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Providing support for you or people you know who are struggling.

"Piglet," said Pooh, and took a deep breath. "I am Not Okay."

There was a pause. It had cost Pooh some effort to say that, and his legs felt a little bit wobbly as he waited to see how how friend would react.

"Oh Pooh," said Piglet, in relief. "I am so glad. SO glad."

"You're so glad?" asked Pooh, somewhat taken aback. "But I'm your friend, Piglet. Why would you be glad that I'm Not Okay."

"Because I knew that you were Not Okay," said Piglet. "However much you kept denying it, however much you kept going around with a big cheery smile on your face. I knew that things weren't right," said Piglet, sitting down next to his pal. "And now, now that you have told me you need help, there is all kinds of support that I can help you to get; there are SO many people and services out there who will be able to help you; and oh Pooh, I am SO glad that you were able to speak up."

"It wasn't easy, though," said Pooh, who felt his voice begin to tremble. "It shouldn't be so hard to say those four little words, should it, Piglet? And yet it turns out, to say that you are Not Okay...is one of the hardest things of all to do."

"You're right," said Piglet, "which is why all of us, we all need to be looking out for those people who are Not Okay, who aren't yet able to say that they're Not Okay, who perhaps don't even know yet that they're Not Okay.

"Because, Pooh," the little pig continued, "there is always help out there. There is always someone who will listen. It is never, ever hopeless... however much it might seem so at the time. Things can get better, and they will get better, and I promise you that until they do, and beyond...I will be here - I will always be here - sitting right by your side."



If you or someone you know needs help, please speak to www.samaritans.org, there for you 24/7, 365 days a year ♥️

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The CALL to COURAGE - Brene Brown

It is not the critic who counts;
not the man who points out
how the strong man stumbles,
or where the doer of deeds
could have done them better.

The credit belongs to the man
who is actually in the arena,
whose face is marred
by dust and sweat and blood;
who strives valiantly; who errs,
who comes short again and again,
because there is no effort
without error and shortcoming;
but who does actually strive to do the deeds;
who knows great enthusiasms,
the great devotions;
who spends himself in a worthy cause;
who at the best knows in the end
the triumph of high achievement,
and who at the worst, if he fails,
at least fails while daring greatly,
so that his place shall never be
with those cold and timid souls
who neither know victory nor defeat.

(Theodore Roosevelt)

I am going to live in the arena
I am going to be brave with my life
I am going to show up
I am going to take chances
But it means
I will know heartbreak
I will know failure

It’s a CHOICE
Today I will CHOOSE COURAGE over comfort
Today I am going to CHOOSE to be BRAVE

Vulnerability is not about winning
It’s not about losing
It’s about the COURAGE to SHOW UP
When I can’t control the outcome

When you are on the ground
you will see other people who are brave too

Vulnerability is the meter we use to measure courage

There are millions of cheap seats in the world today
Filled with people who will never once set foot in that arena
Hurling criticism at us
We have to stop analyzing criticism
And have to let it drop to the floor
Don’t grab the hurtful stuff from the cheap seats
Don’t pull it anywhere near your heart
Let it fall to the ground
You don’t have to stop it
Or kick it
Step over it and keep going
You can’t take criticism and feedback from people who are not being brave with their lives
It will crush you

Belonging is belonging to yourself first
Speaking your truth
Telling your story
And never betraying yourself
True belonging doesn’t require you to CHANGE who you are
It requires you to BE who you are
And that’s vulnerable

To not have “the conversation” because it makes you uncomfortable is the definition of privilege
Your COMFORT is not at the Centre of this discussion
This is not how it works
We have to be able to CHOOSE COURAGE over COMFORT
We can’t stay quiet.

Brave leaders are never silent around hard things
Our job is to excavate the unsaid
What is the thing that is not being said?
This requires COURAGE and VULNERABILITY.

Dispelling the myths:
“Vulnerability is weakness”

Vulnerability is:
-Uncertainty
-Risk
-Emotional exposure

There is no courage without vulnerability.

It is so much easier to cause pain
Than to feel pain.

Your story is a privilege to hear
You share with people who have earned the right to hear it
Vulnerability minus boundaries is not vulnerability

You don’t measure vulnerability by the amount of exposure
You MEASURE it by SHOWING UP when you CAN’T control the outcome.

Vulnerability is hard and scary and feels dangerous
Bit it’s not as hard, scary or dangerous as getting to the end of our lives to ask ourselves
“What if I had have shown up?”
“What if I said...?”

SHOW up
BE seen
ANSWER the CALL to COURAGE

You are WORTH it
You are WORTH BEING BRAVE

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A Simple Technique To Help Stop An Anxiety Attack
I will warn you that on the surface, this particular method for stopping an anxiety attack may seem incredibly simplistic. But I challenge you to go beyond how your mind may initially want to judge it and to instead give it a fair shot (and yes, that means trying it more than once), since it can actually be quite powerful.

Attack It With Gratitude

The name that I have given this particular tool is ‘Attack It With Gratitude.’ And as the name suggests, it involves countering your pending or existing panic and anxiety with thoughts centered around things that you are grateful for.

What makes this simple mental activity so powerful is that even though anxiety attacks can quite easily engage and overwhelm our entire bodies, preventing us from being able to function in even the most simple of ways, the main aspect fuelling its existence is our thoughts.

It’s OUR THOUGHTS that sell us on the idea that we are not okay right now. It’s OUR THOUGHTS that make us believe that we will never be able to function normally again. So it’s therefore OUR THOUGHTS that we want to reclaim the driver’s seat from, since they are at the core of what we are either on the cusp of or currently experiencing.

By forcing ourselves to list off things that we’re grateful for in life, we’re commanding those thoughts in a direction that starves rather than feeds the anxiety.

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