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19/06/2021

16/05/2021

My Covid Journey

I'm only positing here, because I am eternally grateful that I survived this journey. And of course, as I always say, life is full of lessons. So I have to share my lessons.

Before we get to our lessons let me reflect on covid in my head and covid in reality. I believed that when you are diagnosed (now bear with me) if you know me you know I do not lack in the imagination department... So I really believed that I would receive a visit from people in masks and white suits and my house would be cordoned off and these people in white suits would drop meds and give me a list of do's and dont's. Well, alas! Nothing. Even my doctor only called 2 days after I tested positive. Mxm. I was left at my own devices. Which translates to.. Left to my paranoia and Google.

I tested positive 2 months after my Vaccine. And no I did not believe that the vaccine made me invincible, but I went on as I usually would. Sanitized and cleaned my area., I etc I still don't know where I picked it up. I have my suspicions but I would rather not finger point here.

I tried to push myself. Even sat with my laptop in an attempt to complete medico legal reports. Stupid. I should have rested better. Because on exactly day 10 of symptoms my right hand tested positive. I have to mention here. He takes much better care of us than I do. So when I got out of my sick bed and he got into the sick bed, I learned that somewhere along the way I have become impatient, and I lacked empathy and I was just the worst night nurse ever. Mickey (Simply Red) would not call on me. And my Favourite person in the world was so much more sick than me. He is still struggling with residual symptoms. And I suck. No cardio for 4 months, so that means no more dancing in the kitchen and no more flou jokes from my side. Sigh.

But let's move on. Lessons from surviving covid:
1. Do not take that guilt trip. Guilt will always be there. Who did I hug. Where was I. Did I sanitize. Did I wear my mask. Don't go there. I life is too short
2. You have to take your time to heal. Your work that's piling up will be done by somebody when you are no longer there. You will be replaced in your workplace. Not in your family.
3. Drink your vitamins. Soak up the sun for as long as you can.
4. Cherish those who took the time to check up on you. They are good people. Pray for the rude
5. Check up on family and friends. Everyday. If someone crosses your mind. It's for a reason. You pray for them. Call them... Yes you with your phone in your hand. Make that call.
6. Listen to your mother. If your mother is no longer with you, then you listen to the earthy mother God has placed in your life.
7. Pray. Eat your veggies ( speaking to myself). Enjoy every morsel. I lost my taste and smell. And I will never pull my nose up again. Except for peas. I can't. I'm sorry.
8. Be thankful for every breath, and every moment you have. And make the best of it.

Love and light to all who have suffered from or lost loved ones during this most horrible awful time ever.

A, xx

15/04/2021

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15/04/2021

Old post.. But still true.

30/07/2020

THE SKY IS NOT THE LIMIT: PART 1

I recently watched Tony Robbins: I am not your guru.
The snippet that got my attention was when he told a complete stranger that he loves her.
"I do not want you but I love you", he said
I get that. I actually get that.
I get love.
And few people know that and even fewer understand.

I had a friend who told me once that my gift was grace. And I carried that and I cherished that thought. I obviously believed my gift was kindness. But it was only in my 37th year that I realized that I was not kind I was just nice. So I scrapped that.

I've always known what my gift is. My gift is love. My gift allows me to hug strangers' babies, tell colleagues I miss them and love them. My gift allows me to forgive, beyond the hurt and beyond the deed. My gift of love allows me to have friends of all four my children in my home entertaining and feeding each one without complaint. My gift allows me to treat your child like I would treat my own. I could not teach, heal, listen, help without Love.

Does your gift allow you to fulfill your purpose?Can your gift and purpose have nothing to do with one another? Spend the next week focusing on what special gift you bring to your relationships, to your work and to your purpose. If you get stuck... Email me!

If we crossed paths. If you sat in a treatment session with me. If I have learned from you. If I taught you. If I fed you. If I laughed with you.... Know that I love you



'sYourGift

07/04/2020

My biggest prayer, pre-lockdown was to have a personal driver for the girls. The eldest at varsity where I lecture, full time and the other three at the same school....all in different phases- pre-primary, intermediate phase and high school....all I wanted was a driver, and then I'd say I can't afford a driver, ok can I just get four more hours in a day. Four more hours to do my full time job and my part time job and drive girls around and cook and do homework and be a decent human being and reply to friends and family on whatsapp and be witty and kind while doing all of this...WAIT....Lord, did you just answer my prayer??
Yes, I can prepare online lectures, I can type medico legal reports, I can do holiday/ lockdown homework, my cooking skills have improved plus plus, and all this while being at home. Yes a prayer has been answered. I get to spend time with these most amazing human beings, my greatest treasure. And its slow and its on my time and im feeling blessed. I can only say thank you, Lord. Thank you. Because January kicked my butt in terms of deadlines and february was just a rush and I really needed this breather.
Im Staying Home...

