Annelize le Roux Life Coach Practitioner

04/11/2025

When an adult child finally finds the strength to stand up to a narcissistic parent, they rarely just lose their peace, they often lose their entire family, because in families built on lies and control, truth becomes too expensive to afford.
When the child speaks up, the family suddenly says they “don’t want to get involved,” yet when the narcissist speaks, everyone hangs on their lips as if every word is sacred truth.
Family members often guilt-trip the child with phrases like “But it’s your mother” or “It’s your father, show some respect,” forgetting that the child has been showing respect for years by tolerating emotional, verbal, and sometimes even physical abuse.
Setting boundaries is not disrespect, it’s self-respect and a refusal to continue generational cycles of silence and manipulation.
The narcissistic parent will often play the victim, twisting the story and doing everything possible to discredit the oldest child, who is usually the one fighting hardest for peace and truth. Yet the family views this strength as rebellion, not realizing that the child’s courage is what real love looks like.
As Jesus said in Matthew 10:34–36, “Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword,” showing that standing for truth may even divide a household. Many love to quote “Honor your father and mother” (Exodus 20:12) but forget that Ephesians 6:4 commands, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them,” and Colossians 3:21 warns, “Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.”
Respect does not mean accepting abuse, and honor does not mean enabling sin. God never called His children to worship their parents He called them to walk in truth and love.
So when the adult child finally says “Enough,” they are not breaking the family apart; they are breaking generational curses, choosing healing over hypocrisy, truth over image, and peace over pretense.
Because sometimes, the most loving thing you can do for a toxic family system is to stop participating in its lies.
That child will never ever tolerate any form of control on manipulation ever again.

27/10/2025

Never assume a mother poisoned your child’s heart against you. Children don’t need to be told who failed them, they feel it, they know. They notice who showed up. They remember who reached out with love, understanding and compassion and who only reached for excuses.

They notice the quiet. The promises that vanished into silence, and the empty place in their hearts. You might think they don’t understand, but they do. Long before they can explain it, they carry the ache of being second to everything else that mattered more to you.

Children remember. They remember the treatment, the begging, the excuses, the example, the moments of chaos, the embarrassments, the loneliness, the harsh words, and the false promises, the lies. They remember the nights they cried themselves to sleep and the mornings they woke up pretending everything was fine. Those memories don’t fade just because time passes, they cut deep inside the heart you neglected.

So stop blaming the mother for the distance you created. While you were gone, she became both comfort and protector, the steady heartbeat of a home you walked away from. She’s been the one showing up every single day, drying tears, paying bills, and filling the void your absence carved into their lives. She didn’t turn your child’s heart cold. Neglect did that all by itself.

And let’s be clear, you can’t expect a mother to fix a relationship she didn’t break. You can’t demand her to heal wounds she didn’t cause. And you certainly can’t expect children to just look the other way and move on as if they weren’t deeply hurt. Healing takes truth, consistency, and accountability not guilt, manipulation, control and excuses.

You, as the emotionally absent parent, have taught your children something powerful, how to not only live, but to thrive without you. In your silence, they found strength. In your absence, they built resilience. A mother will do everything to protect her children; you did everything to destroy them.
Yes - we are not the same.

Love isn’t a cheap speech. It isn’t a late "sorry" wrapped in no regret no remorse. Love is consistency. It’s presence. It’s effort, quiet, steady, safe and real.

Children are so incredibly strong. My children saved my life in a way that I owe them my healing, support and understanding for their choices. They became my reason to rise, my reminder of what love truly means, not in words, but in action.

And one day, when your child looks back, it won’t be your words they remember, it’ll be your actions. In that silence, they’ll know exactly who you were.

FISA VERSA

22/10/2025

Even with evidence, a narcissist will still lie. You could literally show them a video of themselves doing it and they’d say, “That’s not me, that’s deepfake technology.” They’ll convince everyone else you are the crazy one “She’s imagining things again.” Oh, of course, because the imaginary screenshots, texts, photos, videos and witnesses all just appeared out of thin air.

Then comes their favorite line: “That’s not what happened.” Right, because in their version of events, they’re the innocent victim who just accidentally destroyed your peace of mind. They’ll even try to silence you, smear you, or suddenly play the poor me card to anyone who’ll listen.

