Stop Waiting for Lemons

29/10/2025

IF I GET DEMENTIA…

I’d like my family to hang this wish list on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.

✨ Every time you enter the room, announce yourself. “Hi Dad – it’s Amanda.” Never ask, “Do you know who I am?” That only causes anxiety.

✨ Embrace my reality. If I think my spouse is still alive, or that we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.

✨ ✨ Don’t argue about what’s true for me versus what’s true for you.

✨ If I seem unsure who you are, don’t take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.

✨ When I can no longer use utensils, don’t start feeding me right away. Switch me to a finger-food diet and see if I can still feed myself.

✨ If I’m sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Don’t tell me my feelings are unfounded.

✨ Don’t treat me like a child. Talk to me like the adult I am.

✨ Help me keep enjoying the things I’ve always loved — exercise, reading, visiting with friends.

✨ Ask me to tell you stories from my past.

✨ If I become agitated, take time to figure out what’s bothering me.

✨ Treat me the way you would want to be treated.

✨ Keep plenty of snacks in the house. Even now, if I don’t eat, I get angry — and with dementia, I may not be able to explain what I need.

✨ Don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.

✨ Don’t feel guilty if you can’t care for me 24/7. It’s not your fault — you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help, or a great new place for me to live. (One with a bus and activities!)

✨ Visit often if I live in a dementia care community.

✨ Don’t show frustration if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath — it’s not my fault.

✨ Keep my favorite music playing within earshot.

✨ If I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return them to their place.

✨ Don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.

✨ Remember that I still love hugs and handshakes.

✨ Most of all — remember that I am still the person you know and love.

I came across this beautiful piece written by an unknown author. It touched my heart deeply, so I’m sharing it here in hopes helps. 💛

ᴄᴏᴘʏ ᴀɴᴅ ᴘᴀsᴛᴇ in Honor of someone you know or knew who has dementia. In Honor of all those I know and love and lost who are fighting Dementia/Alzheimer’s.

If you’d like to know more or find support, visit www.dementiasa.org.

20/10/2025

20/10/2025

🌞 Summer’s here — and your feet are about to come out of hiding.

Nothing ruins sandal season faster than:
🚫 Itchy toes.
🚫 Annoying red patches and peeling skin.
🚫 Or nails you’d rather hide than show.

Here’s the truth: once it starts, it spreads fast.
But prevention is easier (and smarter) than cure.

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👉 Prevention or solution — you choose.

Either way, your feet win.

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08/10/2025

By yelling at other drivers in the car,
you are not just venting frustration.
You are teaching your child that it is normal to dehumanize strangers who inconvenience you for a moment.
You are in traffic, and another driver cuts you off.
You react with a flash of anger, yelling an insult.
You see it as a harmless release of stress.
The other driver cannot hear you; it feels like a private act.
But your child is your captive audience.
They do not just hear your anger; they absorb the lesson.
They learn that a stranger's mistake makes them a target
for rage, disrespect, and contempt.

The hard reality is this:
The person in the other car is not an 'idiot.'
They are a human being who made a mistake.
You are teaching your child to strip away that humanity
in moments of personal inconvenience.
This is how you raise an adult with low empathy for strangers.
A person who gets angry at a slow cashier or a busy waiter.
They learn to see the world as a collection of obstacles
to their own progress, not as a community of people.

Use these moments to model grace instead. Take a deep breath.
Say, "That person must be in a real hurry."
Your compassion in traffic is a lesson in compassion
for the entire world.

Author: Arsalan Moin

05/08/2025

I’m sure many of us need this reminder — not once, but over and over again.

✨ Your child doesn’t need a martyr. They need a happy, fulfilled you!

We think we're giving everything for them, but sometimes we're handing them the weight of our unspoken dreams.

Let them witness joy. Let them witness wholeness. Be their inspiration, not their burden.

