23/09/2021
Top tip for recognition of someone not coping: Talk. Check your language or the language of others. Ask for help!!!
It's been shown that in many western countries we're not great at talking about how we feel. In fact, many of us have lost the art of feeling both physically and emotionally. We internalise, we have that stiff upper lip attitude and we're not great at asking for help.
Our words are potent and choice of language is crucial in dealing with stress and recognising stress in others, so stop and listen.
Listen to your use of words and those of others. If you find you're repeatedly using negative language or damaging words, this does have a physiological impact on our bodies, attitude or energy, and coping ability. So, if you are aware this is happening, mentally ‘stop’ or ‘delete’.
• Send the negative image /wording packing by replacing it with a kinder one.
• Chances are, the negative thought arrived on an upper chest in breath. So, as it leaves – breath o u t … pause, ground your feet, and reset …
Talk about how this has affected you. Don’t just say I'm stressed. Use your words e.g. my shoulders are stiff, I'm not sleeping, I feel fragile, exhausted - label it. WORD EXPRESSION IS POWERFUL.
It might be: angry, anxious, tired, weepy, tense, frustrated, cornered, desperate, grief-stricken, murderous, fearful, helpless, sleepless, betrayed, inadequate, guilty, jealous, envious, lonely, and isolated, out of control, depressed, hopeless, and shy.
It helps to examine the language of feelings in detail, to feel where they attach themselves physically as you express them –- in the center of the chest, back of the neck, shoulders, jaw, or small of the back for instance.