Healing By Michelle

13/11/2025

You’re allowed to leave any story you don’t find yourself in. You’re allowed to leave any story you don’t love yourself in.

You’re allowed to leave a city that has dimmed your light instead of making you shine brighter, you’re allowed to pack all your bags and start over somewhere else and you’re allowed to redefine the meaning of your life.
You’re allowed to quit the job you hate even if the world tells you not to and you’re allowed to search for something that makes you look forward to tomorrow and to the rest of your life.

You’re allowed to leave someone you love if they’re treating you poorly, you’re allowed to put yourself first if you’re settling and you’re allowed to walk away when you’ve tried over and over again but nothing has changed.

You’re allowed to let toxic friends go, you’re allowed to surround yourself with love, and people who encourage and nurture you. You’re allowed to pick the kind of energy you need in your life.

You’re allowed to forgive yourself for your biggest and smallest mistakes and you’re allowed to be kind to yourself, you’re allowed to look in the mirror and actually like the person you see.

You’re allowed to set yourself free from your own expectations.

We sometimes look at leaving as a bad thing or associate it with giving up or quitting, but sometimes leaving is the best thing you can do for yourself.
Leaving allows you to change directions, to start over, to rediscover yourself and the world. Leaving sometimes saves you from staying stuck in the wrong place with the wrong people.

Leaving opens a new door for change, growth, opportunities and redemption.

You always have the choice to leave until you find where you belong and what makes you happy.

You’re even allowed to leave the old you behind and reinvent yourself.

Author: Rania Naim

12/11/2025

Forgive yourself
for what you had to do to survive.
Forgive yourself for who you were
before you knew better.

Forgive yourself
for being fallible, broken,
for being less than perfect.

Touch the earth
in your small humanness.
Feel the dirt beneath your feet,
between your fingers,
and how your tears water
the parched, cracked soil.

Forgive yourself
for not being more,
for not knowing more,
for learning through experience,
or the hard way.

For what you did to survive life’s winters,
across life’s thin ice.
For your mistakes.

You survived.
You are here.

And in the forgiveness,
let your hands reach down
to soothe your own broken heart,
and from there,
the broken hearts of others.

For we grow humble in our falls,
compassionate through our imperfection,
not our perfection.

Forgive yourself.
Let the weight of these lessons
hold you firmly
in their dark wisdom
to the earth —

And from there,
like a sky of shining lanterns,

set your soul free.

~Rachel Alana (R.A. Falconer)
Midwives of the Soul

From "Soul Songs" by R.A. Falconer Now at Barnes & Noble, Waterstones & Amazon.

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12/11/2025

But here’s the thing you can’t keep choosing someone who doesn’t choose you. You can’t.
Because your person is going to be your person for the rest of your life.

Not just when you’re young and things are perfect, but when things get messy and you make mistakes and the world is less shiny.
You have to make sure that you have someone by your side that wants to be there.
Someone who wants to support you, and encourage you. Someone who gives you just as much effort as you give them.
Someone who wants to hear your laugh, and make breakfast with you, and listen to all of your dumb jokes for twenty, or thirty, or fifty years.
Because there are difficult things in life, really hard and haunted things that make it heavy and hurtful at times.

But love should not be one of those things.
Love should hold your hand and help you brave those storms. Love should be your safe place.

So please, just don’t give the best parts of yourself to someone who doesn’t see the value in what they are receiving. Don’t settle for anyone who doesn’t look at you and know, without hesitation, that they want to stay.

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Sometimes, you have to choose yourself. Sometimes, you have to choose your healing, no matter how hard you want to keep fighting, no matter how deeply you care.

See, when your heart chooses someone who does not choose it back, when your tender soul fights for someone who will not fight for it, when you make the effort to show up for someone who does not care, or make the effort to show up for you, you must walk away.
You must give yourself the closure you so desperately seek. You must give yourself permission to move forward, to let go, to believe in the fact that you deserve to be loved by someone who will look at you and know that you are enough.

Because if there is one thing life has taught me, it is that love, genuine love, should never make you feel like you are too much, it should never make you feel like a difficult person to care for.
If there is one thing life has taught me, it is that love, worthwhile love, should never make you quiet your heartbeat, it should never be something you have to beg for.

So please, if you still find yourself chasing after someone who is not chasing after you stop running towards those dead ends and instead start running toward yourself.✨

10/11/2025

Maybe he doesn’t raise his hand to you.

But he decides who you can talk to, where you can go, and what friends you’re allowed to have, and he calls it “love.”

Maybe he doesnt raise his hand to you, but he slowly convinces you that you’re not beautiful enough, smart enough, or worthy enough for anyone else to love you.

Maybe he doesnt raise his hand to you, but you find yourself needing his permission for everything. You stop feeling like a person and start feeling like an object he owns.

Maybe he doesnt raise his hand to you, but he tears down your boundaries, even a locked door, even your right to have space of your own.

Maybe he doesnt raise his hand to you, but every night feels like walking on eggshells, praying that tonight won’t turn into another fight.

Maybe he doesnt raise his hand to you, but when you want to see friends or family, he sulks and punishes you like a child who didn’t get his way.

He tells you not to wear makeup or dress nicely because, in his eyes, you must be “looking for attention.”

You’ve learned that the only way to get his affection is to give him your body .... not because you want to, but because you feel you have to.

Maybe he doesnt raise his hand to you, but when he hurts you or cheats, he makes you apologize for being upset. Somehow, you end up feeling like the one who did something wrong.

Maybe he doesnt raise his hand to you, but every time you try to leave, he threatens to hurt himself if you go.

He controls every part of your life until you can barely recognize who you used to be.

He tells you you’re worthless so many times that you start to believe him.

If any of this sounds familiar, I need you to remember what I say next.

Love doesn’t cage you. It doesn’t silence you. It doesn’t make you feel small, scared, or unworthy.

Love gives you peace. It helps you breathe. And it helps you grow.

You deserve safety. You deserve kindness.

You deserve to be seen and valued ... not controlled or diminished.

And if you’ve forgotten that, remember .... God did not create you to live in fear. He placed a light and purpose within you, and no one on the face of this earth has the right to dim that.

The person who truly loves you will protect that light, not try to hide it.

Never stay with someone who tears you down just to feel powerful.

They see your strength, and that’s what they’re afraid of.

But you can rise again. You can reclaim your worth.

And when you do, you’ll see that God’s love and healing have been waiting for you all along.

~ Cody Bret