just a little human who deserved real love. And if you didn’t get that
 the weight isn’t yours to carry.

You don’t owe them anything.
Not your presence.
Not your forgiveness.
Not your mental health.

You’re not selfish for protecting yourself.
You’re not ungrateful for cutting contact.

The ones who expect you to silently take the hurt “because it’s family”
 maybe they’re the ones who should take a look at themselves.

Choosing inner peace isn’t betraying your family.
It’s choosing yourself, finally.
And you have the right. It’s YOUR life.

04/10/2025

Having ADHD is literally building a fortress of screenshots and bookmarks
 that you never open again.

Every day, I take screenshots like I’m on a rescue mission for brilliant ideas. A TikTok to rewatch. A recipe I’ll never make. A quote that hit me. A meme that felt “SO ME” (but that I’ll forget in 3 minutes).

And the bookmarks? I’ve got 412 saved in Chrome. Have I gone back to even ONE of those pages? Absolutely not.

It’s like my brain says: “We’re gonna forget this, so let’s save it.”
But then: “Now that it’s saved
 we can forget it for real.” 😌

My phone and laptop are graveyards of good intentions. xD
Galleries of “I didn’t want to forget this”
 ironically, forgotten.

But hey. I like to think every screenshot, every bookmark
 is proof that my brain tries. That it wants to hold onto things. That it thinks they matter.

Even if, in reality, I’ll just keep piling them up and only rediscover them six months later during a random cleanup 🙃

03/10/2025

The language you use with yourself
 your brain hears it, and it takes it in.

When you say, “I’m so stupid,” your brain records it.
When you tell yourself, “I’m always failing,” your body feels it as stress.

Language isn’t neutral. It’s conditioning.

And sometimes, just changing ONE word makes all the difference.
“I’m useless” becomes “This is tough.”
“I failed” becomes “I’m still learning.”

Your brain takes all of this seriously.
So talk to it the way you’d talk to someone you love.
Not like you’re your own worst boss.

03/10/2025

The word “motivation” is messed up.
We use it for everything, but most of the time
 it doesn’t actually mean anything.

It’s not that you’re not motivated.
It’s that you’re exhausted. And wanting to do something doesn’t refill an empty battery.

It’s not about willpower.
You’re not lazy. You might just be lost, overwhelmed, or frozen by stress.

It’s not a magic potion.
Motivation isn’t “you either have it or you don’t.” Most of the time, it’s about meaning, not force.

Have you ever thought you were just “unmotivated,” when really
 you were just in survival mode?

02/10/2025

I’m not difficult. I have needs.

You can call it “rigidity.”
You can say I’m “complicated.”
But in the end
 I’ve just learned to stop ignoring what my body and brain are trying to tell me.

I need routines.
I need to know what to expect.
I need certain sounds, certain textures, certain anchors to feel okay in my day.

And no, it’s not a whim.
It’s a survival strategy.
Because living in a world that constantly pushes you around is exhausting.

And those needs? They allow me to stay functional
 but more importantly, to stay me.

So no, I’m not “too sensitive,” “too rigid,” or “too intense.”
I’m attentive.
To myself.

And that’s a strength.

01/10/2025

ou can’t heal by hating yourself.
But honestly
 that’s almost what we’re taught.

Be kind, but not too kind.
Express your emotions, but not too loudly.
Be resilient, but never crack.

And when you’re at your limit? Then it’s “just take care of yourself”
 as if that were easy.

Over time, you start to believe the problem is you.
But it’s not. The problem is the damn double standard.

Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, it’s never “just enough”?
Comment or drop a đŸ«‚ if this hits home.

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