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Gabrielle Bentley, Mayfield (2025)

30/11/2025

No tapping out.
No shame spiral.
Just me, my breath, my body, and a completely re-coded mindset.

This is what people don’t talk about:
you don’t just run with your legs, you run with your shadows.

Once I saw the pattern, I realised how it shows up everywhere:
→ focusing on what hurts
→ amplifying what’s hard
→ assuming it’s too much
→ stepping out the moment discomfort hits

The month of “no running” wasn’t a setback.
It was the setup.

I wasn’t losing fitness, I was rebuilding the part of me that needed to heal for me to ever break 5km.

The old me would’ve said:
“You haven’t run in a month. You’ll lose everything.”

The Re-Conscious version of me said:
“No. You’re strengthening the identity that doesn’t quit at discomfort anymore.”

New level.
New identity.
New distance.

Today I didn’t just run 5k.
I ran a shadow out of my nervous system.

If you want to find your shadows comment “Digest” and I’ll send you my free digest method so you can change your life to

29/11/2025

If you have a distorted relationship to healing itself,
you will never actually sit with the real wound.
You’ll only sit with the feelings created by self-judgment.

Think about it:

If you feel shame about still needing to heal…
you won’t sit with the actual pattern,
you’ll just sit with the shame.

If you believe “I should be further ahead by now,”
you won’t sit with the memory or the pain,
you’ll sit with the pressure of trying to be “further ahead.”

If you guilt-trip yourself with
“I’m not doing enough,”
you’re not doing shadow work,
you’re doing self-attack.

Which means:

You never get to the root.
You never get to the truth.
You never get to look back at your life and ask,
“What actually happened?”
“What did I need?”
“What do I want to do differently next time?”

Because your system is too busy fighting you.

This is why right-relation matters.

If your relationship to healing is full of shame, urgency, guilt, avoidance, or “I should be further ahead”…
your attention will always get hijacked.
Not by the trauma
but by the noise around it.

You can’t study your pattern if the entire time you’re drowning in judgment about the fact the pattern exists.

You can’t hold discomfort if the discomfort immediately gets turned into
“I’m failing,”
“I’m behind,”
or “I shouldn’t feel this.”

You can’t build self-trust if you never get to explore the actual material
you only recycle the feelings born from self-criticism.

Right-relation is what creates capacity.

Capacity is what lets you sit long enough for the nervous system to discharge.
Capacity is what lets you cry without shame.
Capacity is what lets you examine a moment and ask,
“What could I have done differently so I never abandon myself like that again?”

This is how self-trust is built:
Not through perfection, through self-knowledge.

Healing doesn’t fail because you’re broken.
Healing fails because your relationship to the process is blocked.

Fix the relationship.
Rebuild the capacity.
Then the real healing finally becomes available.

26/11/2025

The thing no one tells you about self-sabotage is this:

It’s not happening because you’re weak.
It’s happening because you’ve never been taught how to be with yourself.

Most people don’t binge, scroll, procrastinate, keep toxic friendships, stay in sh*tty jobs, or lose themselves in work because they want to.

They do it because silence terrifies them.
Stillness exposes them.
Slowing down forces them to meet a truth they’ve been avoiding for years.

Your “bad habits” aren’t the problem.
They’re the symptom of the emotional skills you never learned.

You weren’t taught how to feel your feelings.
You weren’t taught how to track your patterns.
You weren’t taught how to sit with discomfort without collapsing or fixing.

So now every time life gets loud…
you reach for whatever numbs the volume.
Food.
Phone.
Plans.
Busyness.
Future fantasies.
Another healer.
Another reset Monday.

It’s not because you’re a mess.
It’s because you’re disconnected from yourself.

Real healing isn’t about getting stronger.
It’s about finally getting honest.

Honest enough to admit you’re avoiding yourself.
Honest enough to see your role in your chaos.
Honest enough to stop outsourcing your power to dopamine hits and new beginnings.

If you actually want to change your patterns, you have to learn how to stay with yourself long enough to understand what the f**k is happening inside you.

That’s what Re-Conscious teaches you.

A method that meets you where you actually are,
not where you pretend you should be.

25/11/2025

Here’s the thing I wish you understood about healing, because this alone could change everything…

Most people aren’t healing, they’re just collecting methods & mistaking temporary calm for transformation.
That tiny exhale isn’t healing… it’s your system grabbing a breath before it spirals again.

Real healing shows up after.
After is where your behaviour tells the truth.
After is where you see the pattern shift.
After is where evidence lives.

