Lactation Works With Pauleen

14/11/2025

'Babies can and will sign way before they can speak.'

12/11/2025

Thankyou Moomsymilk!

We call babies who sleep alone “good.”
We call mothers who respond instantly “spoiling.”
We call night feeds “a problem to fix.”

But none of that is rooted in biology. It’s rooted in culture, in a society that values productivity over connection, convenience over instincts, and sleep training over surrender.

We’ve created a world where it’s considered normal for a newborn, a human baby whose brain is barely 25% developed, to be expected to sleep for 8 hours without comfort. Where a mother’s exhaustion is met with “just stop nursing at night” instead of “how can we support you so you can rest while staying connected?”

Where responding to your baby’s needs around the clock is labeled “clingy,” instead of what it truly is: mothering.

We’ve pathologized normal infant behavior.
Crying, waking, needing closeness, those are all signs of a healthy, attached baby. Yet our culture treats them as flaws to be trained out instead of needs to be met.

The truth is: babies don’t just wake for milk.
They wake for safety.
For reassurance.
For the same heartbeat they listened to for nine months.

And mothers aren’t “creating bad habits.” We are responding to millions of years of evolutionary creation. We are wired to wake, to soothe, to hold. Our hormones literally shift at night to protect that bond, prolactin rises, oxytocin flows, milk composition changes, and our bodies synchronize with our babies’.

That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.

But modern motherhood has been hijacked by a system that measures worth in ounces, hours of sleep, and “self-soothing.” We’re told to disconnect, to put our babies down more, to feed less often, to make them sleep longer. And somehow, we’re the ones made to feel broken when that doesn’t work.

No one warns you that independence is supposed to come slowly, that it’s built on thousands of moments of dependence that are met with love. That your baby learning to trust you in the dark is what allows them to confidently explore the world in the light.

So no, night feeds aren’t the problem. The problem is a culture that’s forgotten what babies are.

They are mammals.
They are designed to be close, fed often, and comforted through connection, not isolation.

When your baby wakes, they’re not manipulating you.
They’re calling for you, because you are their safe place.
And when you answer, you’re not spoiling them. You’re showing them what love that answers back feels like.

So let’s stop trying to fix what was never broken.
Let’s stop calling biological needs “bad habits.”
Let’s start calling it what it is: human connection.

Because night feeds aren’t a disruption, they’re a continuation of everything your baby knows to be safe.

They don’t just wake for milk.
They wake for you. 🤍

12/11/2025

Your newborn is beautiful Karli , thanks for sharing this helpful video.You are doing a great job, well done !

11/11/2025

Updated protocol for blocked milk ducts and mastitis

11/11/2025

Delayed cord clamping helps babies to get their maximum iron levels up and keeps babies well oxygenated straight after birth.
Look how beautifully pink this newborn is!

11/11/2025

Paced bottle feeding is advised for breast fed babies.

10/11/2025

Jake keeping it real and joining all of us parents living in the 'and'

10/11/2025

Breastmiilk is a white blood transfusion, it's the sweetest milk of all other species milk.

10/11/2025

5 soothing Ss Swaddle Side lying Sway Shoosh Suck