Simone Vink Clinical Psychology

06/11/2025

Boundaries aren’t about distance — they’re about clarity.

They tell others, “Here’s how to love me without losing yourself.”

In therapy, I see how often people mistake boundaries for rejection.

But healthy boundaries are an act of connection — they make real intimacy possible.

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25/10/2025

08/06/2025

⏩️ Most people try to change their life with one big effort—one intense workout, one long night of grinding, one burst of motivation. But that’s not how real progress works.

It’s not what you do once that shapes you. It’s what you do every day. Small actions, repeated with discipline, compound into massive change.

The gym session doesn’t matter if you never go back. The business plan is worthless if you don’t follow through. One drop seems like nothing—until years later, it carves stone.

Consistency isn’t flashy. It’s quiet. It’s boring. And it’s exactly why it works.

Keep showing up. Keep dropping water. Because eventually, you’ll look back and realize—you didn’t just move the rock. You shaped it.💧🪨

18/05/2025

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15/05/2025

It’s not what we say—
It’s what we do that leaves the biggest impression.

👀 Kids notice the little things:
• How you handle hard moments
• How you speak to yourself
• If you put down your phone when they say “look!”

They’re learning how to be human by watching you. 💛

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02/05/2025

It’s easy to love our kids when they’re sweet and snuggly, right?

But what about when they’re yelling, melting down, or pushing every last one of our buttons?

That’s when it gets real.

And yet—those are the exact moments they need us the most.

Not to fix them. Not to scold them. Just to stay.

Because underneath that big, messy behavior is a nervous system crying out for safety. And if we lean in instead of pulling away, we send a powerful message:

“I won’t abandon you in your struggle.”

That doesn’t mean we’re permissive. It means we’re anchored.

It’s not about letting the behavior slide—it’s about seeing beyond it.

You can be the calm they borrow until they find their own.

You can show them what love looks like when it’s unconditional.

And even if your child can’t articulate it, deep down they’re hoping—praying—you’ll understand that their hardest moments are really bids for connection. That you’ll know what they can’t say: “I’m not okay. Stay close.”

So let’s be that steady, soft place to land.

Not just when it’s easy. But especially when it’s not.

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24/04/2025

“Connection isn’t a bonus—it’s the baseline for resilience, regulation, and trust.”

As a therapist, I’ve seen the research.
As a parent, I’ve lived the reality.

When kids feel connected—truly seen, heard, and emotionally safe—they’re better able to manage stress, bounce back from challenges, and form healthy relationships.

It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being present.
Consistent, warm, attuned connection is the foundation they build everything else on.

So if you’re worried you’re not doing “enough,” start here:
Show up.
Stay close.
Be curious, not critical.

Connection first—everything else flows from there.

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There’s more on this in my book Guidance from The Therapist Parent, available on my website www.thetherapistparent.com and on Amazon.

24/04/2025

The very first step to raising resilient and emotionally intelligent kids? Show them how it’s done! AKA do your best to model that calm and confident behavior, even when it’s hard. Remember, you won’t get it 100% right all the time, and (spoiler alert) neither will they! It’s a process AND a practice. 😌

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02/04/2025

Fred Rogers was right…

17/02/2025

Maybe I, too, am growing—
even when it doesn’t look like it. 🌷🪻