Anew Wellness

20/02/2024

The most valuable thing in life is not finding someone who accepts you as you are, but who loves you for who you are

26/11/2023

What you did in the past does not define you, but what you do in the present does

15/11/2023

𝗕𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴

𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔?
For some people, boundries may bring up images of walls, barriers to intimacy, or even selfishness. Yet that is not the case, especially in the dating arena. If you understand what boundries are and do, they can be one of the most helpful tools in your life to develop love, responsibility and freedom. Let's take a look at what a boundary is, it's function and purpose.

𝑨 𝑷𝒓𝒐𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒕𝒚 𝑳𝒊𝒏𝒆...
Simply put, a boundary is a property line. Just as a physical fence marks out where your yard ends and your neighbor's begins, a personal boundary distinguishes what is your emotional or personal property, and what belongs to someone else. When another person tries to control you, tries to get too close to you, or asks you to do something you don't think is right, you should feel some sense of protest.
Your boundary has been crossed.

𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑭𝒖𝒏𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝑩𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔...
Boundries serve two important functions.
First, they define us. Boundries show what we are and are not, what we agree and disagree with, what we love and hate. Dating goes much better when you are defined. When you are clear about your values, preferences, and morals, you solve many problems before they start.
The Second function of boundries is that they protect us. Boundries keep good things in and bad things out. When we don't have clear limits, we can expose ourselves to unhealthy and destructive influences and people. Boundries protect by letting others know what you will and will not tolerate.

𝑬𝒙𝒂𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝑩𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔...
o Words : telling someone no and being honest about your disagreement.
o The truth : bringing reality to a problem.
o Distance : allowing time or physical space between two people to protect or as a consequence for irresponsible behavior.
o Other people : using supportive friends to help keep a limit.

𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝑰𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝑩𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔?
Remember that boundries are a fence protecting your property. In dating, your property is your own soul. Here are some of the contents of your self that boundries define and protect.
o Your love : your deepest capacity to connect and trust.
o Your emotions : your need to own your feelings and not be controlled by someone else's feelings.
o Your values : you need to have your life reflect what you care about most deeply.
o Your behavior : your control over how you act in your dating relationship.
o Your attitudes : your stances and opinions about yourself and your date.

𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝑩𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒂𝒓𝒚 𝑷𝒓𝒐𝒃𝒍𝒆𝒎𝒔 𝑺𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒎𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒔...
o Loss of Freedom to Be Oneself.
o Being with the Wrong Person.
o Dating from Inner Hurt Rather Than Our Values.
o Not Dating.
o Doing too much in the Relationship.
o Freedom without Responsibility.
o Control Issues
o Not taking Responsibility to Say No
o Sexual Impropriety

𝘌𝘹𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘱𝘵 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 “𝘉𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘋𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨” 𝘣𝘺 𝘊𝘭𝘰𝘶𝘥 & 𝘛𝘰𝘸𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘥.

15/11/2023

So min mense besef hierdie maar dis so so waar. Heal your inner child to make you free. Niemand gaan dit vir jou doen nie. Responsibility lies with you....

24/10/2023

24/10/2023

Here is a happiness excersize:

1. List 50 things that makes you happy
2. You will notice that most of these does not have a material value
3. Ask yourself then: why do you think you will be happy when you have certain material things like a bigger house, fancy car or more money?
4. Rather find happiness now, in the small things, in things that are free.

The present is the greatest gift we have

04/10/2023

Change starts by changing your thoughts. Become aware of when you talk negative about yourself or others and deliberately Change that. It might change your whole life

06/09/2023

As you see it....so it is

29/08/2023