24/11/2025

I went away this weekend for breathwork teacher training, three full days of breathing, feeling, & remembering what it means to be in a body again.

We didn’t learn from textbooks… we learned from the silence between exhales… from what came up when we stopped running… from the way the room mirrored every part of us still trying to “get it right.”

By day two, I stopped waiting for the curriculum to start… because I realised it already had. The lesson wasn’t in the theory, it was in how we showed up when there was nothing left to perform.

Here’s what three days of breath taught me 👇🏼

1️⃣ If you don’t get what you want, you learned how not to be… & that’s powerful. Every “no” reveals a version of you that’s no longer in resonance with what you say you want.

2️⃣ You can always become more regulated. Healing doesn’t end when the chaos stops… it deepens when your body can stay open while others fall into your old pattern.

3️⃣ Most people are healing as if they’re lost. You’re not lost… you just don’t have the language or context to see yourself clearly yet, because you don’t fully know who you are. The more you’re in rooms that require direct growth, the faster you’ll see what you’ve been missing. You need to be around people who know what they want, so they can teach you how to know what you want and how to actually give it to yourself. 💀it’s one thing to know and another to embody.

11/11/2025

Because stillness exposes the feelings, the thoughts, the stories your system has been running from… even if you don’t realise it’s running.

So instead of softening, your brain does what it’s been trained to do:
speed up, dump stress, create chaos, pull you straight back into what’s familiar.

Not because you’re “bad at meditating.”
Not because you lack discipline.
Because overwhelm has been home base for so long that calm feels foreign… and foreign feels unsafe.

This morning I dropped straight into the loop:
“I’m tired. I can’t focus. I don’t want to do this. Here’s everything that’s wrong…”

And then I caught it.

And instead of fighting my mind or trying to hack my way into stillness, I asked:

“Can I give myself ten minutes where I’m not a problem to solve?”

Everything shifted.

Because patterns don’t break through pressure.
They break the moment you meet yourself differently
with awareness instead of attack,
permission instead of panic.

If meditation feels hard for you, there’s nothing wrong with you.
Your system is simply more fluent in overwhelm than in peace.

Stillness isn’t unsafe.
It’s just new.
And your body can learn new… one regulated moment at a time.

11/11/2025

When you start healing, you think the goal is to get better.
To stop the panic.
To end the triggers.
To finally be “over it.”

But the real shift happens when you realise healing isn’t about becoming untouchable
it’s about becoming intimate with what touches you.

The moment you can name what’s happening instead of shaming it
that’s when power starts to come back online.

Because you can’t change what you keep running from.
You can only integrate what you’re willing to witness.

This is what Re-Conscious teaches not how to escape your reactions,
but how to understand them so deeply that they no longer control you.

If you’re tired of chasing healing
and ready to build a real relationship with yourself,
comment CLOSER I’ll send you the details.

05/11/2025

You don’t need more discipline,
Or another diet or a better routine 🤣
you need awareness.

Because if discipline could fix your patterns,
you would have fixed them by now.

Shadow work isn’t about forcing change,
it’s about learning to see the part of you that’s running the show.

That’s what we do inside Re-Conscious…
we decode the survival patterns you’ve normalised,
so you can finally live from self-trust instead of self-protection.

[Most people try to control their shadow,
I’ll teach you how to understand it.] 💀

04/11/2025

You’re not broken. You’re just still running the program that once kept you safe.

And if you want to heal, you need to get brutally honest about how that program is still serving you.

Because it is.

🤝 People-pleasing keeps you safe from being disliked you’d rather abandon yourself than risk someone else’s disappointment.

🔥 Burnout gives you proof you’re trying hard enough if you’re exhausted, no one can call you lazy.

💔 Over-giving buys you connection if you’re needed, you can’t be left.

⚙️ Control makes you feel powerful it stops you from ever feeling helpless again.

🗣️ Over-explaining keeps you safe from misunderstanding, you’re still trying to convince people to see the real you.

🧊 Emotional shutdown protects you from rejection, if you numb first, no one else gets to hurt you.

Every single one of these patterns serves you.
They’re not random, they’re survival.

And that’s the shadow work:
Learning how your sabotage still feeds you.
So you can finally stop pretending you’re broken
and start learning how to feel safe without the pattern.

🌙 This is what I teach inside Re-Conscious, how to uncover your shadow patterns and survival codes, so you can stop surviving and start leading your life from awareness.

If you’re ready to understand your pattern and start re-coding it, comment SHADOW below I’ll send you the details.

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