Becca Clegg LPC

10/27/2025

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"Self-respect should be a natural state for you, just as it is for all of the animal kingdom. There's no raccoon out there that believes itself unworthy of what it intends to have!" 🦝

10/27/2025

Have you ever thought about the fact that all babies are born able to cry and inclined to do so fairly often? As we age, cultural messaging would have us believe that we are supposed to outgrow this biological release mechanism, but is that actually true? Or is the denial of crying really a cultural standard that harms us? I wrote a little blog about my thoughts regarding crying and the shame we feel about it.

Tears Are Medicine: The Science and Soul of Why Crying Heals by Becca Clegg | AnxietyYour tears are not a sign of weakness. They are the sacred evidence of the depth of your human experience.I’m a trauma therapist, so it’s implied that I might witness people cry in session. But I can’t tell yo...

10/03/2025

I recently completed level 1 training in Brainspotting, a somatic intervention that integrated nicely into any trauma / psychotherapy model. I'm excited to be able to incorporate this into the work I am doing with clients.

When we go through difficult or traumatic experiences, the impact often lingers in ways we don’t always understand. Sometimes it shows up as anxiety, body tension, or emotional triggers that feel “out of the blue.” Traditional talk therapy can be incredibly helpful, but words don’t always re...

09/16/2025

Lately, I’ve felt it too — the heaviness. The ache of the world pressing in.

With so much violence, political chaos, and collective fear… it’s easy to feel like things are falling apart — both out there and inside us.

💔 If your nervous system feels on edge, if your heart feels raw, if your emotions feel big and unruly — you’re not broken. You’re human.

This is what happens when the world is on fire:
We feel it in our bodies.
We carry it in our hearts.
We try to hold it all — and it’s a lot.

But here’s the truth:
✨ Feeling your feelings doesn’t make you weak. It makes you wise.
Your emotions are not enemies to be managed — they are alchemical messengers.

When we allow ourselves to unravel,
When we breathe through the heartbreak and the overwhelm,
When we stay with ourselves through the discomfort…

We transmute it.
We don’t bypass it — we integrate it.
This is how we adapt. How we grow. How we stay human in a world that often forgets how.

So if you’re feeling tender, reactive, numb, or cracked open —
Let it be sacred.
Let it move.
Let it teach you how to become even more of yourself.

🌿 This is emotional alchemy. And it’s allowed here.

🕊️ Tell me below — how are you really feeling right now?

09/15/2025

In a world where traditional leadership often leans towards the aggressive and authoritative, the power of feminine energy in leadership is increasingly being recognized for its unique and transformative qualities. Embracing feminine energy in leadership is about fostering collaboration and connection rather than focusing on domination and delegation. This approach to leadership nurtures an environment where individuals feel valued, heard, and motivated to contribute their best.

Feminine energy in leadership emphasizes empathy, intuition, and emotional intelligence. Leaders who embody these traits are adept at understanding the needs and motivations of their teams, creating a supportive atmosphere that encourages open communication and mutual respect. By prioritizing collaboration, these leaders inspire collective problem-solving and innovation, drawing on the diverse strengths and perspectives of their team members.

Ultimately, applying feminine energy to leadership is about redefining what it means to lead effectively. It's about shifting the focus from power and control to nurturing and empowering others. This is what we do as therapists, we walk beside you, helping you discover your true power and voice. You are the healer, we just help you find the way home - to yourself.

09/14/2025

Devotion is a reflection of where we choose to invest our time and energy. Often, we are led to believe that our worth is tied to our accomplishments, possessions, and social standing. This mindset pushes us to constantly strive for more, thinking that these external validations will enhance our self-esteem. However, this pursuit can distract us from the true essence of our existence. We are not here to validate our worth through external achievements. Instead, it's important to remember that we are inherently perfect, just as we are. Embracing this understanding allows us to focus on what truly matters and find fulfillment in simply being.

09/14/2025

The nervous system is a complex network vital for managing stress. It can become stuck in a sympathetic state, causing chronic stress and anxiety, or shift into a parasympathetic state, leading to dissociation or depression. These responses are natural survival mechanisms but can disrupt life when chronic. Be kind and listen to your body—it's not broken, just trying to survive.

