Heidi Dellaire

02/21/2026

Are you triggered around the people you love? That's your nervous system replaying decades-old data in the background. Check out this new article to learn how to soften the triggering.

Are you tired of feeling triggered by everyone you love? Learn how to soften feeling triggered by your family members.

02/19/2026

𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬, “𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞” 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐭:
• being easy
• being quiet
• being less “sensitive”
• never rocking the boat

So we squeeze ourselves into tiny versions of who we are…
and then wonder why we feel so anxious, lonely, or angry inside relationships.

Here’s the hard truth with a soft edge:

If you have to shrink to be loved, that isn’t love.
That’s your nervous system trying not to be abandoned.

Real love makes more room for you.
It doesn’t ask you to disappear.

𝐈𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐰𝐞’𝐫𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨:
• calm your body when old patterns flare up
• say what’s true without spiraling
• stop chasing people who only love the smaller version of you

We’re doing this through:

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝟏𝟎 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐚𝐥𝐦 & 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞 (21 days, 10 minutes or less)
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐅𝐞𝐛𝐫𝐮𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞: 𝐑𝐞𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞

If your heart is tired of shrinking to keep the peace…
this is your sign to try a different way.

👉 𝐓𝐚𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐛𝐢𝐨 𝐨𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 "𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐋" 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝟕-𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐅𝐑𝐄𝐄 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲.
Come learn how to stay you and still feel safe in love.

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02/18/2026

𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞’𝐬 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬…
𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐦 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭.

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐭𝐲 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧:
• you don’t jump to answer every message
• you say “no” instead of “it’s fine”
• you choose a quiet night for your nervous system instead of pushing through

𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡:
• Your calm is not selfish.
• Your calm is safety.
• For your body. For your heart. For your future relationships.

Inside Heal Your Story Community, we’re practicing this in real time through the:
🕊️ 10 Minutes to Calm & Connection Challenge
and
🌹 February Healing Practice: Reclaiming Love

We’re working on:
• feeling less triggered by the people closest to you
• being more yourself in relationships without so much anxiety
• turning some of the love you give away back toward your own heart

You don’t have to figure this out alone or “be stronger.”
You just need a calm, safe place to practice.

👉 𝐓𝐚𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐛𝐢𝐨 𝐨𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 "𝐂𝐀𝐋𝐌" 𝐭𝐨 𝐣𝐨𝐢𝐧 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝟕-𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐥.

Come sit with us. Your calm is welcome here. 💛

02/17/2026

Inside the Heal Your Story Community
https://www.skool.com/heal-your-story-heidi-dellaire/about

02/16/2026

𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 “𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐲,” 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠...
𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠.

And if that’s you… it makes sense.

Because when your body expects pushback, judgment, shutdown, or escalation, it starts scanning for danger before you even open your mouth. You rehearse. You soften. You over-explain. You try to prevent the reaction.

Here’s a small reset you can try the next time you feel that bracing rise up:
• Unclench your jaw
• Drop your shoulders
• Exhale slowly like you’re fogging a mirror (3 times)
• Say one true sentence. Not the whole paragraph.

Something like:
“I want to talk about this, and I need a minute to stay grounded.”

This is exactly the kind of real-life practice we do inside the Heal Your Story Community—so you can feel steady in your body, not just “better at words.”

𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐚 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝟕-𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐥, 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 "𝐂𝐀𝐋𝐌" 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈’𝐥𝐥 𝐃𝐌 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐤.

02/14/2026

𝐕𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐞’𝐬 𝐃𝐚𝐲 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐭… 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐝.

If you’re feeling tender today—more reactive, more lonely, more “on edge”—it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. It just means your nervous system is paying attention.

Here’s a simple reset:

• Relax your jaw
• Drop your shoulders
• Breathe out slowly for a count of 6 (three times)

Then ask: “What do I need right now?”
Reassurance? Connection? Space? Rest?

And if you’re partnered and feeling activated, try this one sentence:
“I want to stay close to you. I just need a minute to settle.”

If you want support with relationship anxiety and emotional regulation, comment 𝐂𝐀𝐋𝐌 and I’ll DM you a 𝐅𝐑𝐄𝐄 𝟕-𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐇𝐘𝐒 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲.

02/13/2026

February's Healing Practice, "Reclaiming Love: Turning Valentine’s Inward", is available inside the Heal Your Story Community. Info in the Comments Below.

02/11/2026

𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐲 𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭.

It looks like:
• Saying “no” when you’re used to saying “it’s fine”
• Feeling guilty for setting a boundary
• Noticing how much you’ve been shrinking yourself in relationships

And your nervous system might be on high alert the whole time.

If you’ve been:

• Easily triggered by family or your partner
• Afraid to be your full self in relationships
• Exhausted from overthinking every text, tone, or look

…I created something for you.

💛 Inside my 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲, we’re doing the
𝟏𝟎 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐚𝐥𝐦 & 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞 — 21 days of:

• Short daily calm practices (10 minutes or less)
• Support around triggers, boundaries, and people-pleasing
•Simple tools to help you feel safer being you in your relationships

You can 𝐭𝐫𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝟕 𝐝𝐚𝐲𝐬 and see how it feels in your body to have this kind of support.

👉 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝟏𝟎 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐚𝐥𝐦 & 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞:
https://www.skool.com/heal-your-story-heidi-dellaire/about

If your heart is tired of shrinking to keep the peace, this is your invitation to begin a calmer, kinder chapter with yourself. 🌿💛

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02/06/2026

𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐚𝐧𝐱𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐞𝐱𝐡𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠.
The overthinking. The guarding. The “what did I do wrong?”

Inside the Heal Your Story Community, we’re doing the 𝟏𝟎 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐚𝐥𝐦 & 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞 — quick daily practices that help you feel grounded, clear, and connected again.

Comment 𝐂𝐀𝐋𝐌 and I’ll send you the link. 🕊️

01/31/2026

𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐦 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐛𝐮𝐭𝐭𝐨𝐧… 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐮𝐝𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝟏𝟐 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧?

If that hit a little too hard, you’re not alone. 💛

I created something simple (and actually doable):

𝐓𝐡𝐞 "𝟏𝟎 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐚𝐥𝐦 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞."

You’ll learn how to:

pause before you snap

calm your body when you’re triggered

respond with steadiness (even when she doesn’t change)

feel more like you again

✅ FREE 7-Day Trial inside my Heal Your Story Community.

Comment 𝐂𝐀𝐋𝐌 and I’ll send you the link.

Or go directly here:

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01/28/2026

New Video is up. The reasons why we think we keep choosing the wrong people may surprise you.

Join the "10 Minutes to Calm & Connection Challenge" inside the Heal Your Story Community here: https://www.skool.com/heal-your-story-heidi-dellaire/aboutAre...