29/12/2019

I've been avoiding the cliché of all the end of year posts. Fellow FB friends complaining about the challenges that 2019 has brought. I'm not saying there were no challenges, but as you are choosing to count your stressors, failures, worries and short falls... Tell me about the positive things that 2019 brought.

Did you manage to keep your job right through this year, has God sent his earthly angels to help you financially, mentally or physically. Were you able to warmly clothe your kids through winter, were you able to feed your family this Christmas.

Tell me about the love and friendships that stayed. The fake friends that God removed from your life.

But mostly tell me about how you were a blessing to others.

2019 was tough, but the highs out-weigh the lows. May your 2020 be blessed with joy and laughter and peace but mostly may you be blessed with gift of living your truth. Everyday.

20/10/2019

Speak and live your truth. Tell your story. Somebody might just need to hear how you survived and made it through... Because "if one human being can do it, then it's humanly possible"

What's you struggle?

20/03/2019

For the longest time I believed that working hard is showing God that I am grateful for my work or should I say three works!?! And so yesterday I found myself being dead-on-my-feet exhausted, close to tears and then still struggling with the guilt for a desire to be unbusy. And then God gave me this pic. And it was confirmation that its OK to rest.
Being unbusy is not lazy. Being unbusy is not ungrateful. Being unbusy is saying thank You for rest. Thank You for providing the rest. Thank You that tomorrow I can try again. xx

20/01/2019

If you are facing challenges this week, remember the following:
1. It's only a learning curve: the operative word being learning. Learn from the mistakes. Learn who is in your corner. Learn whom you need to cut out. Learn who needs second chances. Learn whose time is up.
2. Embrace the journey. It is a journey after all. Travel on this path of self discovery. Bear in mind some endings could be the beginning of beautiful things.
3. Forgive yourself. You don't need to take guilt with you on your journey. Others will blame you. Hate you. Resent you. But you don't need to do that. Just breathe and love yourself enough to know that you are doing your best.
4. Trust. Trust God. He is the captain of your ship. Trust the process. It is moulding you to be a better version of yourself.

Have a productive, blessed, week

01/01/2019

Make every second count! Be kind...especially to yourself!

16/08/2018

Its not Failure....its Feedback

05/04/2018

Keep on hustling, queen, but don't be too proud or too busy to slow down and count your blessings

01/03/2018

In case you were wondering what makes a marriage or relationship or friendship last:

Communicate, Appreciate, Validate! !

01/03/2018

28/02/2018

It is only in the midst of pain and sorrow do you realise the type of human being you are. Are you somebody who immediately lashes out and swears revenge on the person who hurt you or are you, like me, quiet in your anger, while wallowing in you sorrow.

I recently had to examine my own behaviour when faced with an unpleasant experience. I found that I am quite an over-thinker. I also learned that my need to be kind or perceived as a level-headed person certainly prevents me from experiencing the full range of emotions, like anger, and that would possibly have been the normal reaction to such a situation. However, I remained calm and I forgave. Or at least..I said I forgave. It was only two months later that I realised that forgiveness requires alot more than just words. It required of me to actually realise what I do and do not want in my life. It took all of me to realise that my kindness has limits!! That still stings to say out loud. Yes, I have hard no's!! And at 35 years of age I finally started living.

Stiil, I have learned two important lessons through this disappointment: 1. Forgiveness is key, but on your terms and your own time. Nobody can rush your grieving time. Forgive and don't bring it up again. I am talking about the type of forgiveness that will, in time, allow you to be able to offer that very same person who hurt you, a bed if they needed rest, warmth if they were cold and water when they're thirsty. The moment you reach this point in your journey of forgiveness then you will be able to practice this same kindness on yourself. You see, you can forgive someone and still want nothing to do with that person. (Also something I had only learned recently) For forgiveness is for past reconciliation and not future consideration. So on the one hand you will "kill them with kindness" and on the other hand you will empower yourself entirely by forgetting. I was a strong believer that forgiving and not forgetting was the way to go; however, for a total overthinker, like myself, remembering does more damage.

My second lesson is naturally Gratitude! I cannot stress the need for gratitude enough. I actually found myself embracing the lessons I was learning, I was thankful for this journey. It was only when i reminded myself of my endless blessings that gratitude in fact led me to forgiveness.

And the moment i forgave, was the moment that I realised, again, that Kindness is Love with it's work boots on!!

07/02/2018

Love yourself enough to know when you're not wanted.

07/02/2018

We don't laugh again at the same joke...so why do we cry over the same hurtful things.
Build that bridge and get over it!