09/12/2025

✨ Sometimes we carry burdens that were never truly ours.
The expectations. The roles. The “shoulds” passed down by family, culture, or circumstance. We wear them like they belong to us, until they feel so heavy we forget they were never meant to be carried in the first place.

I know this deeply because I’ve lived it. For much of my life, I believed it was my job to manage other people’s emotions. I carried the weight of their moods, their comfort, their happiness—convinced that if I just pleased enough, gave enough, or kept the peace enough, everything would be okay.

But here’s the truth: those burdens were never mine. They were stories I picked up and held onto, until they became so familiar I thought they were part of me.

You don’t have to carry what was never yours to begin with.

Healing isn’t about taking on more—it’s about releasing what doesn’t belong to you. It’s about setting down the weight of other people’s feelings and remembering that your worth is not tied to how well you manage anyone else’s experience.

💜 Today, I invite you to notice what feels heavy and ask: Is this truly mine? Or have I been holding it because I thought I had to?

You are allowed to return it. You are allowed to be free.

09/09/2025

There is still time to sign up! Join us next Friday:) Tara Guest Arnold and I are presenting for the Knowledge Tree again next month. Please join us for 6 CEU's, and learn all about the intersection of Somatic Therapy and RO DBT. September 19th.

Go deeper into the integration of IFS and Polyvagal Theory in this 6 CE hour live webinar on 6/30. Sign up now!

08/22/2025

I turn 49 today. i’m not sure how that’s possible- I feel somewhere between 16-30-something most of the time. Age is funny because we are told it’s something to fear, and yet as you experience it, it is rather liberating to realize i’ve been alive and have made it for almost half a century!

Today I spent the day meandering through a beautiful town in coastal Maine. How did I even get here?? I am full of gratitude. I’m proud of the girl that I was, she went through quite a bit to get here; I’m proud of the woman I am and am becoming. Nothing about me is perfect, including the relationship I have with myself but i’m really proud of the commitment I made to healing myself and loving myself through recovery and life many years ago, that commitment has brought me to where I am today. The relationship we have with ourselves is probably the most powerful and important relationship we will ever cultivate in this life. ❤️ May this be the best year yet. 😊🙌

08/12/2025

Tara Guest Arnold and I are presenting for the Knowledge Tree again next month. Please join us for 6 CEU's, and learn all about the intersection of Somatic Therapy and RO DBT. September 19th.

Go deeper into the integration of IFS and Polyvagal Theory in this 6 CE hour live webinar on 6/30. Sign up now!

07/29/2025

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Burnout.

It's a cultural right of passage at this point in our evolution. I wish it weren't this way, but as far as I can see, it is happening to more people than it isn't. I just don't think our bodies were designed to live at the speed our culture is demanding.

I am not impervious to this at all, in fact, I have been dancing with burnout experiences for the better part of the last decade. I try to apply all of my tools, and to practice what I preach. I recently downsized my life, left the busy urban environment for a life in a smaller town, with a slower space that gives me connection to nature and room to think. And even now it is still hard to disconnect and find my inner balance. Barring completely going off grid (which just isn't in the cards for me:), there is no escaping the demands of this world. I realized that you can only change so much “out there”; the real work is internal.

This world demands our attention 24/7, and there is very little room for just “being”. It is very hard to carve out the space to clear your mind and reconnect with your soul. Those of us who are trying are doing our best, but its hard to catch your breath when you are caught up in the inertia of a cultural norm.

The cultural demand for hyper-activity is unconscious. It is in the body, stored as nervous systems that are stuck in and running on sympathetic activation. It is internalized as all of the “shoulds” we run in our minds as expectations of ourselves throughout the day.

It is neither our fault, nor sign of anything “wrong” with us when we experience burnout, but it is our responsibility to take care of ourselves. If we don't, the world is not going to slow down and no one is coming to save us. We must prioritize ourselves, and set boundaries against the demands and norms that don't. I wrote a recent blog about it, and I hope it can help you reconnect with your desire to choose how you want to live, and how you want to take care of yourself in a world that doesn't prioritize true balance.

You are worth it.

I used to work all the time. I was constantly taking on new projects, joining this board and that club. It was only when my body began to talk to me, telling me I had to stop, that I began to create boundaries and learn to slow down.