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06/03/2026

Example: “I’m feeling really frustrated right now and it’s making it hard for me to communicate. I just need a minute to reconnect with myself.”

If you’re sitting here going… “yeah but how do they know what they did was wrong?” They will understand, when they are mature enough. But before you collaborate with your child to find a solution, you need to check-in with yourself. When we take the time to check-in and connect with ourselves before we try to make sense of the situation, we’re more likely to respond, instead of react. What if my child is continuing to hit me or someone else? This is tough because both nervous systems are in sympathetic. You can meet both your needs with a co-regulation strategy that uses force. I like the “push me over game.” I put my palms up and brace myself and my child uses only their palms to try and push me over; highly effective nervous system reset. You can also try to push against a wall if another person is not available.

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03/03/2026

When it comes to social skills, I've found that we often just assume that kids naturally know what to do.

So, instead of teaching them, we get frustrated when they don't handle situations very well.

Knowing how to be a good friend and how to solve conflicts in a positive way is one of those things that many kids need explicit instruction in.

This worksheet is part of an activity set that can be used with or without the book How To Grow A Friend by Sara Gillingham.

It's the perfect way to include some spring fun in your lessons while teaching kids important, life-long skills.

To see the resource in my shop, just comment "bug" and I'll send the link over!

01/03/2026

The beauty of in therapy...

We need more nuance in how we talk about therapeutic approaches for children, and young people

Highly verbal, cognitive strategies have their place. But they’re not universally developmentally appropriate. A teenager-appropriate approach isn’t automatically right for a preschooler or a child just starting school. And equally, not every teenager is ready for a purely cognitive or verbal process — regardless of their age

That’s where play comes in!

I’ve worked with many teenagers who have found their voice through play-based communication — a board game, a metaphor, a moment of shared play — when words alone couldn’t get there

Developmental readiness matters more than chronological age. Play meets children and young people where they are

01/03/2026

🔥ONE WEEK LEFT TO BOOK YOUR SEAT 💫

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📅Dates & ⏰Times:
Sat 7 March 9:00-15:00
Mon-Fri 9-13 March 18:00-21:00 daily
Mon-Thurs 16-19 March 18:00-21:00 daily.

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https://i2we.co.za/play-as-a-means-to-emotional-wellbeing/

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Hope to see you there!🎈

• All health-care professionals working with children and adolescents in a mental health setting.• Previous training and experience in typical child development and child and adolescent mental health is preferable.• Including professions such as medical practitioners, psychologists, occupation...

10/02/2026

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10/02/2026

Screen time expectations, aka the modern parenting puzzle 📱 Instead of arbitrary rules that lead to battles, what if we involved kids in creating boundaries that make sense for everyone?

Find more solutions: https://livesinthebalance.org/

10/02/2026

FREE and open to the public
18 March 14:00

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04/02/2026

“Children are not responsible for making things easy for us. They are here to learn what living is all about.” — Fred Rogers

This is a gentle but important reminder in a world that often asks children to adapt to adult timelines. 🤍

Children aren’t here to be efficient, compliant, or convenient. They’re here to explore, practice, feel deeply, and learn through experience.

Learning how to live takes time:
• time to try and fail
• time to ask questions
• time to move, play, and imagine
• time to build emotional regulation and self-understanding

When we rush children to meet adult expectations, we risk missing what development actually requires — patience, presence, and relationship.

Slowing down doesn’t mean we aren’t guiding them.
It means we’re respecting the pace at which real learning happens.

Save this as a reminder:
Children don’t need to grow up faster — they need space to be children 🌱