And if you dare to speak up? Prepare for the punishment tour, full of guilt trips, manipulation, and crocodile tears. They hate being exposed. Narcissists treat truth like vampires treat sunlight.

But here’s the best part: even if it feels like justice won’t be served, every lie they tell just adds another brick to their self-made downfall. Narcissist lies have an expiry date, and when they rot, oh boy, the smell gives them away.

So yeah, some people collect stamps or coins... others, like us, collect evidence. Years’ worth of it. Because one day, when that house of lies collapses, it’s going to make a beautiful sound.

20/10/2025

People’s actions speak far louder than their excuses, their “sorrys,” or their explanations for wrongdoing.
Too often, we are conditioned to love harder, try more, forgive too easily, for fake "sorrys" without changed behavior and turn a blind eye to the pain others cause.
But respect, integrity, and genuine change cannot be begged for, they are choices others must make for themselves. Some people’s moral compass is irreparably broken, and spending years trying to fix what we didn’t break is exhausting.
You cannot change someone who thrives on selfishness or deceit; real change comes only when a person decides to change. Accept reality. Protect your heart. Protect your mind. Don’t waste your best years on people who constantly drain you. Love yourself enough to walk away when love, respect and decency are absent.

20/10/2025

The audience may clap while you sit there, stunned, wondering if you’ve stumbled into a psychological thriller, but don’t worry, every performance has its finale. Eventually, the script unravels, their lines contradict, and that carefully glued-on mask starts to crack. The spotlight shifts, sympathy fades, and the truth begins to echo louder than their lies. So sit back, let their theater of deceit crumble under the weight of its own performance, and watch as justice takes the stage. Because when the curtain finally falls, the world won’t be applauding the actor, it will be standing for the truth. And this time, the spotlight shines on you, not as the victim of their show, but as the proof that justice always delivers its encore.

13/10/2025

💪 1. Endurance Is Born Through Resistance

Just like muscles grow when pushed against weight, your spirit strengthens through hardship. Every obstacle is resistance training for your soul.
When life presses you, it’s not to break you, it’s to build your capacity. You learn patience, persistence, and emotional resilience not in comfort, but in chaos.

“We rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, endurance produces character, and character produces hope.” Romans 5:3-4

🔥 2. Character Is Revealed, Not Created, in the Fire

Struggle doesn’t make you someone new, it reveals who you truly are beneath the surface.
When things fall apart, masks drop. The way you respond, with integrity or bitterness, compassion or anger, shows the real foundation of your character.
Each trial is a refining fire. Gold isn’t destroyed by flame; it’s purified by it.

🙏 3. Faith Is Strengthened When Sight Fails

When you can’t see the way forward, that’s when faith steps in. Faith isn’t believing because you see; it’s trusting even when you don’t.
You learn to depend on God (or your deeper convictions) instead of your own limited strength. Every time you refuse to give up, even when the outcome is uncertain, your faith roots itself deeper.

🌱 4. Perspective Turns Pain Into Purpose

Struggle can either make you bitter or better, the difference is perspective.
If you view challenges as punishment, you’ll collapse under them.
If you see them as preparation, you’ll rise from them stronger, wiser, and more grounded.
Character, endurance, and faith grow when you ask, “What is this teaching me?” instead of “Why me?”

⚡ 5. Consistency in the Small Things Builds Strength for the Big Ones

The daily choice to keep showing up, to pray when you’re tired, to work when you feel hopeless, to love when you’ve been hurt, that’s how endurance and faith are built.
Character isn’t built in grand gestures but in quiet, repeated decisions to do what’s right even when it costs you.

🔥Struggle refines you, not defines you.
Endurance teaches you how to stand.
Character shows you who you are.
Faith reminds you why you stand at all.

07/10/2025

The person you choose to walk through life with will shape so much more than your days — they’ll touch your peace, your joy, your growth, and the way you see your own worth.

Love isn’t just sparks and attraction; it’s sacred alignment. It’s choosing someone whose presence feels like calm in chaos, whose energy restores what the world drains, and whose heart speaks the same language as your soul.

The right love won’t weigh you down — it will lift the pressure off your shoulders. It will help you breathe easier, dream deeper, and stand stronger.

