Hayley Van Stenis - Wellness Counsellor

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Hayley Van Stenis - Wellness Counsellor

Natural Health Practitioner, Specialist Wellness Counsellor - Illness to Wholeness to Wisdom "Come home to yourself" Languages include English & Afrikaans.

Working with adults, adolescents, couples and families, my goal is to empower people, to be able to make choices, which will ultimately improve, their over all quality of life. Looking to restore health and wellbeing, advise on coping skills, improve relationships, and teach tools to manage stress. With an eclectic training background, I work towards meeting your individual needs within the therapeutic space. I was fortunate in having the opportunity to work at an inpatient specialised care addiction treatment facilities. Where patients primarily received treatment for process and chemical addiction, including support for trauma, personality disorders, anxiety, burn out and depression. In 2017 I moved into private practice in Hermanus, offering face to face and Skype sessions.

06/02/2026

I love my job, not because it’s easy, but because I know exactly what it took to get here. My own suffering, my own recovery, they weren’t detours—they were the path. Now, I get to take that hard-won experience and turn it into helping others make sustainable change. When I say I’m here to support you, it’s because I’ve walked that road myself. And I wouldn’t trade this purpose for anything. health

02/02/2026

People pleasing, self sacrifice, putting others first. These are all coping mechanisms that leave you feeling sad, tired and even mad.
Your behaviour is coping. A means of survival, you need your behaviours - especially the ones you don’t like. They have protected you from the world and experiencing painful emotions. Behaviour needs to be understood, before it can shift. Behaviour needs to be accepted for what it is, before lasting change is possible. Your “bad” behaviour is not the problem, your lack of knowing andunderstanding yourself is.

27/01/2026

Most behaviours aren’t self-destruction.
They’re grief avoidance.

People aren’t lazy, broken, addicted, dramatic, or weak.
They are avoiding small, daily losses:

Loss of control

Loss of identity

Loss of safety

Loss of the life they thought they’d have

Loss of who they used to be

My work is helping people tolerate loss without destroying themselves. DM me if you need help.

25/01/2026

Having something that is your own, something that you look forward to, something that takes you away from all the stress and strain that you experience in a day is a very, very important part of balancing the imbalance of the lives that we lead. I love my horses. They give me such joy such a sense of freedom, such a sense of purpose. They take me to a completely different place in my mind. I almost become a different person, when I’m with them. I get to play a different role, I wear a different hat. AND it gives me a brake and feeds my soul..this makes me better at the other roles I fill in life. Therapist, wife, mother, friend…we all need to just be for “me” to do for ourselves, so that we can do better, by others…what is your thing that you do to recharge? DM me or comment below.

21/01/2026

You don’t need more motivation.
You need a different relationship with your patterns.
If you’re tired of cycling through insight → effort → relapse,
this call is for you.
The discovery call is not a sales pitch.
It’s a grounded conversation to see:
• what’s really going on
• what kind of support would actually help
• whether we’re a fit to work together
📌 Limited spaces
📌 Online
📌 DM call to apply

18/01/2026

How should I behave what will if I think about the past? This may = regret, sadness, guilt, shame, giving yourself a hard time. Thinking about the future may = worry, anxiety, uncertainty, crazy personal expectations. BUT just show up, being ok with how you are in the moment and with good intentions in your heart ❤️ ALWAYS = living your truth

16/01/2026

The idea of “showing up” is a rather cool one. To me it implies that we don’t have to be living up to crazy standards. We can stop the self persecution, or heart braking feeling of just not being good enough. Me and you, we can free ourselves of the burden of being perfect and not enough. It really alines with my philosophy of embrace your humanness, your enough! Just being ok with being you, warts and all.. what is your understanding of “showing up”? DM me I’d love to hear your thoughts or the word it brings up for you

14/01/2026

Allowing yourself to be comfortable with who and how you are is key. This does not mean that you do not notice where you can do better. It does not mean that you do not admit, when you’ve made unwise choices. What it does mean, is that you stand alongside yourself, holding your own hand so to speak. Being OK with your imperfection embracing your humanness. We are not meant to always get it right. Sometimes just being there, just “showing up”, is all we need to do.

20/12/2025

Silly season, all the excessive eating, drinking etc etc, can be a very triggering time if you are a recovering addict. Just because most people think that they don’t have choice in the way that they behave over the festive season. Does not mean that recovering addicts, need to forget that they do.
There will be hundreds of other Christmas’s….addicts only have one recovery. …..So if you are a recovering addict ….don’t be a dumb ass, like the rest of them…..be proud, be wise, be sober!!!

18/12/2025

your behaviour shapes your day.
your thoughts shape your behaviour. unhelpful expectations like …”they must, it should, we can” set you up to fail….…the only things you can control are your thoughts, beliefs, actions… just let the rest go!!!!

Address

Block B, Arundel Medical Rooms, 79 Church Steet
Hermanus
7200

Telephone

+27824924285

Website

https://hayleyvanstenis.co.za/

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