🍋

12/06/2025

✨ Unlock Radiant Skin with Rice Water – Nature’s Secret Elixir! ✨

Did you know that the milky water left behind after rinsing or boiling rice can transform your skincare routine? 🌾 For centuries, Asian beauty traditions have praised rice water for its ability to brighten, soothe, and rejuvenate skin naturally – and now it’s your turn to try it! 💧

🌿 Here’s why rice water is AMAZING for your skin:
✅ Brightens and fades dark spots
✅ Hydrates and soothes irritated skin
✅ Firms and smooths fine lines
✅ Minimizes pores and balances oil

But here’s the fun part – there’s not just ONE way to make rice water. Each type has its own magic:

🍚 1. Soaked Rice Water (Quick & Easy)
Perfect for daily use!

Rinse ½ cup of rice thoroughly.

Soak it in 2–3 cups of clean water for 30 minutes.

Strain and store in a jar in the fridge (up to 5 days).
💡 Use it as a face rinse, toner, or spritz it on like a mist.

🔥 2. Cooked Rice Water (Thicker & Nourishing)
Great as a mask base or deep hydration treatment.

Cook rice as usual, using more water than needed.

Once the rice is soft, strain out the starchy water.

Let it cool and store it in the fridge (lasts 3–4 days).
💡 Apply with a cotton pad, leave on for 10–15 mins, then rinse.

🧪 3. Fermented Rice Water (Power-Packed & Potent)
Best for anti-aging and acne-prone skin!

Make soaked rice water first.

Leave it at room temp in a jar for 1–2 days until it starts to smell slightly sour.

Then refrigerate it to slow down fermentation.
💡 Dilute before using! It's more concentrated and rich in enzymes.

✨ Your skin deserves a natural glow-up – and it’s just a cup of rice away. 💖 Have you tried rice water before? Let us know which type you’re most excited to use in the comments! 👇

11/06/2025

I’ve never had much trouble swallowing those horse-sized pills—but give me a teeny tiny one and I’m suddenly reenacting a choking scene from a medical drama 🙈

So naturally, I started wondering: how on earth will I teach my 5-year-old to swallow pills one day?

And because the FB algorithm can now read minds (creepy but helpful), a video popped up with a trick that BLEW. MY. MIND. 🤯

Here it is:
Pop the pill in your mouth, take a sip of water... and instead of tilting your head back, tilt it forward, like you’re admiring your shoes 👟💁‍♀️—then swallow.

Just tried it—TOTAL GAME CHANGER.
Like… why did no one tell us this in health class!?

Dropping this little gem here in case any fellow mamas are dealing with mini-pill panic or prepping for pill-skill training 🧒💊❤️

31/01/2025

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25/01/2025

This morning a cyclist lost her life due to a driver opening a door without checking the mirror.

I wanted to share something my driving instructor taught me way back in the '90s. Whenever I parked parallel, he insisted I open the driver’s door with my opposite hand—the left hand when driving on the left side of the road (like here). At the time, I thought it was such a strange habit, but as I began sharing the road with cyclists, I grew to appreciate its importance.
By using your opposite hand, your body naturally rotates, encouraging you to look back. It also slows you down, preventing you from flinging the door open too quickly. This small adjustment can make all the difference—it can save a life. Sadly, that wasn’t the case this morning.
Please, let’s all take that extra moment to check. It’s such a simple habit, but it could mean everything to someone else.

PS. Due to several requests to make the post sharable on few groups, I made a little iconographic to raise awareness

10/12/2024

Let’s face it - not everyone in your circle is helping you level up. Some people are anchors, holding you down when you’re ready to set sail. And while you can try to change their ways, you’ll often end up frustrated, exhausted, and no closer to the dream team you deserve.

Here’s the hard truth: not everyone is meant to grow with you. If someone constantly drains your energy, doubts your goals, or brings negativity into your life, it’s time to reevaluate their role in your story.

Surround yourself with people who inspire, support, and challenge you to be better. Find those who cheer for your wins, pick you up when you fall, and share a vision for a brighter, bolder future. You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with—make sure they’re rock stars, not roadblocks.

Remember, your vibe attracts your tribe. Choose wisely. And if it’s not working, don’t be afraid to turn the page and start a new chapter with a new crowd. Life’s too short for mediocrity—especially in your relationships.

💡 Pro tip: Keep the ones who make you laugh and make you think. That’s a rare combo!