7 summits life coaching

23/07/2022

A most provoking thought

Carl Jung

08/04/2022

A great infograph. If you are interested in learning more contact me

Is procrastination affecting your life?

03/04/2022

03/02/2022

Life does not begin at some future finish line. 🏁

26/01/2022

If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit.

20/01/2022

I am always fascinated by how the memes or jokes or stories about messiness, procrastination etc go viral....we think we are the only one to not put our clothes away, wash dishes immediately, dust or whatever, when in reality we are part of a tribe. And there are tribes that put their clothes away or whatever they do, butvthey arent the only one

16/01/2022

What might you like to add to this list? 💜

10/01/2022

Although this post is directed at children, it's relevant for all of us. If we are distressed we are in fight, flight, freeze mode and can't think rationally

It's easy to jump in and try to reason with our kids when they don't handle something well or need to learn something. But we know some things about the brain here that can really help you to stay connected with your child AND help them learn better.

I talk about it using the Brain Stoplight metaphor.

First we need to Regulate. We need to connect and get out of the red light state (my language) or our survival brain.

Then we need to connect in the emotional space. "It makes sense why you reacted that way. I'm sorry. I didn't know you were having a hard time..." The point is to connect. This is the yellow light or the emotional brain. We need to speak to that next.

And then, and only then, are you and your child back to green light and can reason.

Regulate.
Relate.
Reason.

In that order.

This is how our brains work and how our children's brains work. Work with these ideas and see how it transforms your family's conflicts. Works for partners, too!

ETA: Image or information courtesy of Beacon House Therapeutic Services & Trauma Team | 2021 | www.beaconhouse.org.uk