So choose love that builds you, not one that breaks nor drains you.
Choose the partnership that feels like home — steady, safe, and full of grace

07/10/2025

Visa versa⚠️
Men don’t seek counseling… they seek new women.
Not healing. Not accountability. Not growth. Just a new audience for the same tired performance. A woman who hasn’t seen the act yet. Someone still clapping for the “nice guy” he pretends to be before she finds out what’s behind the curtain — the ego, the manipulation, the emotional chaos he calls “just how I am.”

Because why fix the mess when you can just move into someone else’s peace, right?
Why unpack the trauma when you can rebrand it as “bad experiences”?
Why take responsibility when you can gaslight your own history?

Therapy? Nah, that’s too honest. Too real. Instead, he goes back to being “that guy.”
The one with the rehearsed charm, the fake humility, and the tragic backstory that somehow makes him the victim of every relationship he wrecked.
He’s not rebuilding himself — he’s reapplying the mask.

Because healing takes guts. Accountability takes humility. Growth takes actual effort.
And let’s be honest — some men would rather eat glass than admit they were the problem. So they skip the mirror and sprint straight into another woman’s DMs, armed with the same script and a new “baby girl.”

But here’s the cruel joke:
You can change her name, her face, her address — but if the same broken version of you shows up, the ending doesn’t change. It’s the same movie, just a different co-star.

Unhealed men don’t start new chapters. They just reprint the last one with new cover art.

Ladies, don’t you dare take it personally when he “moves on fast.” That’s not a flex — that’s a coping mechanism. He didn’t upgrade; he reset. He picked someone who doesn’t yet demand the honesty you did, the maturity you earned, the accountability he owes.

Let him lie. Let him perform. Let him keep running — because that man’s greatest fear isn’t losing you. It’s meeting himself.

And for the men reading this — yes, you.
Stop hiding behind your “that’s just how I cope” nonsense. Go to therapy.
Heal so your fake "love" stops being someone else’s lesson.
Do the inner work so your next relationship isn’t just déjà vu in a different dress.

The truth will always demand more than the lie — but it’s the only thing that’ll ever set you free.

28/09/2025

They labeled it “anxiety.” You called it “depression.” The truth? It was narcissistic abuse.

For years, you dragged around a weight that never belonged to you. A poison that clung to your skin. You thought you were the problem—too weak, too emotional, too damaged. You dissected yourself, tore yourself apart, questioning every word, every move, as if you were defective.

But it was never you. It was them—the abuser. A parasite feeding on your doubt. A manipulator twisting your reality, crushing your confidence, making you believe their sickness was your flaw.

28/09/2025

HE’S NOT TELLING PEOPLE WHAT HE DID. HE’S TELLING THEM WHO YOU BECAME BECAUSE OF WHAT HE DID.

That’s his game. That’s the filth of a narcissist. He will never admit to the lies, the betrayals, the promises he shattered, or the way he slowly murdered your spirit one piece at a time. He will never tell people how he chipped away at your confidence until you barely recognized yourself.

No—he rewrites the script.

He leaves out the part where he turned your own family and friends against you, whispering poison into their ears until they doubted you, judged you, and stood on his side. He made them believe you were unstable, while he played the role of the calm, reasonable victim.

He’ll never admit how he treated his children—like burdens, tools, pawns to manipulate. He will even throw them under the bus if it means saving his own skin. Nothing is sacred to him. Not love, not loyalty, not even his own blood.

And in his warped mind, everything belongs to him. Your time, your love, your body, your freedom—even you. You were never seen as a partner, only property.

When responsibility comes knocking, he runs. He hides. He blames. He shifts the weight onto anyone else, then acts like he was the one carrying it all along.

And when you finally break—when the pressure, the betrayal, the manipulation crushes you—he weaponizes even that. He points at your tears, your anger, your exhaustion and says, “See? She’s mentally unstable. She’s the problem.”

He doesn’t say, “I destroyed her.” He says, “Look how crazy she is.”

He doesn’t say, “I pushed her to the edge.” He says, “See how toxic she’s become.”

That’s the trick: he wrecks you, then uses your wreckage as evidence to prove his innocence.

But here’s the truth: you know the beginning of the story, the parts he hides. You know the full picture—the lies, the manipulation, the cruelty. And no matter how many people he fools, deep down he knows exactly what he did.

And one day, when the mask finally slips and the lies collapse, everyone else will know too.

21/09/2025