Kim McKay Clinical Psychologist

Kim McKay Clinical Psychologist Interest in adult and adolescents. Individual therapy
Couples and family therapy
Assessments

A good therapist isn’t looking for “perfect” clients. We don’t expect you to arrive every week with insights neatly pack...
31/10/2025

A good therapist isn’t looking for “perfect” clients. We don’t expect you to arrive every week with insights neatly packaged or emotions fully processed. We want the real conversations, the moments of discomfort, doubt, and honesty, because that’s where healing begins.

It’s okay to say:
“I’m not sure this is helping.”
“I don’t feel safe enough to go there yet.”
“I felt hurt by something you said.”

These moments might feel scary, but they’re often the doorway to deeper connection and genuine change. Therapy is meant to be a safe space for truth, not performance, a place to explore what’s messy, unclear, or hard to name.

So if you ever find yourself holding back in therapy, remember your therapist wants to hear the hard stuff too.

We don’t always pick fights because we’re angry. Sometimes, it’s because we’re overwhelmed, stressed, afraid of not copi...
29/07/2025

We don’t always pick fights because we’re angry. Sometimes, it’s because we’re overwhelmed, stressed, afraid of not coping.

Instead of saying: “I’m struggling right now”, we protect ourselves with irritation, distance or blame.

It’s often easier to fight than to say:
“I’m scared I can’t show up the way I want to”
“I feel like I’m failing”
“I don’t know how to ask for what I need”

BUT disconnection delays connection.

So think about it, is the conflict you’re in actually a cover for something tender underneath?
Let’s get honest about what we’re truly trying to say.

There’s a big difference between setting healthy boundaries and making cutting off your only strategy.Yes—some relations...
02/07/2025

There’s a big difference between setting healthy boundaries and making cutting off your only strategy.

Yes—some relationships must end for your safety and wellbeing. But if every disagreement ends in a block, a ghost, or a disappearing act, it may be worth exploring what’s beneath that pattern.

Research has found that when we avoid difficult conversations, we often feel more anxious, less satisfied, and less secure in our relationships over time. (Sbarra & Ferrer, 2006; Overall et al., 2009).

✨ Boundaries can protect you AND invite repair.
✨ They can be firm AND becompassionate.

💬 Tell me: have you ever realized you were using “cutting off” as protection from discomfort rather than danger?

So many mothers silently struggle with feelings of sadness, anxiety, and overwhelm in pregnancy and postpartum. It can f...
30/06/2025

So many mothers silently struggle with feelings of sadness, anxiety, and overwhelm in pregnancy and postpartum. It can feel like you’re failing—or like you’re the only one.

You are not alone, and you are not failing.

This circle is free, compassionate, and open to all who wish to learn, connect, and feel less alone.

Reserve your spot by emailing kim@kmpsychology.co.za

You deserve support, understanding, and care.

She Went on One Date — And Never Came Home.Her name was Olorato Mongale.She took all the precautions.She still ended up ...
28/05/2025

She Went on One Date — And Never Came Home.

Her name was Olorato Mongale.
She took all the precautions.
She still ended up dead.
This is not rare. This is South Africa’s femicide crisis.
If you’re still silent, you’re part of the problem.

You don’t have to be perfect to be supported. You don’t have to fix yourself before asking for help. Connection is your ...
22/05/2025

You don’t have to be perfect to be supported.
You don’t have to fix yourself before asking for help.

Connection is your nervous system’s medicine —not a luxury, but a need.

Let someone in.

Healing happens through presence, safety and being truly seen.

Many of us carry the belief that strength means silence. That being ‘the strong one’ means showing up for everyone excep...
21/05/2025

Many of us carry the belief that strength means silence. That being ‘the strong one’ means showing up for everyone except ourselves. But here’s the truth: constantly suppressing your own needs isn’t strength—it’s survival.

Psychologically, this mindset often develops in early relationships where emotional needs weren’t welcomed, validated, or safely expressed. Maybe you were praised for being ‘mature for your age’ or made to feel guilty for expressing vulnerability. Over time, you learned that needing support made you a burden—so you became the helper, the fixer, the strong one.

But strength is not the absence of need. True strength includes knowing when to rest, when to ask for help, and when to say, ‘I matter too.’

✨ Let this be a gentle reminder: Your needs are not too much. They are human.

Can you relate to being the strong one? Let’s talk in the comments 👇🏽”

Chronic exhaustion isn’t always a mystery—it’s often a sign of nervous system dysregulation. When your body is stuck in ...
28/03/2025

Chronic exhaustion isn’t always a mystery—it’s often a sign of nervous system dysregulation. When your body is stuck in survival mode, rest doesn’t come easy. Time to prioritize regulation and true rest!


Your nervous system is always working to protect you. If you find yourself feeling anxious, shut down, or reactive in re...
26/03/2025

Your nervous system is always working to protect you. If you find yourself feeling anxious, shut down, or reactive in relationships, it’s not a personality trait—it’s a nervous system response.

Instead of blaming yourself, try this:
⭐ Take 5 slow breaths and notice how your body feels.
⭐ Move—stretch, sway, or shake off tension.
⭐ Seek connection—a hug, a kind conversation, or a moment of presence.

You don’t have to force yourself to “be different.” Regulation shifts everything.

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Centurion
0157

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Tuesday 09:00 - 17:00
Wednesday 09:00 - 17:00
Thursday 09:00 - 17:00
Friday 09:00 - 16:00
Saturday 09:00 - 12:00

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