12/11/2025
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The Loneliest Road You’ll Ever Walk
Losing someone you love is like stepping into a new world. One where time doesn’t heal all wounds, it just teaches you how to carry them differently. You’ll feel that loss for as long as you live. Long after the funeral is over and the last words of condolence are spoken.
When the funeral ends…something else begins.
One of the loneliest roads you’ll ever walk.
People are there for you at first. They bring casseroles (because food is love, right?), they cry with you, they listen to your stories about the person who’s gone.
But then…life calls them back.
It’s not because they don’t care; they simply have their own busy lives to live. After the funeral, the crowd thins and, suddenly, you find yourself surrounded by silence in a way you never expected.
Sometimes, the ones who disappear weren’t strangers at all. They may have known you as part of a couple, or as ‘the other parent,’ or just part of a family unit. But now, with the person who died gone, the dynamic has changed. Suddenly, they don’t know how to act around you anymore. And that confusion can make them walk away.
There’s also the misconception that if you appear okay, you must be okay. People see you functioning, getting through the day, maybe even laughing a little, and assume you’re ‘over it.’ If only they knew that the quiet moments alone, the ones without witnesses, are where the real struggle lives.
Here’s the thing…you might be holding it together on the outside, but inside, you’re falling apart.
The true test of grief isn’t in those immediate days after the funeral. It’s in the months, the years, when the well-meaning crowd has gone home, and you’re left with the silence again.
That’s when grief sneaks in. In the quiet, ordinary moments, when a song, a smell, or a forgotten object sends you reeling back to the pain you thought had settled.
So, if you’re walking this road, you’re not alone in your loneliness. I see it, feel it, and understand it.
And I’m here for you…even when the crowds have gone home.
Gary Sturgis - Surviving Grief