Divorce Resource

08/03/2017

Foundations for Life

Maintenance Matters Workshop at Foundations for Life Place:
2 Hemyock road, Plumstead
Date: 13 April 2017
Time: 18.30 - 20:30
Cost: R250 per person

This workshop is for anyone who is a single parent, or going through a divorce or separation, and is battling with calculating child maintenance or claiming child maintenance. Finances are an emotive topic, and often one where power plays itself out. With 13 million children in South Africa growing up in single homes, paying maintenance correctly is vital for their upbringing. This workshop will cover the various topics of child maintenance as well as practical worksheets given and help for case specific calculations: -How to correctly calculate maintenance for your child/ren
-How to get a maintenance agreement made a court order and why
-How to apply at maintenance court for an order
-How to apply at maintenance court for arrears
-The Maintenance Act
-The difference between care and contact
-Consequences for maintenance defaulters
– the civil or criminal route
-Where to get help

The workshop will be facilitated by Nina Mensing, a counsellor, accredited FAMAC mediator and author of the book “A Manic Marriage”. Nina works in private practice, as well as at the Cape Town Children’s Court. She is an administrator of the group Child Maintenance Difficulties in South Africa, a social justice group helping parents to navigate the maintenance court system. Nina also has personal experience of divorce and the various court processes as a single mother with two boys.

For more information and to book, please email info@foundationsforlife.co.za

27/05/2015

An invitation from Dr Mathilda Smith to a morning workshop in Somerset West.

Attendance of this workshop has become a proven way to change the paradigm of parents as well as that of practitioners. This has led to significantly better outcomes for children in divorce. With new insights, you will understand new approaches and techniques to help children stay well and content, despite their struggles with separation and divorce. Empower yourself, empower your children!
The information is compact and relevant; the workshop effective and affordable.

Audience:
This workshop is intended for
• ALL adult family members affected by a separation or divorce, as well as
• ALL practitioners dealing with a separation or a divorce Next workshops:

• Saturday 20 June 2015

• Wednesday 29 July 2015

Time: From 9:00 till 13:00
Cost: R500

For additional information or to register, please contact

1. Mathilda at mathildasmit@mweb.co.za, tel: 082 923 3656
2. Renette at admin.drmsmit@mweb.co.za, tel: 021 851 6927

12/04/2015

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”- Brené Brown
Art by Anahata Katkin

11/04/2015

Today is the first day of the rest of your life... :)

11/04/2015

I didn't ask for a , but in the end, I realise he did me a favour. This article attached, speaks more or less of my . It hasn't been easy, but I truly have grown...I have learned what really is for me, having lost some sense of it. I learned what I am capable of achieving on my own and how I really am. With , I could see myself clearly. from him, I could see the I made. Without his , I have had to find my own and in life. I am alive again. I am to him. I am sad for my sons who don't understand yet and who feel the pain of a family, but I hope that they will learn from us and this experience...to hold onto themselves and love themselves equally to their partners one day...be whole (as can humanely be) people, just sharing two lives and be-ing loving...

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/03/why-getting-divorced-is-the-best-thing-i-ever-did-for-myself/?utm_source=Elephant+Journal+News&utm_campaign=January+24%2C+2012&utm_medium=email

Because of my divorce, I realized that no matter how much someone loves me, he will never fully own me.

08/04/2015

My mother died when I was very young. Even at the funeral I was told not to cry...because it would make my father cry... For years I struggled quietly and became . When I sought help for this, I learned about the value of giving expression to . When my marriage ended and became separated from my sons, I gave myself permission to . As I opened the gates, all the old, long-held of the past came up and out too. I lost loved ones, literally and figuratively, but I was saved so to speak...and although the scars remain forever and I am detached physically from my beloveds...I am somehow more of me, not less, and my heart remains full of love for them.

There is a time for and a time for and all the other things that brings...

So I resonated with this article shared below.

"What if we never ‘get over’ certain deaths, or our childhoods? What if the idea that we should have by now, or will, is a great palace lie? What if we're not supposed to? What if it takes a life time…?”

27/03/2015

Child friendly separation and divorce
by Social Worker, Dr Mathilda Smit

An invitation to a one day workshop that open your eyes to the experience of children in separation and divorce.

Attendance of this ONE day workshop has become a proven way to change the paradigm of parents as well as that of practitioners.
This has led to better outcomes for children. With new insights, you will understand new approaches and techniques to help children stay well and content despite their struggles with separation and divorce.

Dates:
• Saturday 18 April 2015
• Saturday 23 May 2015
• Saturday 20 June 2015

Audience:
This workshop is intended for
1. ALL adult family members affected by a separation or divorce, as well as
2. ALL practitioners dealing with a separation or a divorce.

Contact us:
For additional information or to register please contact
1. Mathilda at mathildasmit@mweb.co.za or
2. Renette at admin.drmsmit@mweb.co.za

13/03/2015

13/03/2015

The of ™ is offering a full day , with both theory and interactive practical , to help guide us to reap the benefits from walking properly and naturally.

CAPE TOWN WORKSHOP DETAILS:

Date: Sunday, 19th April 2015, Time: 8:45am-4pm

Venue: Round Table Belvedere Community Centre, Community Hall & Outdoor Arena, Chess & Keurboom Roads, Rondebosch

Workshop Cost: R1160.
Early Bird by 30 March 2015 - R1000.
Senior Citizen (60+) and children (up to12yrs) - R800.

Take every step towards a better , clearer , and an open ...

To secure your booking, please contact Shellean on:

Email: shellean@divorceresource.co.za

Visit http://www.natural-walking.com/ #!walking/ccov for more information.

08/03/2015

Our survival adaptations are so tough, but our
wounds are so delicate. To heal, we have to lift the
armor carefully- it saved our lives, after all. It’s like
moving your best friend off to the side of the path.
You don’t trample on her, you don’t hit him with a
sledgehammer. You honor her presence like a warm
blanket that has kept you safe and sound during
wintry times. And then, when the moment is right,
you get inside and stitch your wounds with the thread
of love, slowly and surely, not rushing to completion,
nurturing as you weave, tender and true. The healing
process has a heart of its own, moving at its own
delicate pace. We are such wondrous weavers...
(~an excerpt from 'Love it Forward')

06/02/2015

Written by Jeff Brown *THIS BOOK IS ONLY AVAILABLE FOR PRE-ORDER. ANTICIPATED PUBLICATION DATE IS MAY 15, 2015 In this higher consciousness love story, author Jeff Brown introduces the concept of ‘uncommon bonds’ through the profound connection between Sarah and Lowen- two soul-mates who have found…

06/02/2015

When we are emotional it is difficult to think straight. I found this workshop helpful in keeping me grounded and keeping perspective during the challenging transition of a divorce.

One day WORKSHOPS on,

“HOW TO HANDLE SEPARATION AND DIVORCE IN A MORE CHILD FRIENDLY WAY”,

will be presented on SATURDAY the
28th of February and again on the 18th of April

Attendance of this ONE day workshop has proven to have changed the paradigm of many parents as well as that of practitioners.
This has led to better outcomes for children !!!
This workshop is intended for ALL adult family members affected by a separation or divorce as well as ALL practitioners dealing with a separation or a divorce.

Please contact Mathilda at mathildasmit@mweb.co.za
or Renette at admin.drmsmit@mweb.co.za
for additional information or to register.