Anita Prag Clinical Psychologist

02/09/2024

17/04/2023

The first 1000 days of a child is noted as crucial to optimal child development. There are various factors that impose upon that development. Maternal sensitivity is one factor and is in itself affected by numerous determinants. The support a primary caregiver receives is of paramount importance.

Has maternal sensitivity been comprehensively investigated in sub-Saharan Africa? A narrative scoping review

10/02/2023

Children are competent if we give them space to be.

05/02/2023

The beauty of learning to say no. ✨️ We need to learn how to respect this. It's a life saver. Let's not kill that spirit in children.

Audrey is being so defiant, says NO about everything. Haha Sony A7Siii with Sirui Anamorphic lens.If you use this link for any of...

03/07/2022

03/03/2022

Out of the mouths of babes 💜💜💜

This is an SOS to make things better; gonna join our hands, come together! A 13-year-old just wrote a song to heal the world, which debuted

21/02/2022

Decarte said "i think therefore I am". I am sure for the time it was a useful approach to take in relation to being human. However, it has resulted in a departure from the actual truth of what humanity could be- "I feel, therefore I am".

Thinking our feelings (guilty as charged) has led us away from living life from a sense of security in our own strength and authenticity- trusting ourselves to know what is right and wrong. Trusting the truth of the wisdom of our hearts. Because it is our emotions (energy in motion) that are the signals in navigating life and its challenges.

Unfortunately, emotions have been misunderstood, considered dangerous and irrational. Weak. How many times has "don't be emotional" been used as an insult, used to shame and control a child. And adults too. How many of us are ashamed to cry in front of anyone because we can't be seen as weak. Weak is shameful.

Now for sure, emotions, like fire, are neither constructive or destructive. How it is used, in whose hands it is, that makes the difference. So when an unregulated adult, one whose inner child is still predominantly wounded and acting from those wounds unleashes their emotions and misdirected gaze upon us, especially as children, emotions can most definitely feel destructive.

Children need to have their emotions labeled correctly and they need help to regulate the range of their emotions and behaviours - facilitated by adults who are prepared to address their own woundedness and skewed perceptions and programming. Emotions are the vitality of life.

Adults really don't always know best. One of the most painful things a child can experience is being misunderstood. Emotions and behaviors mislabeled. Almost everyone I talk to has experienced this.

This is a shortcut to instilling deep shame into the core of a child, who must then navigate the world feeling like a bad human being that is not seen. It's not okay. Not in this day age. Adults need to reckon with themselves. How brutally honest can we be with ourselves. And can we change how we do things. We have been taught that the head rules the heart. I propose, that the head works in service of the healed heart.

18/02/2022

Even those who are successful and confident struggle with conscious and/or unconscious feelings of badness of being. Shame - it's the killer of the divine spark in each of us. There are many reasons that we struggle in such a way. We owe it to ourselves to challenge the childhood programming that made us believe that we could either be good or bad children. Being told to be a good child, or shamed for making mistakes, poor school results, being angry about something etc, sets us off on a path to proving our worth. Our worth is fundamental. No questions asked.

This Song Will Remind You To Love WHO YOU ARE(Meant For You OFFICIAL LYRIC VIDEO by Fearless Soul) Download or stream it now: https://iamfearlesssoul.com/mea...

18/02/2022

If you are struggling with feeling not good enough, take a listen.

I Am Already Enough - Download or stream it now on EVERY good music platform, or here: https://iamfearlesssoul.com/i-am-already-enough/Listen to I Am Already...

07/02/2022

How many of us women are overtly and covertly expected to stay in line. Don't speak up. Don't be assertive... be made of sugar and spice and all things nice. Being spoken over by anyone, most especially a man should NOT be met with disdain. Should rather be accepted. Well, to that I share - STEP OUT OF LINE. And to men who don't want to perpetuate that old notion of the patriarchal idea of what a "lady" is, I share - STEP OUT OF LINE.

15/10/2021

Resilience

Most of us have been taught to believe that resilience in tough times and failiure means to bounce back having supposedly learnt a lesson or finding a positive from a negative. To put on a mask of the happy face and be the champ that doesn't make other people feel uncomfortable with your yucky feelings. Go to your room and think about what you've done and don't come out until you're ready to apologize. Or, go to your room while you "sulk" because no one wants to look at your sour face. I'm sure there are many such examples. We really are duped. Programed into "children should be seen and not heard". Its time to help children feel their feelings. The good, the bad, the ugly. Warts and all. Not whitewash and dilute the reality of hurt, anger, sadness. How many grown adults don't know how to really feel their feelings and THEN move through them. Maybe there would be less hurt adults hurting others. 🤷‍♀️💚