Yâel Clark, Developmental Psychologist

31/01/2026

I don't have capacity to publicly unpack my earlier post. I have screenshot it all and will try to address the issues that came up in a future post. Or maybe I won't; the topic is too awful and we all bring our own lived experience as well as different knowledge bases, making it really difficult to talk about online.

One thing I think I can say for sure is that every single person who reacted and/or commented - in agreement or in opposition - is deeply affected by this tragedy and many of us are struggling to comprehend it. Everyone who commented wants only to protect children, to fight for families that are unsupported, and to hold those in power accountable for each and every tragedy.

To people who knew the family, I am sorry for your loss and for the online discourse which must be so painful to you and to which I contributed. I am sorry.

---------
Edited to add: please don't comment on this post. I can't see how to close comments as I do in groups. I will just have to hide or delete.

29/01/2026

I was thrilled to see this new sign at our GP's clinic today.

Sadly, our GP had no idea what the rainbow infinity symbol meant but it gave me the chance to tell him.

Performative or the beginning of real change? 🤔

25/01/2026

Please go to LOAPAC-Neurodiversity Affirming Psychologists Australia to see the links to many of the community events around Australia.

(Alt text is in the first comment below)

27/12/2025

Free/donation webinar about PDA.

Midday Feb 6 (AEDT)

Are you new to learning about PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance/Persistent Drive for Autonomy)? Want a refresher on what PDA is and how to best accommodate it? Are you a teacher or practitioner looking to learn more about a learner or client?You've found the right place. This is a monthly webinar l...

25/12/2025

Wishing all who celebrate Christmas, a day of love, peace, and good food. 🕊️

🎄What do your kids eat at festive meals ?

🍕What would you eat if you could choose your menu? (Maybe you can choose; lucky you!)

(image: tanias_kitchen24)

22/12/2025

This is a Yael (pronounced Yuh-elle). She is an Ibex. She ascends the heights and I aspire to follow in her hoofsteps. Her name, my name, comes from the Hebrew word for ascend and if there are any Torah scholars reading along, you may remember that her name is associated with the chapter of Beha'alotcha, a chapter that is about the construction of the menorah!

And so, I am connected to Chanuka through my name and through my aspiration to forever ascend, to climb as high as I can in wisdom, understanding, and knowledge.

On each night of Chanuka we added another candle, increasing the light. Now Chanuka is over. It is up to us to take the lights and keep shining. Don't lose the clarity that this week brought to so many of us. Even as our natural tribalism and allegiances resume; even as we return to context and analysis, hold on to that moment when we all knew that human rights apply to *everyone*. Stay focused on the fact that safety for many does not mean psychological safety or performative affirmation; it is literally a matter of life and death. Hold on to the deep, unwavering truth that we humans are all climbing this mountain together.

Signed,
Your friendly mountain goat who, while she often stumbles, is intent on tackling life's mountains.

22/12/2025

Today was the last day of Chanukah. I have always posted holiday greetings for Jewish festivals but this year called for more. This year I felt called to harness my social justice efforts and understanding of minority stress (etc.) and focus on my own community.

I still have a lot to say and there is a lot I have written that I have not posted. I think I will pop it all on my non-populated Substack profile.

I still have two posts that I intend to share here and then it will be time for this page to resume normal programming.

What is normal for this page?

* Inconsistent posting! (Thanks, ADHD)
* Monotropic focus (one topic) for a while, then onto the next.
* Self disclosure as a means to connect, empathise, and educate.
* Soap box monologues about social justice issues that intersect
with my lived experience.
Parenting
Anxiety
Autism
ADHD
PDA
Disability
Identity
Diet culture
Youth crime
NDIS
Psychology in Australia
Disability Advocacy
Theory and practice of a human rights approach to
psychology

This past year has been a time of huge learning and growth for me (yes, at the ripe old age of 57!) and my writings and sharings are evolving. I am less worried about what the peanut gallery thinks and more confident in my own path. That doesn't mean I think I am always right, but that I am confident enough to own my mistakes and to grow from them. As for the peanut gallery, that refers to people who do not treat others with the same respect they demand for themselves or people who pose questions just to undermine or for snark. They can go find other pages to follow and I will have no compunction in blocking them or hiding their comments (there has been quite a bit of that this past week).

So....if you read this far and you want to stick around....them's the rules. My page. My platform. Happy to dialogue with folk who bring goodwill and intention to learn or educate with kindness and affirmation of my neurotype. I extend the same to you.

20/12/2025

Just sitting quietly with my thoughts and emotions. On Saturday night, at the end of the Sabbath, it is a Jewish tradition to wish each other a good week.

Shavua tov.

Last week we had no clue as to what lay ahead. We were eagerly anticipating Chanukkah. What will this week bring?

I know it will bring new difficulties because, as the news cycle rolls on, analysis and blame will resume centre stage.

This is natural but the only way that good will come out of it, is if we keep the clarity of this week alive; the clarity that we are all united just by virtue of being human.

So, I wish us all a shavua tov, a week that makes manifest the Jewish mourning saying, "May their memory be for a blessing."

18/12/2025

It is natural for our thoughts and conversation to turn to analysis after the initial shock settles, but let's keep our focus on lived experience. This will anchor our analysis, stop us from losing sight of our common humanity even as we turn to politics and wider human rights concerns.

(P.S. This is the young man in the photo with my cousin in my earlier post.)

https://www.facebook.com/reel/1210083234386404

18/12/2025

My cousin, a paramedic, was down at the scene. Every day he tends to the emergencies of the people of Sydney. On this day the emergency was mere blocks from his own home and the people he tended to were well known to him.

I cannot imagine this double whammy of vicarious and direct trauma. And yet if you look at the first photo in the comments, there he is in hospital visiting one of the injured and keeping everyone's spirits up.

I'm proud of you cuz.